Should your wife date married men?

There's a guy at our health club who's hitting on me. He's cute and pleasant. I could easily do it with him.

The problem is he's married.

Is it okay to date married men?

I don't want to be a home wrecker. I would hate to be responsible for breaking up a marriage, especially if there were kids involved.

Matt thinks it's safer. He's afraid single men might become emotionally attached to me and want a serious relationship, maybe even marriage. He doesn't want our own marriage destroyed.

With Brad we found the perfect situation. A single man married to his job. We were lucky. We know that's rare.

Brad agrees with Matt. He thinks married men are safer. His suggestion is only date married men that make the first overture. If their marriage has trouble, it's not my fault, that marriage is already in trouble.

He knows me and knows I won't date a guy until we have become well acquainted. He thinks I should have ample opportunity to find out about the existence of kids.

We all agree that having kids automatically excludes a guy from consideration.

I would love to hear your opinions.

Jenn
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Jennifer,

Thanks for telling your story in your other post.

My wife has been with many men over the course of our marriage, but she and I prefer her to see married men. We both feel there is less chance of them getting involved and they are able to be comfortable with the no strings aspect of dating my wife.

Although you may be thinking of disclosing Matt's cuck status to your lovers, my wife prefers to tell them she is a cheating wife. She likes the illicit nature of her "affairs" and although I do help her get dressed for her dates and clean up when she gets home, I don't participate. This type of relationship has worked great for us and we are as much in love today as the day we married.

Congratulations on joining the lifestyle!

If he has no kids he's fair game. You didn't make a vow to his wife.

And the risk of married men becoming attached is almost the same as single guys. When my lady has played around she's had both try to become attached - and also had both be happy to be distant.

It's the dude, not the ring on his finger that makes the difference.

First, let us see we really enjoyed the story of your adventures. Bravo

I suppose by posting here, you already know the answer you want to hear..ie: "go ahead and play with him"

Our take is a little different. We try to live by the Golden Rule. We don't want our play to come at the price of hurting an innocent party..and cheating, even when they don't get caught, is hurtful to that other permisters relationship....diminishing them with each lie and half-truth. For us, play with married people only happens when the spouse is in the loop.

I guess its a question of whether we believe we are "our brother's keeper"....whatever side of that equation you come down on, is probably where you will settle on this score.

I only fuck married men. It's just my thing but I like the idea of fucking someones husband. Currently seeing a hi class lawyer that wines and dines me, he says his wife wont dress up and play like I do.

Out on the town

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Do I detect a bit of biggotry here? It is all about sex, not morals. If it was about morals, the question would not have come up at all. So, have sex for sex's sake and avoid any emotional mush.

chrissy,

did anyone ever tell you that you were a total slut?

p.s. i love you.

My wife has cucked me with both single guys and married men. There are advantages and disadvantages to both types of guys.

In the beginning, my wife preferred to stay away from married guys for many of the same reamisters as other posters have noted. However, cheating and/or having youngren are not among them. We would prefer the guy to be honest and admit he is married rather than find out he is a lier. If he lies about being married, what else is he being dishonest about?

An "Al Bundy" type of guy (married with youngren) is less likely to be bi-sexual, therefore the risk of STDs is reduced. Being married generally means experience; having bred his own bitch also means his "equipment" at least meets minimum "functionality". For the cuckold looking to have his wife knocked-up by another guy, a married bull is less likely to make a legal stink about his "parental rights."

Most married guys who have rooted with my wife have been gentlemen, have been generally interested in giving her orgasms and fuck my wife for the sheer excitement of screwing another man's wife and/or because his own wife has lost interest in having sex with him.

Having my wife fall in love with a married bull has never been a concern. All true alpha-males, married or not, enjoy fucking a married woman; so long as she is married to someone else.
A man has not lived until he watches another man fuck his wife!

All true alpha-males, married or not, enjoy fucking a married woman; so long as she is married to someone else.

Perfect observation.

Ms Lynne and hub's post is very sensible to me.

Your well written adventure portrays a "storybook" plot with credible characters and scenarios.

Some important assets of the story include: Constant communication and feedback among the characters, total agreement as to how the scene unfolds, a remote location amid strangers and - most importantly - intimacy. Everybody is getting their individual pleasure harmoniously with the others'. There are many more good points to the story.

Reamisters dating the married man at the gym sucks. You are cuckolds brownieting in your own back yard. Everyone at the gym will soon know your secret. What sort of exit strategy can you have if the guy turns unpleasant? How is "Matt" going to share in the intimacy if you are on a date? How will you deal with the wife when she gets a whiff of strange pussy on hubby's crotch ( she is local, remember)? Ever heard of Murphy's Law? Occasionally, things can be too good to be true. I suggest wisdom be considered. They don't hand out Masters degrees to idiots.

Maybe more later. Thanks for the excellent story!
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Select someone "not too close" is pretty sage advice. Leave the close ones for fantasy. Much more control that way.

married men only as they have as much to lose as we do if this cuckolds brownie gets out! Its still not the norm.

Single guys, although can play ANYTIME (which has its benefits big time) can be clingy and can "fall" for the wife (read:me). Thats all we need.

So married guys tend now to be the piece of meat de jour!

My two cents.

V
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samvicki

Polled the hot wives I know, and got pretty much the same response from all....they pref married... all of them.

reamisters given, positives:

Safer

more dependable

less likely to get hung up with the hot wife, fall in love

more experienced lovers

financially secure

thoughtful

more creative

loyal (now that's funny)

Negatives:

Tend to be out of shape

don't dress as well

hesitate to do things in public


not as energetic


not as wild


pay less attention to the cuck

older

spend laees time with the cuck couple.

My wife went with a much younger single guy, but she would have still have fucked him if he had had a girlfriend or been married with kids.
Peter C

We prefer married guys...safer and it's an extra buzz for her...

Tony

Hi Tony
Saw your post and thought I'd say hello as I'm in London too

Let me know if you're looking for friends at all or would like to chat

Hope you're both well

Good Luck

Steven - [email protected]

We're not in London...she has two regulars at present so not looking but thanks for the offer....

Tony

"If their marriage has trouble, it's not my fault, that marriage is already in trouble." I like this, Jen...nothing wrong with you, but this "not my fault" is soooo typical when it comes to sex !

A very good example of this way of thinking is my ex-wife :

- I would never ever date a married guy !
- Well, what about X ? He is married, and you had sex with him...
- It's not the same...his marriage is in trouble, it's like he's not married anymore...
- How can you be so sure ?
- Well, if X had sex with me, it can only mean that his marriage is in trouble !
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I prefer that the women i fuck are married and my wife tends to prefer married men as well.

here is a poll on this tipic, if you're interested

https://www.cuckoldplace.com/8_42841_0.html#msg345749

interesting subject.........
my wife, whom i love dearly, has experience of married and single bulls and studs..........i/ we think that the more stablelovers have been the married variety.....shell has a long term married lover, a professional man who's family are grown and independant....they both have a deep love for each other and this has helped our own marriage/relationship.
she has also taken on a single younger lover recently and is currently taking intense fucking on a daily basis, her bull is very considerate and is aware of my interest in his services.......
so i think it depends on finding that special permister...that bull who is able to get to know you and bring quality to your relationship or to the cuckold lifestyle.....

For me I have always perfered married pussy over single. My wife is just the opposite, she prefers single guys. Either way affairs are fun and exciting and should be experienced by all.

We have pretty much learned through trial and error that a married guy will cheat on his wife most likely only to get his rocks off because he's not getting enough pussy (if any) at home. If he has stayed with his wife it may be because they have youngren and he wants to keep his family together as a unit. This makes him more stable and less likely to want to destroy his marriage, particularly over a woman who is already married to a consenting husband who lets her play around. Less chances of emotional involvement this way, which brings the married man to the top of our choices when finding bulls for my wife to fuck.

Look at how varied our interests, tastes and "kinks" are.
BrianD43

For me its neither I just go bye if I am attracted to the man.I dont want to break up a marriage but I dont hold a gun to his head.Its solely about attraction..If he gets me wet lets do it and do it now..Now if I find out his wife is in a delicate place mentally or phisically I will stop it.

For my wife it is just casual sex with no strings attached. I have always told her to fuck who ever she wants, when ever she wants. She once had a semi steady married guy that she was seeing who dropped the big L-bomb on her after awhile, and she dropped him like a lead balloon. She liked him well enough and the sex was good, but she made it clear to him from the start that she wasn't looking for a long term fall in love relationship. She already had that with me.
hawk63

Dont know about anyone else but whenever I dated a married man it didnt work out well..I guess I get to attached or they do..I mean I do it but damn it hurts at times.

If a guy hits on her and she likes him she'll give him what he wants. Whether or not he's married doesn't come into it.