Feminization - how far?

Looking for input here...

I imagine lots of guys into the cuckolding thing have really strong feminine sides and all that goes with that. Hubby and I have been in a cuckold lifestyle for a few years now, mostly at his instigation, and I guess I'm just now getting my head around his issues in this department. I'm curious to hear what others do.

I was out late one night with my bf...I often relax over his place, but he had to travel the next morning and so I came home around 3 AM. Much to my surprise, my hubby was sound arelax on the sofa in a bra and panties. Somehow I wasn't all that surprised (he's always been the feminine type), but it was still a shock...I share every little detail of my life with him - including every intimate little detail the relationship I have with my bf - but he kept such a big thing secret from me.

Anyway, that was months ago, and I guess I've gotten over the initial shock and feeling of betrayal. I suppose I've also realized that it's part of who he is, and it's just another dimension to the wonderful, kind, considerate man who values me so much, he surrenders me to another man for my pleasure.

So little by little I've been trying to accept and bring his feminine side out in the open. We talk about it a lot and he's gotten much more relaxed about it. I feel like I'm married to my sister sometimes, but I guess I always did feel that way - it's just more out in the open these days. I guess if I'm being totally honest, it also helps me feel a little less guilty about the relationship I have with my bf because I see that some of hubby's more complicated needs are being filled too.

Here's the question.

Now that it's out in the open, I'm wondering where the whole thing will end up and whether I should just stand back and let it happen, or try to put some rules around it. It might just be because I'm watching for it, but he seems to be changing right in front of my eyes, becoming more and more feminine with time. He's lost a lot of weight, grown out his hair, shaves his body, has more girlish mannerisms...and of course, cross dresses openly. I'm torn between feeling happy for him that he's feeling free and comfortable to be what he wants, but at the same time, I'm getting a little nervous about where it will end up.

So how do the other wives and cucks out there handle this sort of thing?

ValGal
Yours is not as unique a situation as you may believe. My hubby also had these desires and I nurtured them and made him my pussy slave. He is submissive to me and a few select girl friends who appreciate his talents.

Suffice it to say, if you want, you can have a husband and girl friend and sexual slave in one permister. My hubby is all that and i love him for it.

I let him explore his female side and he gets a thrill out of serving me and my fiends.

If you want to chat more just drope a line. Always willing to help another woman find the right place for herself and her man.

ValGal
Yours is not as unique a situation as you may believe. My hubby also had these desires and I nurtured them and made him my pussy slave. He is submissive to me and a few select girl friends who appreciate his talents.

Suffice it to say, if you want, you can have a husband and girl friend and sexual slave in one permister. My hubby is all that and i love him for it.

I let him explore his female side and he gets a thrill out of serving me and my fiends.

If you want to chat more just drope a line. Always willing to help another woman find the right place for herself and her man.

Jeanne and girlfriend Jess
Thanks for sharing your experiences...sounds like you guys have been through a lot.

I've tried to learn as much as I can about hubby's gender issues...I guess one of the central issues to me is how *he* thinks about himself. To me, there's a big difference between a guy with a fetish for lingerie, and the proverbial "woman trapped in a man's body". I'm not sure hubby knows (or would admit it, even if he does know) where he is across this spectrum. It seems more than just a sexual thing - he just seems more comfortable in his own skin whenever he's in the female role.

Anyway, I suppose like you, I do get a perverse kick out of it...sort of like being in on a secret that hardly anyone knows. And of course, I've learned to enjoy the freedom that comes with the cuckolding thing. It really does feel like the best of all worlds in some ways. Only thing I find unsettling is not knowing where he's going to be in a few years, which makes the whole marriage feel rather tentitive to me.

Thanks again for your input!

ValGal
How are things going Val? Just wondering?I have decided to let my sissy purchase a new wig after the holidays, maybe for our anniversary. I think it is time to allow her to be the sissy she is. Now I want her to have a man for herself. As I know this is really who Jess is and wants to be. I have my BF's and it does something wonderful for our relationship we are like best girlfriends and there is nothing we can't share between us everything is out in the open with no secret desires at all. I want her to be as happy as I am It just means more sex for my BF's and less sex for Jess ( I am not into making love to her dressed with wig and make up and she accepts and respects that) But it makes her very happy to serve my lovers and I in a submissive femme role and I am very happy too. It would be nice to hear how things are coming along for you ... Jeanne
I have finally decided to take control (total) and have sissy in panties daily lock sissy in her CB 6000s for good. No more feeling sorry after a few weeks and no more giving into her pleas for mercy! Welcome the NEW MISTRESS!