Cuckold Truths

This is the best site available for the topic of cuckolding. Great forums and discussions make this place what it is. Often times I get bored with the content of fantasy and that everything about cuckolding is normal and great.

I'm fascinated to learn and hear about the bad affects of cuckolding. I wanna hear your tales on topics like Divorce, STDs, unwanted pregnancy, abortion, abusive relationships with bulls, etc. I'm tired of all the same cuckolds brownie. I wanna hear the truth about negative consequences so people like myself and others who are on the fringe of getting into the lifestlye or have fantasies can actually weigh the cons of getting into this.

Please share some of your negative experiences.
Ronald Curry

anything?
Ronald Curry

Bulls who lie what say they are single but end up being married
Droopy and Miss

Ronald,
It will take time and patience for you to get any real response to your request.
I can tell you from my own experiences that my hubby has a much larger rollercoaster ride about this lifestyle than I do. But then that is probably because at the heart of who I am ~ I am a polygomy kinda permister ~ I believe that the more people that you have in your life that you Love and care for the more Love and care you receive back. It's easy for me to develop relationships with people, even if its just short term. He goes back and forth between loving and sometimes loathing me because of my "mind set".
We have been close to completely falling apart at the seams but at the heart of the matter, I love him deeply, passionately. He and I have a connection unlike any other that I have with other people. That connection is what gives us a place to restart from. But he also knows that I cannot change who I am at the heart of the matter.

As to std's well that is what condoms and testing regularly every 3 months initially into a new relationship is all about! As much as I"d love to get fucked bare the first time out I value my own health to much to take that chance. (actually did have an issue several years ago with a fellow ~ he ended up coming up positive for an STD he let me know and I got tested, never got a positive but still requested treatment since I'd been exposed. Luckily Dr was agreeable and even said they'd of recommended treatment anyway since I'd had a known exposure. Even though hubby's exposure was almost nil had him treated. He was able to "feed" on that little twist for over a year lol.
So there are risks but you use common sense. If possible develop relationships with a couple of folks and be sensible.
Life is worth living and should not be wasted hiding in corners watching it go by, wishing and dreaming about what if's and should have's
I am a truly blessed Lady who is still learning and enjoying myself immensely at my hubby's expense. :) I love a cuckolded husband.

Ronald Curry

My experiences with women make me believe that less than 1% of men realize that wifey is being serviced elsewhere. Don't matter if hubby is OK with it or not. Ladies tend to be intelligent and realize that the less others know about their permisteral matters - the better! Perfect description of a fool is a man who thinks HIS wife would never be unfaithful to HIM!

Prostate surgery and treatments, diabetes, red pressure medications, heart attacks and many other maladies can render a man impotent. Sometimes for life. Couples deal with these issues in various ways. It is possible that some wifes may seek sexual fulfillment elsewhere; with or without hubbys knowledge or consent.

One important "cuckold truth" is that there are many more men serving life sentences for *******ing unfaithful wifes and their lovers than the 90+ thousand members of CuckoldPlace!

Unwanted pregnancies: The only thing worse than an unwanted pregnancy is a woman trying to drag you into an unwanted relationship by refusing to deal with the unwanted pregnancy. Best advice: No sexual intercourse with a woman under 48 years old! (Very serious advice!)

STDs: Serious issue! Can happen to anyone. Sometimes women may overindulge take and/or haves and become careless with unprotected sex with one or more individuals at a party. One dissolute, skank wife at a sex scene can spread a whole lot more than hot pussy! Bring a case of Genital Warts home for wifey someday and let us know how that works out for family relations! Same basic mentality as the permister who takes chances with unwanted pregnancies.
..............PSEUDO PERSON...YMMV!

I guess the main downside once you venture into cuckolding FOR REAL and not just as a wank fantasy is the very real realization that you " cannot take it back".
Once your wife has been " unfaithful to you" and probably really enjoyed the attention, freedom and excitement, you must learn to " live with it" and accept it. NOTHING can ever bring it back to " how it was".
You WILL get jealous and insecure at some point, and probably have your feelings hurt for real.

If you cannot handle these things ( these emotions are a normal part of cuckolding for many people ) then you should NOT start a cuckolding realationship. Starting a cuckold relationship is a recipie for problems and divorce if you are not both prepeared for the roller coaster emotions that it will bring.
My own permisteral recomendation is that you should have a very honest, loving relationship with your partner and be " very much in love". Then of course it helps if you both enjoy a femdom kind of relationship too ;)


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I'm not clear from the question whether what you are looking for is downsides or crash-and-burn stories.

The biggest downside I've seen is the complications that come from having someone else in the marriage, as it were. My wife's outside lovers can have a big impact on her mood and outlook and, contrary to fantasy, it isn't always positive. Mostly it is, of course, but they can also hurt her (emotionally, we've never had a physical issue, though it is always something you need to worry about) or make her feel bad about herself and then I, as cuckolded husband, have to do the soothing and the cleaning-up. This can be a drag. I love to see my wife happy and to make her happy and when someone else makes her unhappy, that is frustrating - particularly because, in the situation, you are powerless to really prevent it.

These "third wheel" issues can get worse if the outside relationship gets more serious - complicating scheduling and planning. We've had situations where we had to cancel plans for the wife and I - like weekend visits to friends homes or dinner and a movie - because her boyfriend was sick and she wanted to be there for him or the like. (The reverse is also true: you make plans expecting to be "on your own" only to have him cancel and suddenly the wife insists you attend and amuse her instead of what you had planned to do.)

It also gets worse if the other guy starts to be a jerk. We've had a couple of guys who started to get possessive or jealous and my wife had to dump them. All that work finding and meeting them and you're back to square one!

There are also some health issues. We've never had an STD issue, but you need to be careful. It is embarrassing for my wife when she has to share with her doctors or other health providers that she is not monogamous.

In fact, since we are fairly out about it, we often have to suffer prejudice and disapproval from people. In real life you are not interested in being "on," all the time and you'ld rather some people (clerks, waitstaff, old classmates, etc.) just minded their own business that day because you don't feel like dealing with their crap. For us, the coming out also had its own parcel of negatives, but they were specific to the issues of being open with family, etc. so I won't belabor them here.
Pantalone, Wittol, oblate, abnegator, fellator, pathic, irrumatiophile,fop, epicene, cotquean, skivvy, thrall, and pilgarlic.

It has happened in my case but hasve seen it sooner or later the cuck gets tired up, I think no matter how much he likes it a divorce is looming. 3 of my girl friends ended that way..Maybe mine didnt because when my b/f isnt here its fairly normal.Hubby doesnt have intercoarse,(thats a waste of time) but we kiss and play around..

Thank you Linda38DD. I wonder if I could coax you into sharing more your feelings around this point. What I mean is: given that you feel this is the case - that divorce is always looming - what impact does that have on you as a cuckold's spouse? Does it turn you on? Does it make you sorry? Is it a goad or a brake on your willingness to take on, or deepen relations with, lovers? Does it impact your selection of lovers - what kind of men you are looking for? Is it something that you and your husband discuss (or have discussed) explicitly or is it something unspoken?

I'd be very grateful for anything you would be willing to share in this regard.
Pantalone, Wittol, oblate, abnegator, fellator, pathic, irrumatiophile,fop, epicene, cotquean, skivvy, thrall, and pilgarlic.

I would also love to hear more insight from Linda38DD or other wives regarding divorce and long term effects.

My wife and I have explored this lifestyle for the last year or so and are on the verge of making it happen. What Linda speaks of strikes right to the heart of some of my bigger concerns. Any wives who would elaborate - good experiences or bad - would be greatly appreciated!

Thanks,
kwazzee

Sometimes husbands get too over zealous about the scene. Wife might lose sexual respect for hubby. Her dignity no longer allows hubby access to her sex. She gets bored. She decides to check out her options. Eventually, she finds a situation more suitable for her desires. Hubby often gets the heave-ho whether wifey has a lover or not.

You wear both the pants and the panties (often on hubby) in your household. You are a very dominant, big breasted beauty -firmly in the driver's seat- married to a loving, small dicked, very submissive and permissive cuckold. I doubt that your 3 divorced friends together had what you have. Your marital relationship scenario is one that many or most members of this site dream about. Even in solid cuckold marriages a wife can fatigue of it and kick the entire scene to the curb.

Much enjoy your hot pictures! Thanks for posting them!
..............PSEUDO PERSON...YMMV!

i've been married, cucked and divorced twice. first divorced was not connected with the cuckolding, at least i don't believe it was. second wife on the other hand was directly connected to cuckolding. she developed an ongoing relationship with a man while i was in the army and stationed a thousand miles from home. i enjoyed her retelling of events the next day on the phone while i jacked off, but got worried when she started going on dates with him. real dates, you know, dinner, movies, sporting events, not just going to his place to fuck. so when i was to come home on leave one time we set it up for me to watch them fuck when i got home. i stopped by to see my mom on the way and she called me before i left for home. her opening remark, "we need to talk", told me all i needed to know and she filed the divorce papers less than a week later and she married him 2 days after the divorce was final.

Being a cuck highlights all of the aspects of your relationship. Good & not so good. Essentially it should be about sharing with ideally care & love even though at times these things are lost in playing out respective roles.
For whatever reamister cuckolding touches a nerve in many, many,people. If you can share then come together to be united again its very special.

The biggest drag for me has been all the wannabe cucks that chicken out at the last moment.

Fantasy is always better than the reality. That's my experience.

Not all negative, but things I've found:

* Black men are all the same size as all the other men (including Asian men).
* Pounding a woman doesn't mean she's getting pleasure, always.
* Women want to be cucked, but won't talk about it / think about it as often.
* Size doesn't matter as much as perception.
* You never know how you're really going to feel until you do it.
* Even the most dominant one of us has a sub side, even if it's very faint.
* A passionate listening lover is tops.

So many more truths beyond this.

I want to riff on this a bit. I really appreciate oldcuck's qualification because it really is hard to distinguish what is or isn't related to cuckolding once you engage in the lifestyle. People try to keep it all neatly segmented and compartmentalized, but both the fact of it and the actions you take as a couple around it change your relationship and how you view each other inevitably and indelibly. They don't always change them for the worse (or the better) but they change them. You see aspects of each other that might never have surfaced if these fantasies were repressed and never spoken. That is a cuckold truth.

(Obviously, they also change the perceptions of, and your relations with, others who come to know about this side of you and your marriage.)

So while someone in oldcuck's position may have a divorce that is not directly related to their cuckolding activities, the fact that theirs was a cuckolding marriage and he a cuckold certainly changed how she saw him, them, and herself in profound ways and you can never know if the divorce would have happened absent this. And that is just something you need to accept and live with to be who you are.


I might be getting this wrong, but I think demonic1000 means that women want to cuck you, not be cucked - but that they may not talk or think about it as often. I really want to second this thought from my own life. My wife very much enjoys cucking me. But I am the one with the fetish and with the much larger sex drive. So I am the one who thinks about it, and reflects on it, and obsesses over it, and brings it up as a topic of conversation, more frequently. It makes sense, really: To her, they are guys she dates and she likes sex with them, whereas to me they and the whole scene is a fetish. But that doesn't mean she doesn't like doing it or would want to stop. It just isn't as central to her as it is to me.
Pantalone, Wittol, oblate, abnegator, fellator, pathic, irrumatiophile,fop, epicene, cotquean, skivvy, thrall, and pilgarlic.

I kind of agree with most of demonics ideas, Really big dicks are very uncomfortable, I think a man with a very thick average one would be great,thick is the key word..I like confident self assured men..Thats really sexy..

well said @Linda i learned recently that thickness is most imprtant. A long thin penis isnt not so nice, but an average thick cock is.
femmed hubby by wife who is interested in cuckolding (she likes the idea)

Talk about THICK...OMG! Check this out! I would LOVE to see that thing disappearing between my wife's legs!

Ronald
I think all these issues are relevant if one wants to have a "gangbanging, bare backing, sucking every cock in town, being a total whore for a black man and all his friends, being a submissive whore for any man that want to put their dicks in her" kind of cuckold relationship

But even though it could appear on this site that this is the normal thing...guess what...it's not the real life cuckolding...cuckolding is about a wife/gf who enjoys good sex with one or more lovers...often friends of her or the hubby...a flirt on a holiday...and they both enjoy it...if they are not sure about the man...they use condoms...real pleasure for sensible , grown-up people...

And even more common...the wife has a lover...and the husband doesn't know (also cuckolding...believe it or not)

So...then all your worries should be gone...apart from two...jealousy and divorce...

Jealousy first...cuckolding is not a sport for jealous men..!! BUT...jealousy is also a part of the thrill...mixed with the excitement of knowing that your wife is getting it...a great feeling...ever heard about Cucky Angst..?

Divorce..? I guess there is a risk that the wife may fall in love...so sure...but on the other hand...when entering a cuckold situation....a couple should talk about this...and if not sure...forget the whole thing...Cuckolding is for couples that are very close...who have total trust in each other....who is open about everything...also feelings...for each other and for the third permister...In my opinion...divorce rate is already high...and I am not sure that the cuckolding itself is the final spark...a divorce is a complicated matter...cuckolding may be the excuse...but if a divorce comes...it would probably come anyway...

As both my wives say (my ex hot wife and my current soon ready to be hot wife).....cuckolding isn't for sissy men...a man that can enjoy his woman having sex with other men is (on the contrary) a very strong man...he has to be...and a very loving man (since he put his wife's pleasure so high)...compersion is a key word here...

If you are sure that you will react in a good way...go for it...if not...keep on fantasizing...
A cuck to my GF - A bull to all other women

Good answer!
..............PSEUDO PERSON...YMMV!

Although my wife has not cuckolded me yet, I feel it will happen eventually. Without a doubt, only people in a marriage with a very strong foundation can do this, and it is also very important that both partners are very secure with themselves. This is just a game, but if couples who are not strong try playing this game, thinking it will improve their relationship, the effect it will have will be just like trying to put out a kitchen grease fire with a canister of gas.

I tell Billy I love him a lot ( but when B/F is here),if your a cuck your in for a bit of offense,character assignation,that type of thing ,I have to watch my self that way. The thing I worry about is disease.I insist he use a condom till I am sure.How can I be sure? Its tricky..One time i got a social disease so now I insist on condoms .Carry them if I date.

Great idea Linda. That body of yours deserves protection from all bugs!
Win some...
Lose some...
Few are rained out

A few more realities and truths of cuckolding...

* Cuckolding emasculates any husband. Another man is fucking your wife. Compersion is fucking you.
* A number of cucks engage in puerile behavior like excessive masturbation or cuck obscessions. Is any wife
proud of such a husband ?
* Cuckold is king of his castle. His wife's lover is King of Her Cunt. Hubby will s1eep on the couch. Meanwhile,
her lover fucks and s1eeps with his wife in his bed.
* A number of cuckolds harbor much fantasies and obsess excessively about other men's penises. How is a wife supposed to react?
* Some cuckolds expect their wives to share her extramarital sex experiences with them. Live and learn. I
guess.
* There are cuckolds that actually think they can "script" the tryst of his wife and her lover. And then believe
that they will really follow his rules.
* Too many cuckolds just refuse to understand the thoughts and feelings of women. A "no-win-scenario" if there ever was one!

Probably the best advice I can give is to take out another man's wife. Or two. Figure that is possibly a pretty good way to gauge how your wife might act in a tryst. Some people might be very surprised at the reality of this scene.
..............PSEUDO PERSON...YMMV!