What draws bulls to Cuckolding?

Let me begin by saying that my boyfriend and I share this user name and both of us are generally lurkers and don't post on here too often. So, go on easy on me (us) with this first attempt to initiate a thread.

My cuck boy and I have been active in the cuckolding world for about a year and we're adjusting quite well-thanks for asking. The other day, my 4-inch guy (when hard) posted a message on a thread and in his comments, he indicated that I'm a sucker for a big cock. All true of course. In the past year, I've found some real men who can satisfy me in a way that my sissy never could. That being said, I've never hooked up with anyone who identifies himself as a bull or anyone who I met through this site. I've always chosen men who I knew casually or if it was a pick-up scenario, men who showed an interest in me sexually. Which leads me to my question: Real men with sizable cocks worth fucking (that leaves you cucks out) probably have the opportunity to meet, flirt and follow through with their advances on a regular basis with slutty hotwives like me or women in general. What, then, draws bulls to the world of cuckolding and specifically, what draws real men to this site? I'm curious and thought that I'd throw this question out there. Looking forward to getting some feedback from the large and in charge pleasure-givers out there. Thank you in advance.
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Hi East Coast...

Thanks for intitiating this threat...

I my opinion, some of your ideas are very stereotyp...sorry to say

There are som many "levels of cucking" (for real or in fantasy) on the internet, also here

My point of view
First of all...definition of a cuck has nothing to do with cock size!! Me myself is an ex-cuck (for my ex-wife) and a wannbe (for my current - she is on the move). Cucking in my opinion is a physological thiing, not a physical...

Other have different opinions...

Being a BULL is all about sex. Sex is all about (appart formt the physical pleasure and elements of relaxation and de-stressing, of course) about power. It's a power game...

I believe (and have experience with) that a BULL will not only be a bull for a married couple....if he gas this in him, he will fuck close to anybody...

Me myself has been a BULL for:

1) much younger women
2) married woman (with husbands knowledge/participation or not)
3) older single women
4) women my own age just looking for fun and relaxation
5) several girl frends at the same time (that's a thrill, I tell you. Being shared by a smaller group of girls...just calling their one fuckbuddy when horney, alone or together....just great....being the guy they talk about when they are takeing....wnating to call me...bragging among themself about how has done the most, and dirtiest thing Frank...)
6) ohter settings...

I guess BULLs are just men that LOVE sex....for me, casual sex with "anybody" (femails) is just great...but still: I have this urge that the women I stay with/love...should have lovers too....(according to most herein: it's not possible to be a cuck and a bull at the same time...sorry folks:I have proved you all wrong)


So, I guess my answer is...they just need more sex????

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A cuck to my GF - A bull to all other women

I don't fuck in front of cucks, but I get a kick out of knowing that I can have that wife whenever and she prefers me. What she does after she leaves me and returns to her husband who she loves is between them. If they both get a kick out of licking her out offense etc..... Purely between them. There is no love between my and the women, it is just sex and a huge kick out of being "better" (excuse the language, the best i could put in there, just mean being prefered) than the hubby.

I came on this site because married women are so much better to fuck than single women, they are generally more adventurous and sexually experienced. I also enjoy some of the caps on here.... But from a bull perspective...... Imagine from a bulls side. I try to imagine from a cuck side and I guess the offense works for some..... I do struggle to see how you can give up a wife you love to someone like me who doesn't love her.... And cucks seem not to prefer that to actually pleasuring a women. I do try to understand though. I guess I feel like I like affairs with married women and I know some like to humiliate their hubby. I don't get much from the offense of cucks though..... Not sure if that even makes sense!!

latent homosexual desires

Well, I'm glad that several of you chimed in and I thank you for taking the time to respond. Each one of you gave me valid points that I don't think I've considered before. Here are some thoughts on your respective points:

In terms of the "latent homosexual desires" that badcrc brought up, I'll have to give that notion more time to marinate in my head because I've read about cucks wanting to suck other guys cocks and I guess you could make the argument that that is about "latent homosexual desires", although my take on that is that cucks hold real men in such high esteem for being everything that they're not, that a natural extension of that feeling might be a desire for their cock. My cuck seems to revere real men and he gets as excited as I do when I come across one, but he's been direct in stating that he doesn't have sexual urges towards these men himself. He gets off in what they do to me and for me. As to whether a bull has sexual urges towards men, I'm sure that this varies (just as it does amongst cucks). I see bulls as hyper-masculine and as such, maybe they value masculinity so much that they are attracted to other men. Who knows? I'd say there's no cookie cutter answer to how a bull or a cuck feels, which brings me to bovril and norwegian's comments.

Both of you seem to get off on the power element of being a bull and the fact that fucking is about nothing more than just that-a sincere desire for pleasure. I get that and I like it. It reflects how I feel about being a hotwife and taking on other lovers outside of my relationship. I am emotionally satisfied by my cuck. We share similar interests, have a permisteral connection and he holds a place in my heart that no other guy could take. But, I have a voracity for sex that he doesn't have and further, his dick would never be enough for me. He knows that, I know that and I make sure that the bulls I encounter know that too so they try to make up for it when we go home together. I am there for one thing only and as a woman, it's quite freeing for me to make sex just about sex without having to consider, "Would I want this guy to take me to dinner?".

Hope this makes sense and again, love hearing your perspectives. Keep the comments coming.
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Hey east coast.

I totally get where you are coming from..... Emotional love and support from your cuck..... Physical and good sex from your lover.

It is the reamister I come to this site and excellent intellectual conversations like the one you have started make you look at yourself and understand the lifestyle and psychology of it all. Enjoying your thread.

I've had ongoing affairs with married women, but have never been lucky enough to satisfy my urge to ravish a man's wife while he watches. For me, knowing that he's eating his heart out with jealousy, knowing that I'm doing things to her that he can't is a HUGE turn-on. And I'm not talking about cock size, although that's potentially part of it.

For example, I truly love to eat pussy. It's one of my favorite things about sex. So whenever I go down on my married girlfriend, I fantasize that her husband, who hates the taste of her amazing vagina, is there to hear and see the amazing orgasms I can give her with my mouth and tongue. And then, having him see the way my oral enthusiasm makes her crave my (admittedly larger) cock would fill my heart with a malicious thrill.

Another example: I'm no Olympic athlete but I exercise at least every other day and have remained thin and fit into my early 50's. So whenever I see a reamisterably attractive woman with a chubby, bald and badly aging husband I can't help fantasizing about him watching me engaging in an afternoon of strenuous fucking with his pretty wife that would surely give him a heart attack even assuming he can still get it up without pills.

So for me, even though I'm mild mannered and polite in every day life, I'm just dying to find some submissive guy who gets off on the jealousy of watching a man take his wife to places he can only imagine. And, again, it's not cock size or overt offense - simply the fact that I possess some attribute he lacks, whatever that may be.

Sybil279
We should chat and become friends!

I enjoy good sex and friendly relationships and without having to deal with most of the negative aspects of being in a relationship, the cuckold bears that burden. When the scene calls for it, I enjoy power and dominating.
creampie chef

some one who knows what he likes and that is interesting to me I would like to talk to you too

Very interesting read from several angles. Wannabe cuck her who for some strange reamister gets off fantasizing about women spreading legs for other guys. Someone mentions homo tendencies.. I feel like I don't have a gay bone in my body. No desire to touch a guy or have any kind of physical contact. Yet I get off if a guy slid his bare manhood into my wife and emptied his salty mess inside her wet pussy. Culminated with me burying a face in her mess. Its about her the guy is just a faceless nobody, just a toy for my wife.

But also I've had an opportunity to be on the other side as a younger man. The summer following my freshman year in college I started hooking up with a girl who was in a serious relationship. There was an attraction there and she was a hot fuck. For me as a "bull" it was just sex. Not sure if they were into all this hotwife stuff but that barely came to mind. I didn't care to win this girl over because she was falling in love and that's what eventually *******ed it. There's a woman I work with who is married and who allegadly fucked another guy at work and wrd had spread. I would get in with her. It would be just sex. Even though I am a wannabe cuck, that's not all I am. I'm still a man and if the right opportunity came across I will take that pussy, married, single, or both.
Ronald Curry

My first was with a woman who had a husband with diabetes and couldn't get it up. It progressed from secret hookups to putting on a show for him. He wasn't a pussy just had an ailment. It was enough to get me hooked.

My next was with a couple with a full fledged sissy. We fucked and he cleaned up in his sissy outfit. She was full on dommewife and it was vey fun. Still see them on occasion when they visit.

My next was another domme. This one liked to pick up less manly men then give them the option of leaving or watching me fuck her after she rejected them. The funnest one to be with yet.

I progressedd over time. What I like and what attracts me is having the woman others can't satisfy and showing them how I can satisfy them.

Yeah, that's what I get off on. And I don't mean that no other guy could satisfy her, just that her husband can't even come close to satisfying her the way I can. I'm a little older - 50 - and I'm blessed with a genuine attraction to BBW's. I say blessed, because most BBW's are married to overweight guys. A chunky 35 year old man can still hold his own in bed, but an obese 50 year old who can't even do 5 pushups is pretty useless in bed. So a lot of these wives haven't had good sex in 15 years or longer.

And add to that the fact that all the flab literally shrinks your dick and a guy like me who works hard to stay in shape and has a decent sized dick looks like a porn star by comparimister. And there's nothing more thrilling than hooking up with a woman who hasn't been with anybody but chunky hubby for many years. At first I thought it was odd that women seemed to be so thrilled by missionary but then I realized that it probably sucks having 250 pounds of flab laying on top of you, and add to that the fact that he literally can't penetrate her if she's a little heavy, too. That doesn't sound very sexy, but having a BBW wife cum underneath me for the third or fourth or fifth time is indeed pretty fucking hot.

And it's kind of unfair since a heavy older woman can still be pretty amazing in bed since since women don't have to worry about getting an erection or really doing anything too strenuous. Guys need to be reamisterably fit to be good in bed, imo.

I should also note that ladies married to cucks are really, really lucky. I know wives with utterly dysfunctional husbands who arrogantly think that since they can't have sex, tough luck for the Mrs. Luckily, some of these women are bold enough to seek a secret (well deserved) lover on their own.

Like some of the other posters on here, I do not fit the stereotypical small dicked wimp cuckold. I have always worked out at the gym and even now in my 50's, I still have a firm muscular body. In the trouser department, I have a reamisterably thick 7"er, which, whilst not huge is definitely on the right side of average. I also think it is possible to be both a bull and a cuck. When I met my wife she was on the point of getting engaged to her then boyfriend. During the first few years of our marriage, I fucked around with several girls at work, including a couple of married women. Once I even fucked my best friends wife, although he never knew. Gave me a real thrill every time I saw her after that. She would just give me a wry little smile, acknowledging our shared secret. So from a bull's point of view, then its all about getting as much sex as possible. But fucking another man's wife adds to the excitement. Getting something that you shouldn't is a thrill. But my bull days eventually faded. After the kids were born, life settled down and I stopped fucking around. Now I really desire to see my darling wife been taken by another man. I wouldn't be jealous, but rather, I would be proud of my wife and her sexuality. I want to share her with another guy, watch him pleasure her, and give me a cheeky grin as he does it. As I satisfy my wife on almost a daily basis, her lover would have to be really good to be better than me. But I would enjoy the competition, each of us trying to be the best lover, and my wife would get the full benefit of that. On the point of latent homosexuality, I do not consider myself gay. I could never kiss another man, and the thought of anal is a real turn off. However, I could be tempted to suck a cock, but only if it had just been up my wife's pussy.

There is something empowering about fucking another mans wife. I went from jerking it in the shower to Mr. confidence with women. It threw a switch in me. All of a sudden women started responding to me. I can get laid at will and frequently do. I like Alt, and Ashley but they aren't really necessary I can meet them in permister and charm them. When I'm out sitting at a bar the women usually sit closer to me and are much more receptive to me. Before I had my first that wasn't the case. Just the sexless husband jacking it in the shower. Now I have the sex I've always wanted whenever I want it. I've been at it for 7 years and I doubt I'll stop until I drop dead. Fucking a hotwife can be life changing.

First time for me came when I was visiting a married couple. After some smoke and conversation, they somehow decided that I was going to service wifey. They were very aggressive and adamant and I wasn't able to deal with such unknown adventures with people so pushy. I chickened out. Never saw them again.

Next, I'm at a party sitting on the rug enjoying the music and get a whiff of pussy. I turned around and sitting on a chair was a chick riding reverse cowgirl two feet from my face. I wasn't expecting that! He couldn't have lasted more than 30 seconds because he was pulling out already. I was offered gooey seconds. I chickened out again.

Third time I was at a house party thrown by a receptionist where I worked, just sitting on the carpet and enjoying the scene. The sales manager was sitting in a nearby armchair with his MILF wife in his lap. He lifts her over the side of the chair, drops her right on top of me and tells me to take care of her while he was going to "hump the hostess". I did. Good. I managed to avoid him for most of the upcoming week. Friday I was "invited" to have lunch with him and a couple of office girls who were also at the party. I was cuckolds brownieting rivets, certain that I was fucked. One of the first things he did when we met at the restaurant was to shake my hand and thank me for making his wife happily sing around the house all week.

I'm not a bull. I've been known to shag the occasional wife. The couple "draws me in to cuckolding" by inviting me into a sexual relationship with wifey. I've touched her somehow that she desires my attention enough to ask me. I respect hubby and treat the wife with understanding and dignity.

Apparently there is a large number of sexually deprived wives out there. Seems like many hubbys jerk off, come too quick or otherwise show disinterest in wifey's sexual self esteem and sexual satisfaction. A date with another man's wife consists of an understanding that her life is her business and my purpose is to supply her with sexual pleasure. Hubby isn't mentioned at all. It is quite the experience relieving the sexual pressures a wife has bottled up and isn't able to express! Hang on if you can!

If some hubbies spent more time communicating with their wives instead of fantasy cuckolding, things might probably go better in their relationship. There sure is a great deal of wives (far, far too many!) that are living sexually unfulfilled lives!


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WHat draws me to it (maybe different than others here); is the status I enjoy with my GF. The status we share over her hubby makes the whole relationship (not just the sex), more intimate, adn worth the flack of being in an alternative lifestyle.

Also teh sexual freedom my GF and I have, and the trust we have is way beyond what I would have with a regular GF who didn't have a cuck. Knowing, and being reassured on an ongoing basis that she prefers me, adn puts me first -- and why; is something that I don't think I would expeirence in ai "vanilla" relationship. Also being in a relationship that celebrates female sexuality, a woman's choice of a man, and the full implications of that choice is very beautiful (and a turn on). Finally -- the loyalty her cuck shows to her and the selfless nature of his role in their relationship I find beautiful and makes me very happy for her. Also since my GF and I work together -- I feel like I know her in ways that a hubby at home never could -- and our relationship embodies aspects of who we both are that cluld never exist in an "at-home" marriage.

We are more of a romantic/emotional bull-wfie couple; contemplating having kids togetehre etc. But those are the things that have drawn me into it as the "bull".

Love this thread.

Jsn

It is a rush getting to enjoy being the 'better' man. Are you referring to having kids while she stays married, or do you see yourself as becoming her husband? Permisterally before I did that I would fully enjoy the turn on of humiliating the husband in permister. Nothing like demonstrating your superiority in permister to kick it up a notch.

Hey Bob;

We've been together for several yeras, and she and her hubby are prety committed to the cuckold lifestyle (in the polyamory sense). We do have sex in front fohim, and are actaully trying for a baby now, and it both humiliates him and I t hink turns both of them on in a way -- but underneath it all she and I are very much in love, and he is fiercely loyal to her, so its' all very stable.

Being the 'better' man is important to us -- emotionally, intellectually, romantically -and physically. For us the sex is only as good as the reality it embodies.

No plans for a divorce -- pretty much Bill (her hubby) will be the step-dad, I'll be the dad -- just she and I won't be divoced, we'll be outside lovers -- but to many who might not understand it will look like a step-family.

I tend to agree that bull-wife relationships are in a whole newe league of intimacy & satsifaction from regular BF/GF relationshps -- and wouldn't go back to 'normal' even if I could.

Jsn

Hey if all parties can handle that then its fine. Having a cuck raise my young wouldn't be my thing, but I got lots of kinks others don't necessarily share so I'm not going to judge.