my wife is leaving me for him

It was way too easy for this guy to come in and take her from me. She's so hooked on that big fat cock of his! I got to watch about four times, before she started telling me she stopped with him, that she was done fucking him. That's what she had me beleive. I caught her last week, having sex with him. They had never stopped fucking each other. And now she is filing for divorce.

sorry to hear that. Why don't you just become her cuckold and encourage her?
Ronald Curry

Ronald Curry
I've tried so many times, in so many ways to get her to open up in that way. She refuses. It's really vulgar. This was a first for both of us. Didn't turn out the way I wanted it to. It was extremely hot in the beggining though. Excitement beyond anything when it was actually happening, those few afternoons we had together with him. It all turned south so quickly. Still just can't beleive this is even happening.

Sad. It sounds pretty clear that she was never interested in fetish cuckolding and, no offense, had lost interest in being with you. I hope it doesn't ruin you cuckold fetish for you. Given the events you describe, it really can't have had anything to do with what happened.
Pantalone, Wittol, oblate, abnegator, fellator, pathic, irrumatiophile,fop, epicene, cotquean, skivvy, thrall, and pilgarlic.

So sorry to hear it! A Cautionary Tale for all us wannabes.
Wannabe - see my captions at http://www.cuckoldplace.com/27_74912_1.html

That really sucks. I think this is one of the main reamisters that I remain a "wannabe" by my choice. This scenario just scares the crap out of me. To lose someone that you care about over this... just not worth it to me.

And I'm sorry but, "I hope it doesn't ruin you cuckold fetish for you" ??? Are you serious?? THAT's what you're concerned about?

Hang in there and I hope things get better for you in time.

I've been there myself and although it's painful the sexual rush doesn't lessen throughout. In fact it's probably heightened. Even though it's very real and incredibly painful I'll bet your still very much getting off on it

No, that's not what i'm worried about. We've gone through all the emotions. I instantly and completely was turned off by even the idea of cuckolding after she switched off with me. And that's exaclty how it felt, it was like a light switch that shut off. She lost all and every interest in me to the extreme. It was really bizaar. It's like, how could she change so quickly and so dramatically like this? Now it's kind of strange. It's like, I know for a fact the divorce is on the way, and she is looking so damn hot lately!! I asked her last night if she could at least include me in some of the fun, to stop lying to me, i know shes been seeing this guy, so just tell me next time. She said she'd think about it... I don't know what the hell I'm doing at this point. Beleive me, if I could have her back, I wouldn't even so much as have a thought in my head about doing this again, but I know it is so done with us at this point..

My exwife left me after I convinced her to try the lifestyle and with the guy she tried it with. It was hot and exciting while it lasted, but in the end...I really didn't feel anything over her leaving. Ultimately, I knew before we even tried cuckolding that our marriage was on the rocks. I guess it just gave her an easier way out.

I remarried, and my wife loves me and will never leave me, and I will never leave her. She's embraced this lifestyle, we talk and keep honest and open...it just works perfectly. I have the ability to put a stop to it at anytime (and her too, obviously), but I have no desire to. We're always looking to take it to a new level, more extreme, etc...but we always know where we stand with each other.

Facers story is a great bow on the topic but I'd like to add one more. If you are at all possessing of enough testosterone and gumption to once again crave women and crave giving them pleasure sexually (disregard if you are not adequate (not well) endowed, then go "hunting" for a sexual flower that is waiting to bllom. Find a woman that wants to open up sexually and take her there.

If your cuckold wannabe fanatsies or desires return I would suggest either going Facers route being open and honest completely or go the swinging route. Both of you going places and sharing sexual experiences with other like minded couples.
Nothing makes a man feel better than pleasing or being pleased by a woman. Try it...you might like it.

Obviously this is all from a bulls perspective, but I am a bull that does not want to destroy others relationships but rather help them grow the way the couple wants them too (and make some good friends wife and husband along the way).
Nothing makes a man feel better than pleasing or being pleased by a woman. Try it...you might like it.

Stuff like that happens once in a while.
..............PSEUDO PERSON...YMMV!

We had a brush with this once. My wife had always had her BBCs wear condoms. Well she met a guy and decided she wanted to try BBC bareback. He was very very long and thick. She said she could feel the head of his cock actually probing the opening of her uterus. So anyway, she has her first bareback. When he came she said the feeling of his cum shooting into her uterus was overwhelming. The sex was amazing bareback. She and he started texting about how in love they were. I read these by accident and talked to her about it. She told me that I should have expected this could happen. I was devastated. But she told me she still love me which did not help much. I was actually the one considering a divorce. But the more they had sex the less in lopve she felt until one night she woke me up and started crying. She told me she was so sorry what she had put me through but when she felt her first BBC cum in her she fell in lust and mistaked it for love. Since then she has seen him several times as well as 2 other guys. All bareback her now. Good part for me is I get to lick her creampie when she gets home. She also loves making me lick the crotch of her cum stained panties and shoves them in my muoth when I JO. So we surviived the hurdle and the barebacking has actually added more fun for us both......maybe she is in lust right now. Just love her and give it time.

Likley not a bull at all in the sense of this lifestyle, but someone looking for an opportuity....

Yes, it is. Explain to me what he should be concerned about? About losing a wife who was clearly headed for an exit door and would have left him anyway whether they did this or not? I think he should be concerned with protecting himself, emotionally and psychologically, and the cuckold fetish is a key part of that.

What exactly do you think a fetish is anyway? Psych 101: It is a coping mechanism by which people deal with some of their deepest and most paralyzing fears by eroticizing them. It is a kind of DIY therapy. This is a guy whose wife left him and (and this is the most dangerous part) did so in a manner that struck directly on his deepest fears and vulnerabilities and is likely to leave him blaming himself. Losing such a "partner" is no great tragedy. Being more fucked-up because the experience tore at your weak points and destroyed a key coping mechanisms - that is tragic.

So yes. That is what I'd be concerned about for myself, a friend, or just a fellow human on the Internet I've never met.
Pantalone, Wittol, oblate, abnegator, fellator, pathic, irrumatiophile,fop, epicene, cotquean, skivvy, thrall, and pilgarlic.

Probably time for the guy to 86 his cuckold fetish and see what Psych 202 has to offer.
..............PSEUDO PERSON...YMMV!

Marital break-ups are always traumatic and therapy is probably a good idea for him to help sort out the experience, so that is good advice IMHO. But I wonder why you think it is time for him to ditch his fetish. Even if this were possible it is unlikely to be a very healthy move. People have a flight instinct when bad things happen to them, but to really move forward and heal, they need to face them - not bury them.

Our fetishes are part of who we are. Indeed, they are some of the most revealing parts of who we are. It is counterproductive for people to deny and turn from them.

Like I said, I hope that the trauma of his break-up has not severely damaged him in this vulnerable area.
Pantalone, Wittol, oblate, abnegator, fellator, pathic, irrumatiophile,fop, epicene, cotquean, skivvy, thrall, and pilgarlic.

A fetish is maybe desiring to wear women's panties. A kink is desiring another man to wear your wife around his dick. Comparing the two is like a scratch to a sucking chest wound. Every man and woman takes a very serious (psychological, physical or both) knee to the groin sometimes in their lives. They hopefully recover, gain understanding, learn from the experience and get back into life. Describing a potential relationship ruining behavior like cuckoldry as "fetish" could be counter productive...
..............PSEUDO PERSON...YMMV!

Why is it so important to you that he keeps his cuckold fetish? Who cares!!!! Maybe it will come back and maybe it won't but I hardly think that is the biggest concern for him right now. There are a million other more important issues for him to deal with at the moment. Issues of trust and betrayal. Issues of a lost companion. Everything that goes along with losing someone we thought loved us. Keeping his cuckold fantasy probably comes about dead last on the list of things to deal with at the moment.

As for mskarenc24 (sorry I don't know your name), I hope that things are going better for you and that you're getting the support that you need from family and friends. Hang in there. You're in our thoughts.

Cuckolding and/or swinging can strengthen and improve a strong relationship - but it will ******* a weak one in short order. Swinging *******ed my first marriage with emotional baggage, but cucking for my current female has WAY more strengthened our bond.

Its sad, but a lot of people on this forum speak only from a base of fantasy and masturbation and have zero real-world experience to draw from.

Isuppose this will upset some of you but te time my gf left me for her lover gave me a masochistic thrill that was hard to replace.

Lisaand I had been goingtogether for six months when I started pushing her into the cuckold world. She had no idea what a pervert I was and becauseshe was somewhat submissive, a bad combination for the cuckold masocist, she wentalong with all my depraved desires.

We started with a threesome, finding a stud at work who really wanted to fuck her. It was easy during the course of the tryst to ease out of te situation and let the two of them go at it. I spent most of thetime sucking her boobs or licing her pussy andass while he showed her what a proper dick could do when handled by a reral stud.

Lisa isa one man type of female and itsoon became apparent as he kept coming over that she was falling for this hunk. I made it easieras I cowtowed to his every demand and demonstrated that he was the cock of the henhouse and I was just decoration.

Soon when I got home I would findthe two of them in the bedroom or Lisa sucking his cock while he watched sports. Needless to say there were no more threesomes and there were on the two of them together with an occasional cleanup by me.

Naturally, one day she told me we had to talk. Anyone who's ever been in a relationship know those words are usually a death knell. A few weeks she leftme and moved in with him.

I saw them both at work all the time and each occasion I felt te pangs of loss, jealousy and a thrill that kept me on edge for weeks.

The pseudo-psychologists will claim I merely obeyed a self-fulfilling prophesy and that I had groomed her for a better man and when she acknowldeged the truth I foun an inner peace as painful as it was. I don't know and I don't care. I loved it.
J

Very hot! My fantasy is to offer my wife to a bull and participate in their wedding!

I do not think a real bull really wants to marry the wife does he? It would almost imply some kind of insecurity where he had to *take* something you have to make himself feel better. And being married is a lot different that meeting up a few times a week. I would stress that with her.
HIT1969

A bull should have and enjoy the wife making her his unofficial woman. The cuck of a hubby can still be married to her on paper for all purposes she belongs to the bull and hubby is responsible if bull knocks her up.

I am sorry to hear she has left for him, unfortunately, it is one of the hazards of cuckolding. It can happen that the wife and her bull will just decide to cut you out of the triangle. Usually a real bull doesn't want the responsibility of keeping a wife, he just wants to make her his unofficial woman, as one said above, he would prefer the cuck hubby remain married to her on paper and retain all official responsibility even if she is knocked up by her lover, but all three know she belongs sexually to her bull lover. I don't know the percentages, but there are a few bulls that begin with the hidden plan to take what is yours because of the sense of power it gives them to take something completely. We've all met people, usually men, that had to have it all and would use any tactic to get it. Some people will share, and then some people will not, they must possess it, especially when it comes to women. It is something to think about when we make fantasy into reality, as you become the sub or bottom, the initiative moves to the Dominant or Top or Bull. When a woman opens herself up in these situations, she will usually submit to his desires and sometimes it comes to leaving the cuck behind. I will say that in every instance I have heard of this happening, the bull eventually loses interest like a penny losing its shine of being new so he begins looking for the next thing he can take away from someone. That is usually the thrill. I knew of one man who told his wife he would be waiting when she was ready to come home, and sure enough about a year later she showed up at his door with a 3-month-old baby wanting to come back and take up the cuck relationship where they had left off, and they did. I'm not saying that will happen here, but we never really know what will happen next. Most of us just take our chances at what we believe will make us happy and usually the future isn't really thought out at all.

mskarenc24

As a bull, that last thing I would want is to take the place of a woman's husband. For that matter, I don't even care how much sex they have when I'm not around, as long as there's always something I'm bringing to the table that he can't offer, whether that's a physical, emotional, or just intangible attribute.

And for that matter, I'm sure there are lots of married bulls out there who already have a wife and a family. I'd recommend finding one of them in the future.