Sexless anniversary

I'm not entirely sure what you mean by sex. It will be nine years this month since I last fucked my wife (or any woman), and nearly as long since she touched my cock with her mouth.

On the other hand, she does even today sometimes use my mouth or hands as a sex toy to give herself an orgasm. I would consider that sex, even though it does not involve the slightest interest in or attention to my arousal and certainly not to my orgasm.
Pantalone, Wittol, oblate, abnegator, fellator, pathic, irrumatiophile,fop, epicene, cotquean, skivvy, thrall, and pilgarlic.

Wow, I love this thread. Thanks to all contributors.

I have not had penetrative sex with my wife since September 4 and maybe twice since last Christmas. She loves my mouth and I love licking her to countless orgasms. My relief is in the sheets while licking her or a hand job after she has had several orgasms, that is if I did not cum in the sheets. A blowjob is out of the question.

I got her to admit that she prefers sex via my mouth versus penetration. My step is to have her cut me off permanently and only use my mouth for her pleasure. I would love to have her lock me up in chastity but not sure how to get her into that type of thing.

HI,

glad that this thread keeps on rolling!

I use the term "sex" meaning penetrative sex. Of course I still perform oral on my wife, and lick her asshole and use fingers and dildos on her ocassionally. But it's nice to say "I don't have sex" because it sounds so total. To be more precise, my dick doesn't have sex-- it experiences no mouth, no pussy, no ass. Only my hand and sometimes hers. It just sounds nice for her to say "no sex for you any more!"

Another update from me. We are still celebrating our 2 year sexless anniversary (sexless only for me). Each day was something else. She spanked my balls with a wooden spoon before making me do some housework-- 5 strokes the first time, then escalating it the day after on two days, up to 8 strokes so far. It is hard to take it at first, but then the pain dies down to a dull ache in the balls, which really serves to remind me and turn me on while I do something useful. It makes work sexy!

Then last night I made a card for her. I thought I would write a 2-page card to give her at dinner, but actually it turned into a 12 page presentation on Openoffice, using my words and combining them with pictures and captioned pictures from this very forum. The first page was a picture of a naked woman with a no-entry sign over her pussy. I also included many nice pictures of well-hung men, especially black guys (she is hot for black guys, she comes from Poland) kissing and having sex with women. She loved it!!!!

She hugged and kissed me again and again this morning, when I showed it to her. earlier we had cucky sex-- I brought her to orgasm with my hand while we cuddled. No penetration, nothing for me, though she did stroke my cock. Funny, after she has an orgasm, I almost feel like I had one-- I feel the release and am no longer pent up and ready to explode. It must be conditioning-- I know that the sex is over after she has an orgasm and so I automatically relax.

Would love to hear from anyone with anything similar. OH, and

SN1 etr, if she already admits enjoying your mouth more than your dick, you are well on your way. Just stop suggesting using your dick at all, stop even trying to penetrate her or put it anywhere near her pussy. Whenever things get hot, just always go down on her and lick her pussy. After a while, she will come to expect this, and know that you do not expect anything else. she MIGHT start to wonder why, though, in which case you have to explain it simply-- you know she likes it better, you want her to enjoy it more, you don't need anything else yourself.

The chastity is the step after that, though.

My wife will often humil-iate me by reminding me how long it has been, how the years fly by and how one day I'll be able to look back and see how I've wasted my life and blown my chance at experiencing the basic human joy of fucking. She says that someday when I am old and have difficulty with erections she may offer to let me fuck a woman - just to see how frustrated and devastated it makes me when I can't keep it up long enough to do so. She also chides me for being such a fraud and a coward in letting (only a few at this point, but all the strangers we meet) people assume I take a normal man's pleasure with his wife when I am really functionally a eunuch and/or fag (depending on her mood).

For me, the denial goes beyond the sex itself in that I am not even to look at photos of pussy or men having sex with women anymore (I do see her's and watch her with lovers occasionally). Just last night we were at a bookstore when she spied The Big Penis Book 2011 Calendar. Do I need to add she made a big fuss over getting it for me and made me carry it home without a bag?
Pantalone, Wittol, oblate, abnegator, fellator, pathic, irrumatiophile,fop, epicene, cotquean, skivvy, thrall, and pilgarlic.

HI again all,

I hope I am not overdoing this, but I wanted to report on yesterday. It was the first chance we had to go out together to celebrate our anniversary. We went shopping, first to a sex shop, where we looked at dildos but didn't buy anything, as we already have many. We really wanted an inflatable buttplug, but they didn't have any. It was fun just to be there with her, knowing that the large-breasted shop clerk was watching us and probably wondering who the dildo was for- me or her.

Next we went to the main shopping street in our city, where we walked arm in arm, often stopping to hug and kiss. I felt so proud to have her as my partner, it was a thrill to kiss her in front of everyone else. Last year we looked in vain for sexy boots that fit her and suited her. Most are somehow tacky in some aspect. This time we got lucky and found some very sexy boots that were almost a classic dominitrix look, black leather, knee-high, a relatively short but still sexy heel. They lace all the way up the front. Outside the shop, we kissed, and she said said thanks, and I said "What do you think about that-- you get a present for NOT having sex with me?" She said "I wish there was a way I could not have sex with you twice as much!" And we laughed.

At home, we cuddled in bed, and I licked her to orgasm. My nose was buried in the folds of her sex as I licked her. She had me put my tongue in her very wet pussy when she came. My whole chin, lips, and nose were soaking wet afterwards. It's funny, though. now, after she cums, neither of even thinks about me having an orgasm. She is unconcerned, as we have agreed that sex is for HER pleasure, not mine. But even me, I am now so conditioned that I also relax and no longer feel the urge to continue for a while after she has cum, almost as if I have cum. Later, after she had recovered, she straddled me as I lay on my back. It was WONDERFUL!!! She felt so good on top of me, I could touch and feel her wide, soft ass, and stroke it so nicely. I could also feel her wet, warm pussy against my dick. She was rubbing it against me, and it felt fantastic. She asked if I wanted to put it inside her, and I said yes. She considered letting me in just for a few minutes, but not letting me cum. But then she said "Nevermind. In this position I won't even be able to feel you." She said this without even a hint of exaggeration, and I asked her seriously if she was just joking. She said no, we had done it like this before she cut me off, and sh literally could not feel me in her at all!!! This little titbit alone almost sent me over the edge to orgasm. It's true her pussy is very loose now, after two youngren, and she says this position really opens it up further. But to hear her say truthfully that she can't feel me at all in her pussy, was incredibly humiliating.

I asked her if she could feel Darren when she was on top of him like that, and she said "Definitely!" So it is clear that at least SOME men are able to please her large pussy, but definitely not me...

So that's how it is now, we are still celebrating our 2 year no-sex-for-me anniversary, and really enjoying it.

I don't understand the attraction, or even the point, of a woman cutting off her husband from sex when she is not having sex with anyone else. For me, the real turn-on is the idea of being "replaced," not simply the withholding of sex.

txperv,

I totally understand your point. I also find the thrill of cuckolding to be the idea of being replaced. But fetishes often re-info-rce and spice each other up and for some people denial/chastity complement cuckolding like chocolate syrup on ice cream.

In my own situation (and I think tinycock's) my wife is in no sense celibate or denying herself cock. However, her rejection - indeed renunciation - of my cock would be hot to me even if she was forsaking it on spec. and without a hard alternative in hand (puns intended).

Not every fetish rings every bell with every cuckold (the whole IR thing does nothing for me, for instance) but that makes life more interesting!
Pantalone, Wittol, oblate, abnegator, fellator, pathic, irrumatiophile,fop, epicene, cotquean, skivvy, thrall, and pilgarlic.

Hi Tiny.

I've been in that situation with my wife several times when she's had steady boyfriends. If she's serious about someone, then that's her lover, not me. I know for sure that I will never be the right sex partner for her, and I'm happy when someone else is fulfilling that role. As the years have passed, we have stopped having sex even when she doesn't have anyone else in her life. I'm quite content with my role as her support guy.

She's not dating any one guy right now, but she's definitely open to meeting Mr. Right. If she finds someone who she wants to be with full-time, we'll have to figure out what our new relationship will be like. I'd love to stay married, but that probably wouldn't be practical for her.

Anyway, my happiest times with her have been when she's had a steady man who she could really give herself to. Hope we can find something that works for us, and hope you find something that works for you as well!

[i][/i]Linda my wife doesnt have intercoarse with me but does masterbate me, she says having sex with me would be a waste of time and useless since I dont measure up!!We do cuddle,kiss when she does get me off,,,

HI Lancscouple,

tell us more! Why have you not had sex? How is it-- is she bored with you, are you unable to please her? OR do you do other things to compensate?

Do you want her to cuckold you?

Finally, here is another update. i am surprised that no one else has written anything here-- the other cuckies are getting sex again???

I have a lot to report since my last entry-- in which we reached the 2 year anniversary of me not being allowed to fuck her. We are still very much together, we still cuddle and kiss, but i am no longer allowed sex with her. We still have "sex", also referred to as cuckie sex, by which we mean that i lick her asshole and pussy until she reaches orgasm. But for me there are no blowjobs, so penetration of her pussy or asshole, and in most cases no orgasms. She does stroke my dick a bit, but usually after she has an orgasm, she goes to relax or we get up and continue our day. She likes to keep me horny and wanting, though occassionally i am allowed to masturbate or she gives me a handjob. In more than half of those cases, she ruins my orgasm by letting go at the last moment, so i have no true orgasmic release, but the cum just slowly flows out. It is incredibly frustrating, and she really enjoys teasing and torturing me like that. I am on the honour system as far as not masturbating to orgasm when alone, and usually i stick to this rule. I can stroke my dicklet, but am not allowed to reach orgasm.

About 3 months ago, we moved to another country. My wife has not had any lovers in that time. We had a fair bit of "sex" (no penetration) for the first month or so, then it slowed down. Then suddenly, about a month ago, we were having non-penetrative sex, she got on top of me and put my dick in her! I was shocked. First of all, it is normally barely hard enough to put in, despite her pussy being very large and loose after 2 kids. Secondly, i usually cum within seconds, but this time i managed to concentrate and not cum for some time. We even switched positions, but in every position, my dicklet kept falling out of her, which she fund frustrating. Finally, as usual when we have penetrative sex, she got too frustrated and ended up masturbating herself to orgasm. Later, she said she just wanted to feel closer to me, that's why she did it. But somehow, the spell was broken. It seemed for a moment that we would return to a normal sex life, after nearly 3 years of no sex for me. I was actually looking forward to our 3 year sexless anniversary!! I felt that maybe our whole cuckold lifestyle would end, and i also don't really enjoy the pressure of performing real sex-- my dicklet is simply too small, too soft, and too trigger-happy-- I have to concentrate the whole time to last a few minutes. I was actually quite disappointed, and the next month, we had neither real sex nor cuckie sex. We were also very busy at this time, though.

Then last week, i was in another country for a week. I sent her a text, just for fun, asking "can we have sex, or even "sex" again soon?" She responded "hi loser, sure we can have "sex" again. Maybe you can even see me having real sex-- I'm arranging a date" . I was so stunned i almost came in my pants right there. I was trembling with excitement. Further texts told me that she had been flirting with someone online who was "a nice guy" and who was going to fuck her. I asked her what were MY chances for sex with her, and she said "none. HIS are looking good, though." So there it was. We were back to our old relationship. I was already massively relieved hat our cuckold relationship hadn't ended, and that it looked as if my sexless life was back on track. Better still, or at least equally exciting, was that she was getting another boyfriend, hopefully.

Now that i am back we have had non-penetrative "sex" several times already, with me licking her asshole and pussy until she cums. She has cum 6 times, and has given me one ruined orgasm. She has also informed me that she was so disappointed with my performance the last time i fucked her that she has also decided that we are definitely going back to a no-sex relationship (for me at least). She said that the next time i will be allowed in her pussy will be October of 2014! Why she chose this date i don't know, but that is when it is set for.

As far as her new boyfriend, well, she has been flirting with him online for a week now, and things are looking good. She had me find sexy pics of her and send them to him. I will report in another thread if anything comes of it.

I hope to hear from other cucks who are denied sex.

I'm only denied the day before she plays. I've never been denied cleanup duty or sex after she cums home. Every cuckold relationship is different, but am very curious about you that are denied long term. Thank you for sharing your experiences with me

Hi all,

i Guess i should respond to some comments made earlier, which i hadn't seen.

Txperv- i also really get off on being replaced. But we've taken it step further, in that even when she is not with anyone else, it is clear that my little dick does nothing for her, so it has been PERMANENTLY replaced, whether there happens to be another lover or not, i have been retired sexually.

Our situation is very much like Rdvrk's-- it is clear that, sexually, i am not a match for my wife, and she has always enjoyed sex much more with other men. I am only good for giving her oral sex, which we have, but she also needs hard fucking, which i can't do. So when she meets the right man for a long term relationship, i will fade even further into the background-- who knows how often i will get to perform oral sex on her? But we are both happy with this situation, she has assured me that she also prefers having me as her secondary lover, that she has absolutely NO interest in penetrative sex with me, and that she is content for our sex life to continue like this indefinitely. I couldn't be happier!

No, none at all, which is okay with me.

Wife has dated a couple of people this year, but hasn't really had a steady boyfriend for a while. She's been playing the permisterals, but mostly finding time-wasters and creeps. I like checking out permisteral ads with her, and I love it when she actually hooks up in permister. She met one guy she really liked a few months ago, and they were seeing a lot of each other for a while, but it doesn't seem to be going anywhere.

Meanwhile, my sex life is just jacking off. She doesn't mind me getting off when we're together, and sometimes even gets off with me, but that's as far as it goes. I haven't touched her pussy in a very long time, haven't given her head in even longer, and it's unlikely that's ever going to happen again. I still love hearing about her dates, so that's pretty fun for both of us.

Hi Rdvrk (and others),

Yeah, my sex life is also jacking off, A likes to tease me that i have a date with my hand! And it looks like my hand will be my only lover for the next 3 years.

She told me that she will next let me in her in 3 years.

But we do have lots of physical contact-- we hug and kiss and cuddle, and lately i have been licking her to orgasm every morning. This morning i licked her to one orgasm, we talked for a while, and i then gave her another orgasm with my hand on her clit. She told me the orgasms were really nice, and she really enjoyed it. Nothing makes me happier than giving her orgasms, and i expect, and get, none from her. Don't get the idea that she is selfish, she knows i like it like this. She enjoys teasing me and i enjoy being teased. We are pretty happy with the situation.

Hey guys! I remain mostly sexless as well. I did have sex in June this year, once, but that is the only time since 1/2010. After that sex my gf totally cut me off for the rest of the year (no sex, bj or even handjob). So I'll be with you guys in the jerk-off-only-club! I do get to go down on her which is my favorite and then afterwards I always have as you say, a date with my hand.

To be topical... I'm away on business this week in Europe. Anniversary on thursday. My mistress wife has a young visitor late Wednesday evening, so that when she calls me 15 mins before he arrives, it will be the start of our anniversary here in Europe (3.15 am).

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I have been denied sex by my beautiful hotwife on and off for months or half years at a time over the past few years. Recently we have just past our 1 year mark! Which for me is pretty amazing!
I have not had a Bj for about 3 years!
My wife has had lovers all through this period and even had 2 different guys last week.
We now have a 2 month old baby !!!
I desire and lust after my sexy wife continuously, but LOVE the feeling of helplessness, vulnerability, presentation and use from being cruelly forbidden sex with her as she is openly unfaithful to me and makes me into her siisy cuckold husband.

Last August was my fifth sexless anniversary. We were actually going to try it again, but both fell badly ill the night before. So we spent the whole day in bed, didn't come out for food or takes, we could barely walk... But well, not for the right reamisters... Haha... It must be meant to be this way.

My wife is gorgeous, but so incredibly difficult to please in bed. The other day she said she wanted sex, so long as it wasn't penetration. I offered her to lick her and she let me. She was even wet. But not for me. She had just fingered herself. She let me clean her up and then started to grumble and complain I wasn't doing it right. In the end she told me to get her black vibrator and watch her get off that way.

Hi all,

Well, looks like some of you are ahead of me in the "denied sex" category. This November, we reached our official 3 full year anniversary. She recently told me it would be in Oct, 2014, that she will let me in her again. She liked the date because it sounds quite far away. Though frankly, i don't think she'll let me in her then, either. She doesn't miss the sex with me at all, even if there is no other man in her life. She has told me again and again, my cock just doesn't turn her on, AT ALL. She does not suck it, either, and says she definitely NEVER will. She does suck other guys' cocks, though, with gusto. We just have oral sex, me performing it on her, obviously, and fingers and dildos. I absolutely can't complain... I love it!

9 months for me, and then it was only 1 time w/about 4 months of none before that. Probably only 4-5 in the last 2 yrs. I do still get to eat her more often, though. She keeps me in chastity off and on and is MUCH hornier when I'm in. She has only fucked one other guy since we got into this but I'm seeing some signs she may be up for it again. As long as she keeps letting me eat her I think I could go on w/o it indefinitely. However, I once read about a mistress who let her cuck in once a year "so he could remember what he's not getting and my lovers are"! That's so wicked... I hope one day that will be my story!

Hi again everyone

Glad to see this thread is still going, if intermittently.

Just had to report-- i am now at 3 and a half years without sex! I am so proud...

Whenever I mention this and ask her when we will have it again, she usually laughs or giggles, or says something like " in 20 years...... though by then you will be too old anyway...."

She does still give me ocassional handjobs, though. And we cuddle and I perform oral sex on her, which is great. We also use dildos ocassionally. And, sadly least frequent of all, she has sex with other men.

Anyone else have a story?

Hi TinyCock,
I am still in the same boat, no penetrative sex with my wife. Our sex is me going down on her and if I do not cum in the sheets then she jerks me off. No blow jobs, that stopped shortly after we married.

Lately, I have volunteered (if I do not cum while licking her to orgasm) that it is okay, she does not have to jerk me off or reciprocate/provide me with an orgasm. To which she then says, good or okay and then we just cuddle.

I am not a cuckold, I doubt that will ever happen and to sure I could stand it mentally. In my earlier post I said the date was September, it was actually July 13th, so I am at 1 and 3/4 years (well, tomorrow). In the two years prior, we only had penetrative sex three times, once on Christmas morning, that was in her mind I'm sure, my Christmas present.

I love servicing my wife orally (pussy and ass) and am ready to give up penetrative sex permanently. I still would like her to put me in chastity and limit my orgasms as well. I love this thread, lost site of it and will keep you posted on my life as well. Thanks to all for sharing. Let's keep this thread a live.

I last had intercourse on Feb 7th, after nothing since Aug 9th. I have no reamister to expect anything soon, either. It's a major deal when I get a hand job, and I haven't had one of those since Nov. She does let me masturbate while she is in the same room, but she doesn't pay much attention, other than making demeaning remarks. I'm not limited in frequency, so I JO about 3-4 times a week with her minimal supervision. If I ask her to help or finish me, she always has some excuse, like she hasn't got time or something similar. I also haven't seen her nude in daylight since August.
Natural Born Cuckold
Pussy-Free For Life starting 02-26-2017, 2633 days as of 05-13-2024

Hee hee, good to see I am not alone here!

SN1 ETR, sounds SO much like us! Exactly, no penetrative sex of any kind for me-- she only gave me about 3 blowjobs since we've been together. She says my dick does not "inspire" her to give a blowjob, but with every other guy she's been with, before and after we met, she has given blowjobs. In fact, she loves doing it! (With real cocks, at least!) The main thing she teases me with is that my dick does not even get hard enough to fuck anyway, and she only likes hard cocks. It's true, I'm afraid--since getting cucked and being denied sex, my dick barely gets hard-- too much wanking myself off, I guess (no need for it to get totally hard then), and when she has i in her hand, she likes to bend it every once in a while, just to point out that it is not totally hard. It is very effective offense. Another similarity-- when I suck her pussy, or asshole, I also often cum on the sheets because i am so excited. Sometimes I move so that my dick is not rubbing the bed, so I don't cum too soon that way.

Finally, like you, I am perfectly happy to give up penetrative sex FOREVER, and I have a feeling I already have!

I should have added I haven't had a blow job to completion since 1983 from the wife. Sometimes when we have intercourse, she'll suck me for a few seconds beforehand, but I don't think she's even done that for a couple of years, preferring to use her hands on me. She admitted in a round-about way to giving some of my co-workers blow jobs several years ago.
Natural Born Cuckold
Pussy-Free For Life starting 02-26-2017, 2633 days as of 05-13-2024

Hi Tinycock, one time when she sat on my face, another rare occasion as she prefers just to lie back, I had a tremendous orgasm when she came on my face, without any contact with my cock. As you said, I get so exited eating her and when she comes I usually do too. Yes, as you say we are well on our way to giving up penetrative sex forever.

Just a minor update. The last two nights and this morning, i have performed oral on my wife. More specifically i licked her asshole and fingered her pussy until she came. And this morning, i licked her pussy as well. She did nothing to reciprocate, except a little dick stroking for a few seconds while i was in position. Otherwise, she just lay back and enjoyed. Afterwards, she made no effort to get me off, but we have both agreed, this is how sex between us should be. On one of the times, i was so excited licking her ass and feeling her thighs that i actually came on the bed without stimulation-- there was a puddle there, thick cum, but no full orgasm. It was almost like a ruined orgasm. And later that same time, i actually shot a few bolts of cum some distance on the bed, without touching myself or the bed! She even saw it! There was no full orgasm, but it was just incredible that i got so turned on from serving her.

Right now, we are at 3 and a half years since she "retired" my dick, sexually. It has not been in a pussy, ass, or mouth since 2009. When our sexless anniversary arrives, i really want to celebrate in some way. Ideally, with her going on a date with her boyfriend, after kicking me in the balls. But as she has no boyfriend now, i can only hope....