castration fixation

i wonder how many cuckold men like me are affllicted with castration desires? i have been so fixated for many, many years and it has caused me to castrate myself in many ways (short of physical).

Am i alone?

You're not alone! I dream of being castrated, too. I couldn't ever go through with it, I think, but it comes up a lot when I fantasize. I don't use my cock any more, except for masturbation, and I think it would be wonderful to have it removed entirely, and just be a neuter.

I was chemically castrated as side effects of medication. This condition lasted plenty long enough for my hormones to zero and experience life as an eunuch. I was very surprised to learn many things about myself and sex and people. I rapidly and readily began adapting to the changes. I didn't even realize how far I'd gone until the hot flashes. I lost all interest in sex. If I thought of 20
things to do, sex wouldn't even be one of them. You cease to have a sexual identity in that women will behave in your presence (bathe, dress, use the toilet) as they would before another woman - without thought whatsoever.

I now have 2 normal size testicles, acting properly, packed in my bikini. I USED to have two huge boulders I really believed I could hide behind swinging commando. I learned much and my permisterality now incorporates that lesmister.

Castration fantasies are fairly common and life stomps our balls enough to recall them on occasion. If you have these thoughts frequently or after cumming, are obsessed with them or are injuring your genitals please seek psychiatric help immediately. Avoid a genital severance complex.

There is life after castration. I no longer fear it. The brain rewires itself quickly and the only real problem is the hot flashes.

Of four women with castrated lovers I know, two choose to enjoy celibacy and the other two both have female lovers. All four kept their husbands and wear the pants, which the hubbies happily help dress them with. No testicles may be new to him, but she's been quite successful living her entire life without them. She's ideally suited for the job.

Castration is no big deal. Life goes on. Fear is the big deal.

The one complaint from all the ladies was not the lack of sex, but "He couldn't keep his hands off of me and he'd hug and kiss me all the time! Now, nothing"! He is a peach and a perfect gentleman but it seems it's at the price of some affectionate behaviour.
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Thanks RDVRK and I_A_S_P for the insights.

i started with these fantasies very early at a time when one would think sexual thoughts don't occur - 8 years old or so. i believe that abandonment and use experiences caused my brain/mind wiring to go this way. i think the same motivations may be driving my cuckold desires as well. It probably doesn't matter...i am what i am and need to accept it.

There's nothing wrong with you. Ideas like that often form at early ages because the young is unable to comprehend and integrate the many feelings and moral issues involved and imposed upon them. It does matter. It is true that you are what you are but you've yet to realize that you don't have to accept the status quo.

Ladies want a confident, firm but gentle leader in a man. Women become uneasy around males who power other guys at them. How many female cuckold wannabe sites do you know of?

The simple fix for all of this is a good prostitute. There are a number of clean, decent ladies who will listen to your desires and understand. They have heard it all before and won't laugh at your fantasies, but fulfill them. It boils down to a simple business deal, with no baggage or glaring at each other across the breakfast table.

There are occasions a man may seek a lover for the woman he loves. Yours is not one of them. Also, the MAN should ALWAYS seek her lover, letting him know it is HIS idea and keep it as a business deal. Of course the lady must approve of everything as it is all about HER and HER pleasure. Any other way I know of probably (usually) results in a disaster.
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I am not sure if I follow what IASP was saying.

When I think of the castration thing. (there are other threads here on the same topic) I have a problem connecting the removal of the sexual organs as being motivated by the sex drive. It seems to be a contradiction.

It is my understanding that all behavior is in the genes, programmed for survival and procreation. The cuckold relationship occurs in other social species. Dogs for one, and in other primate societies. An idividual will submit to the alpha female and the alpha male for survival. The motivation is that the offspring are cousins, and or siblings. These are not as good as direct descendants, but are better than no genetic relatives.

Beyond that, it appears that all mating behavior is learned, or imprinted. If we are imprinted with a mating/reproductive behavior that doesn't work, it appears that we are unaware of that fact.

Here is what I believe might be true about cuckolding.

1) If you perceive your wife/gf to be alpha, you will worship and submit. I believe that it is the same instinct that creates kings, queens, and rock stars. We worship them. In a society, such cooperation is necessary.

2)negative attention is better than no attention at all.

3)If we perceive ourselves as being unable to experience the really exciting and erotic forms of behavior, we will accept experiencing it through someone else.

4)If we fear abandonment, and perceive that our partner will abandon us, we will do anything to keep them nearby. If the effort to keep them is extreme, perhaps we perceive that they might never leave us because they will never get such extreme cooperation from another.

My point is that it all makes sense. Whatever is going on, there is a logical sequence of events and circumstances which we might be able to discern, if we try.

Sorry if the erotic intent of this thread degenerated into boring intellectual pursuits.

Jacana (the cuckolded bird)
I will make you crazy.

Libido induced castration fantasies are a contradiction, yet disappear from a normal permister at ejaculation. A man's desire to have another man upstage him sexually with his own wife is not contradictory? Perhaps both these scenarios mean the same thing psychologically.

1. Kings, queens and rock stars? Alpha? Worship God and stop worshipping trash.

2. "Open rebuke is better than secret love". If that's what you mean, I agree. If being used as a toilet is the better alternative to no attention, I disagree.

3. It is called "living vicariously" and all people do that to some extent in various aspects of their lives.

4. A permister prostrating himself before someone for fear of rejection is most pathetic indeed and invariably treated as such. A quick way to realize masochistic urges (and punishments).

No permister has "enough" sense or logic to equate events or circumstances in the objective frame needed. Ever heard "It SEEMED like a good idea at the time" before?? Ever said it yourself?

A cuckold is a man publicly scandald by his wife's infidelity. Period. I'm unable to see how a man can be proud of that type of "attention" vis-a-vis no attention at all.

There is nothing erotic about castration. The party is over.
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I. A. S. P.

By your post, you seem to have a higher than average intellect. However, you seem to miss the point that, while the perceptions of others might differ from yours, it doesn't make them stupid or ignorant.

When you are so flip in your comment "Worship God, and stop worshipping trash". It implies that you know better than others how to worship God.

It is my opinion that to call anyone, or anything trash is to reject that which was created by God. Such behavior, in my opinion, is the rejection of the Creator, and refusal to worship him.

However, unlike you, I recognize this as 'just my opionion'. You, on the other hand, seem to be able to discern whether, or how I should worship God. In my opinion, that is a *** of the "First" Commandment.

The First commandment, as interpreted in what we call the Old Testament, which is read by Christians, Jews, and Muslims. (It is not my intention to be patronizing, I want to emphasize that I do not quote this lightly, but in respect to all of the faiths.)

I don't have a problem with your opinions and viewpoints. I find some offense intended when you imply that your viewpoint is the 'correct' one.

You speak of being used as a toilet. If, by that, you mean revelling in the urine of your mate, let me suggest that this is a widely accepted practice. It is recognized in many species, including primates, as a sexual activity.

So, I humbly suggest that the ideas of others are not 'wrong' because I don't see it their way. I think that I should welcome differing ideas as a means to self discovery.

I may be mistaken in my interpretation of your posting. If so, please accept my apologies. Let me respond to your specifics.

1) Kings, queens, and rock stars, and Alphas are an integral part of all societies. Organized religion itself is a political organization which claims to hold the mightiest weapon of war. It claims to hold that weapon for financial gain.

Voltaire once said: "If you think that religion is not all about politics, you don't undertand religion"

Your suggestion to Worship God" is an oxymoron in the cotext which you present.

2) I have already responded to the 'toilet' comment.

3) Are you implying that we don't know what "living vicariously" means? And are you also implying that you don't watch commercial films and feel the emotions they evoke, just like the rest of us?

4) Prostrating is not pathetic. I bet that you do it. Our society suggests that man does it when he proposes marriage. I suggest that humility is nothing to be ashamed of.

The one-word sentence "Period", which you use is a declaration of a closed mind. My ideas might differ from yours. But if you think your ideas are infallible, I think you might be mistaken.

Again, If I have misinterpreted your intent, please accept my apology.

Christopher
I will make you crazy.

Commandments 1 and 2 seem to not contain "kings, queens, rock stars and alphas" in this cheap KJV bible I've only read cover to cover 20+ times. I'll chuck it forthwith and go purchase a "real" bible. Thanks for the "heads up"!

My IQ is between "Bozo" and "Moron". I guess it really shows.

I've been on both sides of the "balls" and have no problem sharing these experiences with others. I present my ideas to help some folk gain a more full understanding of a very simple fact of life. Sex. Enjoy it! Don't intellectualize it. Too many people slady their joy with unfounded fears and unnecessary sexual hangups.

Good thing your bible doesn't have a commandment 7. That might complicate things cuckold.

Show me ONE woman who desires and respects a doormat of a man.

Relax. Quit being tight assed. No one is "attacking" your God. Have fun and enjoy us clowns and our opinions.

There is no eroticism whatsoever in castration.
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P.S. Consider some of the diseases one can acquire (and pass on to others) by availing themselves as a "human toilet". I can imagine females fighting each other to have a relationship with that most "desirable" sort of permister.

P.SS. I imply. You infer. I fail to see - in any post of mine - any statement I've made within the context you've inferred, yet allege and ascribe to me. Not even remotely so.
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many years ago my wife/mistress had my testicles removed this in turn lowered the testosterone levels in my body causing my small penis to shrink further and partialy retract into my groin .a bit drastic i know but now i wouldnt be any other way as now my wife only allows me to wear knickers and they fit tightly and look very sexy.
as i am unable to satisfy her i let my wife have her lovers.

Wow, Clive ... I can't believe it, but I envy you. Sigh ....

Clive

Would you be able to go into detail of how she did that to you?

I too am chemically castrated by testosterone blockers plus estrogen. My titties are growing while my little nuts and clitty are shrinking
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IASP...since when do we aproach sexuality in an intellectual way?
Sexuality is a drive, its strong, so the species doesn't dissapear.
Thank God,(pun intended)that each and every individual may experience sex in his/her own way.
In that bible of yours is written that you shall not judge....having trouble interpreting the rules of the one you adore so much?
stupid questions dont exist...
stupid answers however....

luvpain
Just read"superiority of women?"thread of yours and agree with you. Women should not be treated or spoken of in a derogatory manner.

You are intelligent. This thread deals with a legitimate question from an individual worried about his sexuality. His fear is common, but that info is unknown to him and he feels isolated. He posted his concern and was answered by folk willing to help him get back on track. At what point did this thread deteriorate from it's original intent? It is very difficult to maintain an intelligent thread on this important subject (castration).
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im a female domme....
stupid questions dont exist...
stupid answers however....

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Same here i have not fucked in over 3 years and will not ever fuck again so in a way as a sub cuckold im castrated just still have balls, though not much use.

you are a great slave, keep worshiping your Mistress

CASTRATION. I simply love the topic. My spouse and I have been discussing me being castrated for the last 5 years. It started out purely as a fantasy but each year the discussion intensifies and there is increasing realism in the planning. I believe that we are at the point now or so very close we can taste it, of making the decision for me to become a eunuch. My spouse has been cuckolding me with my boss for the past 2.5 years. He thinks that it’s a wonderful idea that I have my balls removed and he is CONSTANTLY encouraging and convincing me to get castrated. He is always sighting logical reamisters why I might as well have them removed because I have no use for balls. The most obvious reamister that he sights is the fact that I have not and never will have sex with my spouse. It always sounds like a darn good reamister to me. Occasionally he will give me a good kick in the balls (something that I enjoy) and then he’ll tell me how much less painful a good kick in the balls would be if my balls were removed. Because I enjoy having my boss kick me in the balls, I’m not sure if having them removed is good thing. He and my spouse are very eager to somehow participate in my castration. (I am very interested in their participation) He has even offered me a new and better position at work. It’s a pretty sweet deal. [email protected] Viva The Cuckold Lifestyle !!!

I had a hard time with being cuckolded at first and my wife took me to women counselor who prescribed a heavy dose of paxil. It was for my depression and also to control my constant masturbation. Paxil has a way of stopping men from having orgasms. At 40 mg, I stopped being able to orgasm in 3 days! I could jerk all I wanted but could not get it to fire off.
In time my libido was greatly reduced, and now have little interest in sex. She is very active sexually with other guys and I'm okay with that. We get along great and have a good relationship. Looking back, I've really changed alot to adapt to this life style, but it was the only way it would work.
Any other cucs here had to adjust their masculinity to fit their spoused?