Well hello everybody. I've been lurking around here for quite some time. Things in my life have changed in recent years that made me decide to write this post. I have a new girlfriend and with her I can share my interest in the sharing lifestyle. At first she was not open to the idea but she's been warming up to it more and more.
A little background on my girlfriend and me. I'm in my mid-forties, and I'm mostly dominant. I'd say about 90/10 dom/sub. I do love the idea of my girlfriend being taken by another dominant man. My girlfriend is in her early-twenties. Yes. A big age difference, I know. Most people are cool about it though.
My girlfriend is very smart and very mature. When we're together we don't feel the age difference. Only when confronted by others who have a problem with it, are we made aware of the 23 year age gap. My girlfriend is very careful with her sexuality. She's not at all easy. In fact, she's only slept with 2 guys, me being one of them. Because she is still young and relatively inexperienced, I don't mind her experimenting with other guys. In fact, I think it would be good for her. Having said that she's very careful and not at all easy, she is also very very sexual and sensual. She is about 90% submissive so in that regard we are also a great match.
She is very intelligent. A little nerdy and sexy af. She has long blonde, curly hair and bright blue eyes. She's small. 5 foot 5" with big boobs and a big round ass. She's gorgeous, sweet and smart.
After I first told her that I find the idea of her being "used" by another man very arousing, she was not at all open to the idea. She didn't like the idea of being "shared". She wanted to be mine and mine alone. As time progressed, she felt better about the idea. It's not that I want to share her and pass her around like she's some kind of object. I love her. She understood that it was not about objectifying her but about sharing an experience where she could enjoy sex with another man, where I would enjoy her being pleasured.
We started searching for possible candidates and found a guy. He was my age. My girlfriend is into much older guys than she is, so age-wise he was perfect. He was a black guy, highly educated, courteous, good looking. He sounded perfect. They were chatting back and forth and it led to sexting. They were very much into each other and it was a great experience. But like I said before, my girlfriend is very careful. She did not want to meet him. Not yet anyway because it still felt a little too scary for her. It probably took too long for the guy so things died down from that point on.
After that adventure, my girlfriend told me she would maybe like a threesome with a good friend of mine. We fantasized about it and the idea was very hot, to be honest. I told her that she could send him some text messages and try to tease him, and she did. He totally went for it and they started sexting. It was very hot to read and to see what they were sending each other. At one point he asked her if she wanted to meet with him without me knowing about it. And I must admit, I found that strangely arousing. She told him that I'm in it too and that she does nothing without me.
After that he and I talked to each other about it. We agreed that it would be a very hot idea and we're both open to it. My girlfriend and I talked about it a lot. This could be dangerous for our relationship and/or for my friendship. We agreed we need to set strict rules and expectations if we want to go ahead with this.
After that first contact things have died down a bit. We were all very busy with work and my girlfriend was very busy with studying at uni from home. It has been quiet for about a year but now we have a date
Next week, the three of us are going to have dinner in a restaurant together and I 'm very curious as to what might happen. I know that they want each other. And I'm really excited about the idea of a threesome. And I'm even excited about the idea of them hooking up together some time, when I'm not around. The idea that they're fucking each others brains out in our bed, when I'm not there, is a real turn on for me. My girlfriend and I discussed it and she got really wet for the idea. She said that "that's very naughty".
I'm just hoping things will still click after a year. I'm not going to ***** anything and neither will my girlfriend. Maybe, if all goes well, we will get back to our apartment and hang out there. We have a very big couch we can all relax on. :D We have told each other that taking it slow is the way to go. The exploration part is very exciting! Hopefully this will remain a pleasurable experience.