Ashamed?

Hi all,

My relationship is some sort of weird hybrid between an open relationship and a cuckold setup. But I can't escape the shame that comes with my girl opening her legs for another man. Do other people feel ashamed, regardless of the extent to which you find it erotic? I'm not talking about all the sissy and "you're a naughty boy aren't you?" stuff... I am just thinking of the knowledge that she's being fucked and also that several people know about it.

It's perfectly natural to feel ashamed. Especially when other people know about it. It's never fun having to admit to others that you can't satisfy your own wife. Or trying to explain that she's not cheating, she just needs a better man when it comes to sex.
If you feel jealous when watching her with another man, you should. He shouldn't have to do your job for you.
Some people won't understand. Just explain to them that it would be selfish to expect her to pleasure herself. So you support her decision to date real men who can rock her world in the bedroom.

alisha hill

Very sound advice. Cuckolding has to include some angst and despair/embarrassment plus bewilderment because the cuck just can't get his head round the fact that he is so turned on by his wife/gf fucking a superior male, black or white. It's cuckolding, get with the program!

It is a lot really about how you feel about yourself.

Maybe it's the idea of someone filling up your wife's pussy with a bigger Cock than yours that just drives you crazy? I know that I feel that way sometimes, and some of those times are when my Cock is exploding in my hand while I'm thinking about it. It can be such a turn-on! Let it be, enjoy it! The ridiculous truth is that most men care way too much about the somewhat greater or lesser number of cubic inches of flesh that dangle between their legs. When you look at it this way (which is the way that really it is) doesn't it seem ridiculous to base your whole sense of your self-worth on it?

It also has to do with how secure and strong you marriage is, both in your perception and in reality. If your marriage is in bad shape, then I think even willing Cuckolding is probably a little more likely to end it than to improve/enhance it (though it could go either way). I think the best way that you can feel about it is to love your wife so much that you want her to have all the sexual satisfaction that she deserves. You can also feel good that such a hot, sexy woman, one that so many guys are dying to Fuck, comes home to you.

And, of course, you need to communicate with her about it. You both need to know if it's something that you both really want. If it's not, maybe that has something to do with why you feel the way you do. I hope that is not the case, because when you want to be a Cuckold and she wants to be your HotWife, it's a very, very exciting Marriage. If you both really want it, then maybe sometimes it'll be her hand that's pumping the Cum out of your Cock, while she whispers into your ear how her Lover filled up her pussy. There's nothing like that!!
Old Enough to know better...but I don't!

Aranta 10/25/2020
Hi Aranta,

There is no real need for cuckolding. Modern medicine allows you to have an operation to lengthen and widen your erect penis to possibly solve your problem. An average sized erect penis is 5.16 inchs. You can possibly add 5 " to its length and the result will be totally natural. You can add girth to it through skin grafting and it will feel entirely natural. The bulls and wives won't tell you this because the bulls want a free fuck without paying any of the bills including you getting the cost of raising their "love ********". Avoid all the long run emotional hurt by sporting a 8" - 10" fat cock yourself. Avoid all the ***** handed out to you by the bull and/or the wife.
See urologists to correct the situation. Don't put up with all the BS.

You can have an long and active sex life with your wife, and she won't have time to take a lover. Otherwise the experts say you will lose her. This is all available to you today.

I am 83 years old and my beautiful wife is 77 years old. I would like to have sexual intercourse with her daily, but she wants it no more than twice a week. We compromised with a frequency of every other day. She says that's all she can handle because the intense orgasms that I give her exhaust her.

The experts say that cuckolding evolves from something that happened when you were young. If this is your case maybe you need the help of a psychiatrist. Good luck. I care.

tallbucks2
tallbucks

My wife and I split up in 2012 and divorced two years later. A few months ago I plucked up the courage to add on Facebook a guy I know she'd got friendly with, but never how friendly. He used to work for the same company as me, though not at the same location and we had similar interests in vintage transport so would see him at shows and events.

Eventually I got him chatting online about Debbie and learnt how they'd exchanged numbers as early as 1993 and how they'd meet for coffee just to talk and how she'd even go to his house. It seemed he needed someone to talk to as much as she did. There'd be long periods where they didn't meet or chat, but in 1999 apparently things came to a head.

Since mid-1997 I had broached the subject of cuckolding and we had discussed it from time to time for over 2 years. I thought that Debbie's first extra-marital encounter had been in December 1999 with a young customer from the shop she worked in, but Mark confessed to fucking my wife in the October! He explained how he'd always avoided taking things that far as he valued her friendship and because he'd known me for years, but this particular afternoon Debbie wasn't taking no for an answer. She said we'd split up and insisted he fuck her, so he did. He told me how she'd gone on top and ridden him, that he'd fingered her ass and cum inside her.

I'd grown to hate him back in 1993/4 but now, so many years later, that had gone and I was genuinely aroused to hear that Mark had actually fucked Debbie, even though she'd never told me and she'd got him to fuck her under false pretenses as we definitely hadn't split up. Quite the opposite in fact, as we were talking about who she was likely to fuck first (the young customer Chris or her delivery driver Dave) and role-playing in the bedroom with a dildo as her new lover.

The only revelation that upset me was hearing that Mark went straight into work that evening and told a long time mutual friend of ours, "You'll never guess who I fucked this afternoon? Debbie! Yes, Pete's missus!" I feel humi1iated and ashamed that he told this guy, especially as I have seen and spoken to him numerous times since. I imagine that every time he sees me he's reminded about Mark fucking Debbie and me being none the wiser. I feel at some point I should tell him that "it's okay. I know about Mark fucking my wife" to remove that shame.

Mark commented that Debbie wasn't particularly good in bed - a statement echoing another ex-work colleague of mine Mick who fucked my wife - and was shocked to be told that we hadn't split up at the time he took her to bed. He said afterwards she couldn't wait to leave and he didn't see her for months after that. It was almost as if she saw him as a "trophy fuck", to get it out of the way knowing I'd disapprove of her having sex with him before embarking on doing it with the ones she could tell me about.
Peter C

Peter c.
I think telling him that you knew about mark ******** your wife is a good idea. But he will probably have a lot of follow up questions. How much of your life are you willing to share with him. Will you tell him everything? What if he is interested in your wife?

Please tell us more.

Thank you for your response alisha. The next time I see this guy (Dave) I do hope that I am able to tell him that I know about Mark and my wife, but I rarely bump into him as we work for the same company but at different locations. I do sometimes pass him driving and we wave to each other, but I instantly feel embarrassed that he not only knows about Debbie and Mark, but no doubt got a blow-by-blow locker room account of what they did in bed, no doubt laughing about how bad she wanted it and how I was none the wiser.

Mark was surprised when I told him that I had given Debbie a free pass by agreeing that she could go with other men, which at least encouraged him to confess that he had fucked my wife though he felt a bit bad that she'd lied about us splitting up to get him to take her to bed and that she'd actually done it with him secretly 2 months before I thought she'd started cuckolding me.

As I say, my main annoyance wasn't that they'd had sex but that he'd gone to work bragging about it to a guy that knew me and Debbie very well. How many others heard about it I guess I'll never know, but with the passing of the years there are less and less people where he works that know me and even fewer that know Debbie. Mark insisted that Dave wasn't at all interested in trying Debbie out himself, though no doubt high-fived Mark for his success in getting her to open her legs and keen to hear what she was like in bed.

I would be happy to answer any questions Dave had about Debbie's extra-marital sex life.
Peter C

I hope you are able to talk to Dave about your wife and mark. Who knows, you might become even better friends. And one day, he might even start to show interest in your wife.

Thanks alisha. Getting this embarrassment off my chest to you has been very helpful, so I imagine talking to Dave about Mark and my wife will be just as therapeutic.

As far as him showing interest in Debbie, Mark told me that Dave found her "an embarrassment, too loud and foul mouthed" for his liking, though they both agreed she had great legs and nice tits. Mark would have no doubt been able to confirm to Dave that my wife's pubes matched her ginger hair and that once her legs are spread her pussy gets very wet very quickly.

Debbie is now with a new partner who keeps her on a tight leash and I doubt she has been able to get any extra cock elsewhere since she left me for him.
Peter C

As long as your wife is happy. Nothing else matters. Embarrassment is normal in this lifestyle. Just learn to enjoy it.

Once my wife had been on a date after work with a customer 12 years younger than her and let him fuck her it felt strangely satisfying to know that I now had an unfaithful wife, though of course I have since learned that she'd already asked Mark to fuck her and he'd happily obliged a couple of months previously.

Later I was privy to the information that she was seeing other men for sex, who and how, but later she became very secretive. I assume she either started having feelings for one of the guys (one I thought she'd only gone with twice I have since found out she was fucking from time to time over the course of 2-3 years) or she got more pleasure from doing it behind my back and not telling me. A friend my wife used to visit in a nearby town for the weekend once a month told me after Debbie and I had split up that she only stayed there the first couple of times. After that Debbie spent those weekends at her mate's step-dad flat in his bed.
Peter C

Sounds like she is getting everything she needs.

I would think the shame/embarrassment was what makes it all go together? Though that is embarrassing to admit! I'll chance it here. I've enjoyed my wife's sexy stories from before we were married or even met. I fantasize about inserting myself into the timeline, if I knew her back then, how embarrassing it would be to be her husband, I kind of want to use the word humiliating. but that seems too strong.

For example, during college she worked at an out door bar/grill near campus and in a neighborhood where along with students many blue collar workers were steady patrons. It was a fun casual place to hang out and work. She is pretty, and usually wore her daisy dukes when working. Several men easily got into her panties. I'm pretty sure some of them had to be talking a bit about her, sharing experiences. I wondered that with her and she had never even contemplated it, which is the sweetness about her.

So in my fantasy I would get to know her at that bar and get married, and then somehow find out about these other men I that I would know.

Sounds like a hot fantasy. That would be great.

alisha hill

I see your point in your initial reply, I would be ashamed as well if it were the case that I was unable to please my wife and needed another man to do it.

For my wife and I, that hasn't been the case. Pleasing my wife sexually or emotionally has never been an issue, the thing that gets me off the most is watching her get off as I fuck her. We, for all intents and purposes, have a healthy and satisfying sex life. I'm 44 years old and still have the stamina to fuck all night, multiple times... probably all the years of fitness and fucking I did in the military prior to getting married. And she, at 29, has the sex drive to fuck whenever I want and whenever she wants I'm able to go. So, as we've started some initial steps towards the cuckolding life, I've been doing some soul searching about why I want this, and I've come to the realization that it's an extension of me getting off to her orgasms... I just kind of want to be removed as a voyeur so I can focus fully on her as she gets off. And for her, I know she is going along with the initial steps of letting guys flirt with her because she wants to intertwine her BDSM submissive fetish and have me "punish" her when she tells me about it. But still, even removing the inability to please aspect, the thought of even wanting another guy to fuck her comes with a bit of shame for me.

Dregan76

I'm glad to hear that you and your wife still enjoy each other in the bedroom. But I definitely agree with you about the voyeurism aspect of it. I love to watch the expressions on my wife's face as our bull pleasures her. Or to see her toes curl as she climaxes. Sometimes we kiss while he is finishing inside her. I love to hear her gasp as his huge cock head slides in.
It's one of the best parts about cuckolding.

alisha hill

That's awesome. I'm glad I've found this site, because I definitely was feeling like an oddity for desiring this.

I have never felt ashamed at all, I feel proud that my wife spreads for others and is happy for me to be a part of her sex games. I even get involved in finding her extra cock and I am so happy to see her filled by younger virile cocks. You should count yourself very lucky to have a woman like you have...very lucky indeed.

pops

All of us cucks are so lucky to have wives that enjoy others cocks! Like you guys I'm always proud that she cums the best with others. I get to watch, listen and hear all her moans and screams. Sometimes holding her and always kissing as her bulls dump cum in her. What a joy! I'm about to cum just writing this! And yes, Debbie is one sexy wife! Thanks for sharing her!
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Peter C
10. I could eat Debbie all night!
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Thanks bobbye, I'm really glad you approve. I was actually very disappointed that both of the ex-work colleagues of mine that fucked Debbie said she wasn't as good as they'd hoped between the sheets. I still rate her as the best fuck I've ever had and I was pleased to be told that her mate's step-dad had said that Debbie was a really good shag and gave great blow-jobs. You'd have liked her for sure!
Peter C