What to make of this ?

My wife and I belong to a local gym. My wife called me and said she got a text from her trainer that he had someone cancel tonight if she wanted to come in. He's a handsome young guy, maybe 30, in great shape. He's about 6'2 and all muscle. I haven't been to the gym in 2 months but I've seen this guy around before. He looks like he's packing, if you know what I mean. Anyway, something seemed odd so I was supposed to work till 8 but came home at 6:30 and she was already gone. At 9:00 she still wasn't home and not responding to her phone so I decided to call the gym. The girl that answered said this trainer was off today and she hadn't seen him or my wife. So I'm trying to figure out how to handle this. Am I being paranoid or could there be something here.

Well it sounds like there is definitely SOMETHING up. Clearly, she lied to you. The question is why and to what end. And not answering her phone. I will say this, women practicing deception have a tendency to throw some truth into their lies. It's almost as if they tell themselves that by revealing a partial truth, they aren't actually being dishonest with you. I've seen it firsthand more than once. My question is, do you want there to be something going on with your wife and the trainer? If it turns out that there is, will you be upset that you were deceived? Just curious. Good luck.

It could be anything really, the question is how you feel about it

This is the question. As runner1nj is here on a cuckold website we must assume that he is either into or fantasizes about the lifestyle.

From what he's posted above, his wife would appear to be cheating on him so it would be interesting to know what was said when she got home and if her husband is happy for this to continue. They need to talk. Communication is key.
Peter C

Yawn wanabee
Droopy and Miss

maybe, or maybe he's stumbled on a situation he's unfamiliar with and can't handle it, although I agree with Peter C that if he's entirely 'innocent' then what's he doing on a cuckold website?

So, first of all, I've been on this site awhile but it's always been fantasy. Never talked about or acted on. I never said I'd be upset if she is fooling around as I've had fantasies about it for years. The thought of it was always a turn on. But now I'm torn because of the unknown (is this a fling or is she going to leave) and the reality of the situation. And I still don't know what, if anything, happened.

Yes, it's awkward. I was going to say that your best bet would be to tell your wife what you'd been told when you phoned the gym that evening and admit that the thought that there may be something going on turns you on and that you're cool with it, but you know your wife better than I do, so that might not be the best approach at all. Is she likely to be defensive if you accuse her or do you need to be more subtle?

I know exactly what you mean by being torn by the unknown and the reality of the situation - cuckold angst, we call it. We don't know what this trainer has in mind, nor your wife for that matter. He most probably sees it as a fling, if he has s1ept with your wife or is hoping to. You do need to talk to her though. I'm guessing you've never revealed your cuckold fantasy to your wife? Now would be a good time to introduce it into your "pillow talk", maybe some role-play in the bedroom with a sex toy if she has one, though if she has embarked on an affair this may ring alarm bells with her as being too much of a coincidence.

Whichever way you choose to play this I wish you luck and hope you can resolve this predicament to the satisfaction of you both.
Peter C

Peter C has offered you some sound advice, I suggest you act on it. I'd be interested to know how this works out, as probably a lot more on here would be also.

Do you have a plan of sorts? To outright ask her, or do some snooping?

Do you have a plan of sorts? To outright ask her, or do some snooping?

You should ask her. At least then you have her on the record for the future. All the long talks and negotiating that it takes to get into the lifestyle aside, wouldn't you rather have a heads up of what's really going on just in case it's heading towards the worst case scenario, your wife leaving you for another man? I would have to find out so that I could get my head right. Also, if that were the case, you might still have a chance of reeling her back in. The longer you wait while she gives her pussy to another man, the worse your chances get.

Wise words geecrizz and I hope he heeds our advice.It worries me slightly that he hasn't been back on here to reply, but I hope things turn out okay for all concerned.
Peter C

The best way to know for sure is to take a taste of her pussy when she returns.
Cuck who loves a creampie.

Keep us posted runner.. Hope it works out best for all of you!

Similar situation I have faced many years ago but that was the start into the lifestyle. My wife went out and met an older, very charming guy. They flirted and later she told me that nothing serious happend, she was testing the water.

I was very jealous and wanted to know everything. At the beginning my wife did not want to tell any details but I pushed her to do so. The more she told me the more turned on I was. When my wife told me that at the end of the evening there was some light kissing and he fondled her under her blouse I could not hold back any more. It took some time that my wife realised what was happening and that my mood changed dramatically.

This was the beginning of our new lifestyle we live for many years now.
Men like women with a past because they hope history will repeat itself!

Worries me that runner1nj hasn't posted anything else about his suspicions, so I'm wondering if it's all ended badly or he hasn't yet bit the bullet and talked to his wife about this.
Peter C

My money's on this!