Can anyone help settle my nerves please?

you think she might be a bit fearful if your not there? Maybe she is into the *********** aspect? Another reason to talk it out..Why is very important,your support also..

You did well to hold your nerve baiout. Make sure now the insecurity that engulfed me doesn't make you pull the plug and ensure you show your girlfriend lots of love and affection right now. My wife seemed to be watching to see if I was disgusted with her being so easy for that young, cocky guy and needed re-assuring that I still loved her. Once it's happened of course, there's no going back. You cannot change the fact that the woman you love has been unfaithful. We never called it "unfaithful" or "cheating" though - Debbie was just "naughty" or "busy"!

You do need a strong, trusting relationship to succeed with this lifestyle and you sound as though you have that. Keep us up-to-date with any developments. You have a lot of people here happy to offer insight and advice, so feel free to ask anytime. Well done, both of you!
Peter C

I don't think it's so much the hum1liation thing, it's more she wants to see me there as well and that we can enjoy it together.

Her biggest fear was that my opinion would change of her after the deed was done. The only way its changed is that I love her even more than before.

We have both gone out of our comfort zone and come through the other side strong. Because we both agreed to do it, I'll never see it as cheating or unfaithful, thankfully

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A positive, she's reassured and so are you.

That's a positive, you're both looking to 'play' again, with mutual satisfaction the next time though. You both did well.

We are happy to do it with others. She said she doesn't want to with him anymore as it cn come with baggage. He is back with his ex gf and she can be a handful.

Yes, he came in her and after he as gone, I let myself in and after some cuddling I went down and cleaned her out.

Today has been completely different. We have missed each other so much while I was at work and I'm finally round hers now, I bought her flowers and we can't stop telling each other how amazing it is to be together. Just loving life at the moment

WELL DONE & CONGRATULATIONS.

Welcome to our club. From now on, you're wearing the horns. If you're going to wear them, wear them proudly.

Enjoy the journey my friend.
~sissy~

Similar to when my wife first did it. How do you envisage this going now though? If she doesn't want to go with this ex-friend with benefits again, has she got other guys already in mind or is she content to wait and see who else comes along? I'm of the opinion that women - especially women that cuckold us husbands or boyfriends - send out signals unc0nci0usly that guys seem to home in on and, as was the case with my wife, they start getting chatted up more. Maybe this is just the ego boost to their self-confidence that being allowed extra cock brings. Debbie had a definite spring in her step for several days after she'd been with someone different.
Peter C

That has been exactly my experience too. Without anything being said, some wives give out subconscious signals that they are available - that's my cue to act!

Peter C

Well, we've gone on a site with a couple profile and stated interests in cuckolding and mmf threesomes. The threesomes would mainly be me being there and kissing her, playing etc while the other guy gets to have sex. I'd mainly be there to clean and get to orgasm myself after they have had their fun.

She just really wants me involved next time so she can enjoy it more and see me enjoying it too

baiout

With the 5 guys my wife went with, it was all just one on one and I wasn't bothered by that. I was more than happy just knowing she was out being "naughty" and hearing all about it when she got home. She wasn't convinced I could handle being there whilst a man fucked her, but I do remember her saying to me once, "If you were to walk in on me having sex with someone, you wouldn't even try and stop us would you?" No, I wouldn't have done.
Peter C

Congratulation on growing your cuckold horns!
Now that you have had a taste of another man's cum, you'll find yourself craving for more.
Cuck who loves a creampie.

cuckold4one

Thank you. Already craving for another taste. Its much better than cleaning up after yourself

Yes, I quite agree. After my wife had been to see that ex-workmate of mine, I was summoned to pick her up from near his house. She was wearing a short denim mini-skirt, bare legs, no knickers and Mick's cum dribbling out of her in the car. We couldn't go to bed straightaway as our kids were up, but when we did, her pussy was still red, puffy and oozing and I was soon between her legs cleaning up after Mick, imagining his smug grin having finally nailed Debbie.

Her juices mixed with his cum tasted exquisite and she felt so open and used when I fucked her. My first proper sloppy seconds. Other guys had used condoms up till then.
Peter C

I'm looking forward to it so much. We've been chatting to another guy who has a nice big dick to play with. This time I'll either get to watch or listen

Props to Linda and Kenny for telling it like it is. The cuck will tend to get less, and the overall odds are that she will become more involved with one of us who can give her the rough treatment and domination she craves.


For some women, it is just sex, but for most I think there is a visceral need for a strong man who will stand up to her and take what he wants. However dude who is the bull doesn't have to be an jerk about it. It is possible to act like you don't care about their relationship in front of her vanilla guy, but be considerate in what and when and where you ask her to do. Sort of theater to get yourself and her off, while making sure it stays just thrills for yourself.

As a D/S and bi switch, I am sensitive to the fact that subs can get hurt emotionally, in this case cuckold angst, but in the end, if giving up almost all semblance of control is a problem, don't get involved with the lifestyle. Jus sayin. It has been almost 40 years since I put the horns on someone, but I will never forget the rush, and the feeling of release as I allowed myself to dominate a woman beyond society's norms.


In the end, if you really are deeply and constantly a cuck in your inside emotions and thoughts, your life will probably be better with the angst, and you living as her cuck, than to pull back. Plus it is pretty uncool to ask a woman to break through a lot of social taboo and personal conditioning, and then leave her hanging!!!!!

This is varsity stuff, and although I cant begin to imagine sharing my wife, I have the utmost respect for men who are cuckolds in some sort of loving and respectful relationship. We may call them wimps in casual speech, or when talking trash, but the ones who can survive being a CUCK are some of the most tenacious/resilient weeds in the garden of sex!

oldbearswitch

You make some good and relevant points.

oldbearswitch

Thank you for that. We're going through a funny time with it at the moment. When she wants to talk about it, I shut off a bit and vice versa. We want to have fun with this lifestyle, but with us both having genuine anxiety issues, it sometimes gets a bit complicated

I did warn you didn't I? I got very insecure after my wife went with that young lad and, as we'd agreed that if either of us had issues with what had happened, then it stopped. I was the one that asked for it to stop and she did. I regretted this later though and with the benefit of hindsight I should have toughed it out and let her carry on as originally planned. We had a few quiet days, with her feeling bad that she'd let him fuck her so easily and then him not getting in touch, but we rode out the storm and I was able to reassure her that I still loved her and no harm had been done by us playing out this fantasy of ours.

It was to be 9 years before she felt ready to experience dating and sex with other guys and trusted me enough to be able to cope with her cuckolding me again. Don't let that happen to you!
Peter C

Peter C

We both want to do it again, but want to approach it differently next time. We're only 34 and 36, so thankfully we have time to do it right

Of course you do. If you don't have the best experience with that guy, don't be put off by it, there's so many other very willing Bulls out there, and one of them (or more maybe) is the right guy for you two. Find him and enjoy where it takes you. You both want this, that's half the battle, just keep looking for the right man.

How's things between you two? Any progress?
Peter C

Yes baiout, take your time...you are both young. My wife and I just broke through with the lifestyle 9 months ago and she's 42 and I'm 50. I tried to get her to fuck other guys with my permission 10 years ago, it took that long, but I was persistent in convincing her that I would react favorably and now she's all in...no turning back. She LOVES it. It's funny because all those years she was blowing it off I could see beyond her words. I knew that if she could let go and try it that she would be hooked. My best advice to you would be to try and be flexible. It's like a battle plan, no matter how you picture it or plan it, it never goes exactly according to plan. We are happier now than anytime in the 22 years we've been together. Being on the inside of a woman's sexual psyche is so hot.

Thanks again guys. We had a meet with someone about 6 weeks ago, maybe more. We had a d r I n k and a laugh, then they fucked in front of me. We enjoyed it, but unfortunately, I couldn't get it up. It was still very hot to be kissing her while he took her from behind. Nothing more has happened since, but we keep the fantasy going and will probably do it again

It would be selfish of you to not let her do it

If you really love her, proceed
break

bxl
Considering the post was made nearly five years ago your advice might have come a little bit late!!