The Emotional Toll Of Cuckolding

When my wife and I agreed to enter a cuckold lifestyle and I finally became her cuckold the sexual excitement that surrounded both of us was unbelievable. I fell into a deep, deep, deep state of ********** and made sure to make up for my sexual inadequacies by putting her pussy up on the pedestal so to speak. She would fuck her lover and she was rewarded by me with a Louis Vuitton purse. Come home with your pussy full of another man's cum and I was taking her shopping. She owned me, she knew it, and we both loved it.

When cuckolding me she had a glow to her. Not just from the fucking she was recieving although that definatly put a smile on her face but a reflection she was proud to look at in the mirror. Her self confidence sky rocketed and she had all the power.

Then the cuckolding came to an end thanks to her ex-boyfriend who simply could not just FUCK my wife whenever she wanted...he had to get emotionally all wrapped up and ended everything.

Since this has happened my wife and I have basically become almost asexual. The teasing and the excitement a distant memory. Is this typical when a wife loses her new man?

Unfortunately I think the answer is yes. They have gone beyond purely enjoying the uninhibited sex they originally had and become emotionally involved, or at least that's what it sounds like to me. Never a good idea, it can lead to countless problems further down the line. It's important to keep your marriage etc and fucking separate. Your being cuckolded and her fucking her chosen lover/bull should remain on a purely physical level. You being torn apart emotionally by it is normal, it's that good old cuckold angst striking once again, But the upside of that is that often it draws the two of you closer together. Yes, it will give her a huge boost in her confidence, her sexiness, and her ability to take control of who she dates, fucks etc. She needs to get back out there, in the market place, and find herself a new stud. Even a temporary stud that can provide sexual servicing would be good in the interim. Let us know how things pan out.

I whole hardly agree with Kenny on this..Thats the problem with a extended relationship between wife and her lover.Feelings develope, he may get possive and she thinks she is in love and wants to please him..It happened to me so I know it can happened to others.. Good luck dear I guess the only thing you can do is ride it out hoping he moves on...

The thing is her lover was not someone she could ever be with. Do I believe she had feelings in some form or another of course I do. I think that is natural once a sexual union has occured particularly with wives. With that said he was the one that was emotional about their fuck arrangement. My wife made it very clear to him that this all about her getting the sexual pleasure she so desperately needed, litteraly fucking away years of sexual frustration and deprivation. She never even kissed him when they fucked. I knew when she choose to cuckold me with him that my marriage was completely secure and this what about purely getting his ten inch cock in her hungry pussy. My wife and I our soulmates. I have a very successful life, a six figure career, and our three ******** all love and respect me. Even if my wife hated me she would not leave. I am too good of a provider. If she ever did decide to leave I would not stop her as it honestly would be understandable concerning our sexual life. With that said my story is known here and I can not and will not ever be able to sexually satisfy her and this is the only place we are incompatible.

Linda38dd-My wife chose her lover because she already had carnal knowledge of him, knew she could own him in the sheets, and was comfortable and secure in his presence. She always tells me she simply is not comfortable jumping on some rando's pogo stick. Is this about self confidence, the feelings she may have for him or herself, or that she knows his big cock hits her G-Spot in the right place?

If she is able to keep completely separate her fucking him or other guys, if she's only looking for sexual satisfaction and an improved sex life, and there's no possibility of her falling for this guy, or any other, then she has her head screwed on right and it can work. She's able to separate sex from love, both are very different things. But, if her friend and ex fuck buddy cannot, then you have a problem. He becomes possessive and you've seen the result. Even with a fuck buddy situation there will always be a certain amount of emotional closeness, but not to the point of any desire to break up a marriage. I just hope that she can find the right guy who will give her what she wants without coming between you and her.

Kenny is bang on with this. I have ended relationship in the past because the hotwife got emotionally attached to me. Have to end it there.... sex is separate from the feelings. Hope you both find a man like me!!! Just in it for the sex

While by and large I agree with what bovril has said, I would point out that my current long term fuck buddy/slut, whatever you want to call her (I often just call her 'cunt' coz that's what she is primarily) has developed 'feelings' for me and I for her. I absolutely don't want her to leave her husband and offspring, the whole ethos of me being a Bull is to cuckold some poor sap and enjoy fucking his wife. If she were a single woman the deep seated pleasure I get from fucking her just wouldn't be there. She stays with him, we fuck very often, he never gets to fuck her now, he's denied and accepts it. Her only concession to him is to blow him now and then, that's it. I certainly don't want to apart from her, but I don't want to move in with her either. Classic case of having your cake and eating it? Maybe!

Emotional attachment is the beginning of the end in my experience. Once she falls for you emotionally as well as sexually Kenny, there is no point in it for anyone..., you are better of becoming exclusive then.

Once you go balls deep in her, she owns your ass. Regardless of the guy's feelings, or her words, she now considers herself in an emotional relationship with you. That goes for every man. It is never "just sex" with a woman. It doesn't work that way.

It can become real "emotional" for hubby also.. If or when she decides to take her cheating cunt, and everything he owns, with her!
..............PSEUDO PERSON...YMMV!

[quote=I_A_S_P]Regardless of the guy's feelings, or her words, she now considers herself in an emotional relationship with you. That goes for every man. It is never "just sex" with a woman. It doesn't work that way.

I do agree that a woman has emotions to those that she let's inside of her but I also believe that a woman can also simply just need and desire to just be fucked. Just because she chooses to do so does not mean that she does not want to be with her husband or significant other. Sometimes it is as simple as the husband is just completely sexually inadequate and she needs a big cock that can touch her in places her husband can not reach.

I am glad my wife chose someone she was comfortable with the go balls deep into her hungry pussy. This guy had always been someone who she would jump onto his pogo stick, take a ride, and then run away. Absolutely no desire to be with him just desired his big dick. It had always been like that with them even before I was in the picture.

I think the emotional toll this all has taken on my wife is she had been sexually frustrated for years, finally found a man that completely sexually satisfied her, and then he bailed. From low to high to low.

Obviously true in your case. Even so, she's being quite emotional about it.


Yet you say there are no emotions involved?


I believe your particular scene has taken a big emotional toll on both of you!

I've pissed off, I mean really pissed off my fair share of women. When I fuck up and she blows her stack, I'll speak softly and lovingly toward her. This is guaranteed to totally flip her out and she's liable to throw an ashtray or whatever at me! Of course I'll quickly duck and get out of her way before she tears me to pieces. I'll say something like, "I'm going to be the number one man occupying all the thoughts inside your pretty head for a good while!" Seriously, when you pull a stunt like that, book as fast as you can!

Now, I haven't the slightest clue about your particular situation. I can assure you that her lover is #1 on her mind! Soon, he will be balls deep inside your wife again!
..............PSEUDO PERSON...YMMV!

If that is the case why did she ignore him when he messaged her saying he was horny?

the answer to all this is to accept emotional involvement and stop trying to put up a fence between that and sex. Its only going to get knocked down
B.Kellard