Scared first timer

I've been coming to this site for a decade. I've fucking my wife with a dildo for a decade and a half. I've been telling her she can have sex with other guys for about a decade, but I never pushed her to do it.

This week I found out she has been having phone sex with her ex-boyfriend for a few months and that he will be "in town" in a month or so. This is an ex that she had such good sex with she only orgasms now by closing her eyes thinking about him.

The big turnaround is that she is now saying she will fuck him. She is now talking about what she will wear in a joking way, but I think that's just to get my reaction to confirm I'm ok with it.

I'm so freaking scared. I want this to happen. I want my precious wife to get fucked by him on every surface and every room in our house. But she left him last time because he was a sex addict and wanted sex three or four times a day. She started to get addicted to him.

She also said that she would use him to fill a need I'm not filling. I'm scared she will leave me, but I also want this to happen SO MUCH!

How do I do this? How do I help her with her first hookup with her? Help her pick out what to wear?

What do I do to help this once it starts? Like what do I do when I know she is fucking him? Masturbate? Edge? I think she will want to keep her sex life to herself. How do I convince her to share how it felt?

I'm really scared and going into the unknown with this! Advice needed!

Talk with her and make it a condition for your consent that she remain open with you. He should be told by her that she is meeting with him with your knowledge and consent and every time she is with him you and her should have sex afterward.

sarracenia

Advice in this situation is very simple. You asked and you shall receive. She will do things 100% her way. You will just have to learn to accept your diminished role in your marriage. This is a binary choice. Words? Reasoning? Rules? Forget it!

Scared are you? Bring extra underwear because you'll be sh1tting your pants plenty! This trip is one hell of a (odds are one-way) journey!
..............PSEUDO PERSON...YMMV!

What you're suffering from is that age old condition that cuckolds are struck down by - cuckold angst! That deep and heady mixture of emotions, lust, desire, ultra horniness, and deep rooted fear that she will leave you for a better man, or at least one that can provide vastly improved quality of sex. There is no instant remedy, but you both have to be completely open and honest with each other, and hold nothing back. If needs be agree to some 'rules' before anything actually happens. Above all else, you need to show some trust and tell her that's what you're doing.
Yes, you could end up losing her to him or another guy, but you could also have the time of your lives. Let us know what happens.

This is a very normal experience as you begin into a cuckold relationship. From the sound of things you have been unable to fufill your duties as a husband and your wife simply wants to relieve her pent up sexual frustrations.

You may be intimidated that she is talking with her ex-boyfriend but in my experience this is quite normal. Most woman are more comfortable fucking someone that they know outside the marriage because they have already established a relationship with that person. It makes pulling her panties down for him a lot easier.

There is a possibility your unfulfilled wife would leave you particularly after she rekindles the sexual flame she had with a sex addict and she is going through sexual withdrawals. Now is the time for you to worship the ground she walks on. Make her the center of your being. Make up for your sexual inadequacies by spoiling her with everything.

When you first become cuckolded it is like an up and down roller coaster of emotions. The butterflies eventually subside and your wife fucking another man becomes normal. When it is time you need to take your wife shopping for whatever she wants. Have her pick the lingerie out she thinks her ex-boyfriend will enjoy. Get her nails done are her hair did. This is your role now, to prepare her to be fucked by a real man.

Nicely put.

I couldn't put it better myself. When my wife went out with - and was fucked by - a young guy for the first time, I was fine at first but the real anxiety and insecurity kicked in a couple of days after and this led to her not cuckolding me again for some 9 years. In hindsight I should have kept a lid on my emotions and let things take their course. Then my wife would no doubt have enjoyed much more extra-marital cock than the 5 I know about.

It is important to be open and discuss how she is going to play this and maybe suggest certain ground-rules, but I found with my wife that eventually any rules go out of the window and they'll go out and get what they need elsewhere regardless, but at the end of the day I was fine with that.
Peter C

That's a telling statement Peter, at least you're prepared to admit there is a distinct possibility that there were a lot more than the five you know about. I agree with you about setting rules too. Rules are fine, but they often get totally ignored in the heat of the moment (not without a condom for example) and they do end up doing what suits them. Just like guys think with their cocks sometimes, so wives are ruled by how hot their cunt is!

Yes, I would not be surprised if there were others. Maybe not a lot more, but I suspect there may have been a couple long before I even suggested cuckolding and possibly one or two in that last year together when she became more secretive. You have to bear in mind that I have only recently found out about the fifth one from the mate she was supposed to be visiting at weekends when she was in fact at her mate's step-dad's.
Peter C

Thanks for all of the advice. I've managed to keep the angst from her. She is picking out lingerie and asking my advice on what to wear for him! She is already suggesting that she will get what's currently lacking elsewhere... but she says that sex would be private and she doesn't want to share details. She is also talking about exclusive sex with him.

Is all that normal?

Yes.
..............PSEUDO PERSON...YMMV!

Sounds by the way she is talking that there is a very good possibility you might loose her. It's her ex for one thing. She doesn't want to share details with you. And She is talking about exclusive sex with him. Where do you really think that leaves you. How good is your relationship?
You need to do some serious talking. At least so you understand whats really going on. Why don't you make an effort to improve your sex with her?

My wife cuckolded me a while back now. He was our neighbor, was and still is a best friend of mine. Being that he was our neighbor, she always went to his house, so I never got to watch or listen. She did give me details though, and being that he was just next door, the creampie was pretty fresh.

Here is a link to my story, maybe you can get something from it. (Holy crap, it was a long time ago)

https://www.cuckoldplace.com/36_60320_1.html


Good luck!

This all seems too much too soon to my way of thinking, bearing in mind how long you have been role-playing in the bedroom and suggesting she should fuck other men.

My wife took less time to persuade, but that still involved over 2 years of bedroom role-play with a dildo and gentle encouragement to accept any offers she got from other men. I'd have been particularly anxious had my wife wanted to meet up with an ex again, not come home and share the details and not continued to have sex with me.

I think you're right to be scared.
Peter C

It almost goes without saying that every couple is different from EVERY other couple, so great advice for one couple could be horrible advice for another. I'm not smart enough to give the best advice for YOUR SITUATION but here's how we handled the fears and uncertainties you are suffering.

First: We love each other profoundly- beyond sex and lust. We TRUST each other to the death.

Having said that, since both of us were brand new to this, neither of us were sure what the "best" rules were. We decided to handle it this way:

We gave each other absolute VETO POWER. In other words, as we were experimenting our way in this cuckolding lifestyle if either of us became uncomfortable we could put an immediate, dead stop to whatever was going on. No questions asked. The other partner agreed that no explanation was required and the veto could be used at ANY time under ANY circumstances, for ANY reason- or even NO REASON at all. Even if the gave permission 10 minutes before, it could be stopped right then and there, regardless of what we were doing and with whom.

This was a big help in making us both feel more secure. We each knew things would never get out of hand and we were in control.
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TinyCockWimp
My wife and I made the same agreement. though in hindsight I let my angst and insecurity get the better of me when I asked her to stop 2 days after she'd been out on a date with a lad 12 years younger than her and been fucked 3 times that same evening.

It put paid to any further activity with him, but 9 years later we did re-embark on the lifestyle again. Now older and wiser, I was much more able to handle the cuckold angst and my wife now 44 - went with 4 other men, two of them in their mid-late 20s. One was even an ex-workmate of mine I didn't get on with and I handled that with ease too.
Peter C

I found out she has already picked what lingerie she will wear with him. I'm not allowed to see it, but I'm trying to have her dress as a school girl as she was a teen school girl when they were together.

I'm goin'to try and have it happen my house. At least then I know where they will fucked and I'll be able to come home to the smell of sec. I accept this may end us
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jabal244
You asked why I don't make an effort to be better at sex. The fact is no man can ever compete to a young girl's first partner. He took her flower. On top of that, my sex driver is fairly low.

An update on this - I still don't know if it's happened but she is asking me how I would feel if she became pregnant by him. She hates my cum - smell, taste and everything. She gave me head once when we were first dating and never did it again. I don't know if she is already fucking him or not, but the question rattled me. I kinda think I'd be okay with that.

sarracenia:

I'm a little confused by your posting and account of events. Did you loose track of time or marry a new woman since 2010??

Saw this from your past postings....

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She came home last night fairly early - she was working the next day. Without a word she sat me down on a chair, stood over me, held my chin and head firmly and started kissing me.

It only took a moment for me to realise that her mouth was full of cum that was flowing straight into my mouth. We kissed like this for a while, enjoying the taste and licking every last drop off each others lips.

This is the first time I've tasted cum and I have to say it was really nice.

It strikes me a bit funny that I've now tasted a guy's cum who I've never met.
Cuck who loves a creampie.

That was fantasy. I've wanted it for ages but it's just happening now.

So, she goes out with him, shows me the lingerie she is wearing and has made a few comments about how amazing it is to have great sex again. Apparently he can go several times and always makes her cum a couple of times.

She's been bought a set of ropes and "silks". She has a collar, arm bands, leg bands and body bands that barely cover her breasts and vagina, each in silk, and each with a ring on it. I asked what's done with it and she just laughs and says that's private. Keep in mind she is standing in front of me wearing all it all. So I think she is submissive. She is so beautiful and sexy but instead of tying her down and fucking her all I want to do is tie her down open the door and let some guy in to have fun with her.

I get a wave of "oh **** what am I doing", then so horny I could explode, then masturbate and feel a wave of remorse again. If she is out that can have several rounds.

I just bought thigh high vinyl boots for him. For her to wear for him. My heart was thumping through my chest as I bought them.

It's all really exciting, but at the same time I don't know how long I have until she moves on to him. He's liking it at the moment because he can still fuck his current partner. But I think the two have chemistry and at the moment I think they are bonding.

Well, you're now on the cuckold train. There's no stopping her, she will probably carry on fucking him no matter how much you beg her to stop, so, you might as well sit back, support her to to the max and hope she keeps you around as a sub or slave

On the plus side if he is domming your wife, at some point he might want to show how much he owns her to you. Then you probably see her perform all manner of wonderful submissive depravities. Lots of things she has never, or ever will do with you! Enjoy it all

So true. She was finding it hard to sit earlier this week and I still don't know if she was spanked, whipped, or fucked in the ass (obviously has never done this with me). I don't want to ask too much because it's personal. Reading your post makes me hard though. I kinda want to see her have the clothes ripped off of her, thrown to the bed and fucked.

What you want doesn't matter. It takes a long time to sink in but anything you want, doesn't matter. Just get on your knees to her and thank her for allowing to stay in her life and beg to please keep serving her. For us cucks the fun is in servitude and chastity 😈

I hate to constantly ask if this is normal, but the weirdest thing happened today. I met my wife's ex... lover... bull... I don't know what to call him other than Scott. He came in and grabbed my wife's ass and pulled her in for a kiss. I got an instant boner but still said "hey settle down". The guy punched me square in the cheek. I mean it sent my head spinning and I fell to the ground. My wife came down, gently caressed were I was hit then slapped that same cheek so hard it made a cracking noise and sent me to the floor. They were literally giggling before he picked her up, put her on a kitchen bench and started fucking her. I was laying the with ***** dripping down from my nose (not much, but still). And watched her get fucked for the first time. I was in a bit of shock but I could see he wasn't using a condom. They fucked really hard and fast. I don't know if that's normal for them or if they were horny after hitting me. I'm not sure I'm okay with the punching and slapping. So to be stupid again, is that normal?

I wouldn't let that happen to me! You're being demeaned and made fun of. No one should be treated that way. If it was my wife I'd leave her to her boyfriend. She doesn't love you and I wonder if she ever really did. Dump her and find someone who really loves you. You were assaulted! I'd press charges.

I find this difficult to believe sorry
Droopy and Miss

You are right. This has gone beyond fantasy, beyond the bounds of normal and I only have myself to blame. I thought I might be demeaned by sucking his cock, not getting sucker punched. I'm going to leave this situation, I feel physically ill. I mean I'm going to separate Monday. Pandora's box....

And next time you find someone build a solid loving relationship before ever doing anything like this.