Finally: Wife Told Me Her Fantasy - Scared!

I've posted before under a different username. Now I have a major update

I've tried telling my wife about cuckolding before and she's always told me it would be the end of our marriage and she wasn't interested. It led to major arguments.So I pretty much gave up, until last year.

Fast forward and we were going to a friends party, when my wife saw live stream of the party with the guy hosting topless. He's very muscular and her jaw dropped and said she would do anything to 'fuck that'. She told me she was sopping wet and would need to change before we went to the party!

In the end, we didn't go and I told her to imagine she was fucking him. She went on top and went wild - came really hard. Like always though, she wouldn't talk about this kind of thing - and we'd get into an argument. I get called sick and watch too much porn if I say anything.

Anytime I brought it up, I'd get shut down and no sex. That's how it's been for the last year.

Until a few weeks ago. My wife came back from a friends a bit *****. She asked if I had sick fantasies about her friend. She said she didn't mind if I did, as she had a really sick sex dream. She refused to tell me what it was.

Eventually, after begging, she said she would tell me, but it was very demeaning for me.

In her dream, she had been at the gym on the treadmill, checking out guys. She saw one really muscular guy and she said he got her pussy tingling looking at him. So, she went to the sauna to get away from him. After a while of being in there alone, this guy enters. She can't help looking at his body. She doesn't make a move until he moves and she can see the outline of his massive cock in his trunks.

She tells me in the dream she didn't even care it was cheating, that her sole interest in men is a big cock. She's never once mentioned this before, but I've seen she does occasionally check out a weird blog about celebrity bulges. My wife tells him to fuck her and he takes out his cock and searches for a condom. She tells him no condoms, and lays down and spreads her legs. He pins her down and hammers her really hard and deep.

At this point she tells me that I could never fuck that hard or for that long, and that's the big letdown in our sex life. She's always said it was really good to this point. As he was starting to cum, she wrapped her legs around him and pulled him in deeper. Then she massaged his cock up and down to get out every last drop.

At this point, she laughs and tells me that my cock is nice enough but nothing like the guy in her dream. she then taps it, and notices I'm hard. she pulls back the sheets and laughs telling me I'm sick and that shouldn't turn me on. Then says 'oh my god' - you've never been this hard'. We fuck hard and she says collapses saying how good it was.

I ask her if there are any men in the gym she fancies, and she says no, they are ugly. I'm the only person she would want to fuck there even though I'm not up to her standard. She also tells me she doubts they have bigger cocks than me so it wouldn't be worth it.

I try and ask more and she tells me that it would never happen and the dream is a sign I need to get bigger muscles and learn to fuck her harder and for longer.

Once again I'm shut down!

What do I do?

I don't think you need to do much, since she seems to be well on her way already, though she may not be aware of it or in denial.
Just let her know you want her to be happy and fulfilled - no matter what. Maybe try to provide opportunities for her to be among real men, with you present to reassure her that it's fine to lust after them.
One thing you need to figure out for you is how you want to deal with her wanting to go bare as she indicated.

ldcpgfan

Thanks. I'm wondering if it would be best to start watching porn together or give her something to watch?

I agree with ldcpgfan. You're well on your way. Be supportive and make sure she knows you want her to be happy. (And I _don't_ mean by insisting that she go ahead with it.)

My guess, and it's only just a guess, is that she would be put off by porn.

I'm going to stick my neck out and say that I think you should settle for her sometimes telling you in bed that she wants to fuck other guys. Even if both of you know it's just done in fantasy to excite you.

Why? Because if she sometimes says that, it may easily sometimes sink into her subconscious.

Of course it takes a long time. You'd rather have it take a long time than not be successful at all, right?

Keep us posted. I think with a dream like that, you might enjoy it all very much. And if she was just testing you with that dream, to see your reaction? Even better. Many women are quite rightly scared that their husbands couldn't handle it if they got what they've asked for.

xoxoxo

Christine

What a great suggestion! Thankyou.

Yup - listen to her, really listen, and figure out what *she* wants... It looks like there are some indications...
And if you can find joy in her fulfillment, she'll find a place for you to be a part of it.

bpop
She did use to like watching porn, but I always would have to chose something and it was almost always wrong.

She did used to subscribe to a male bulge blog as well.

I was shocked when she told me that I couldn't hammer her like she needed and sex was a let down.

She definitely has a sexual weakness for very muscular guys.

Apparently I need to get some serious muscles to service her how she wants. Afterwards she told me that it's my job to get a bigger body and fuck her harder and she's not going to let anyone do that instead!

It's just lazy of me apparently!

I don't believe her either when she says she's not seen any guys at the gym she wants to ***** with.

ldcpgfan
A few weeks ago, I sent her a cuckolding gif. No captions - just a big cock cumming in a pussy and pulling out.

She got very annoyed and asked why I sent her that.

That night though she was very wet and horny. That's the problem how she says she feels and what seems to turn her on are very different!

We sometimes have weekends away and she tells me to do whatever I want to her. If I did though I'm sure she would want a divorce!

Start her off by video chatting in a cam room. I used swingerslifestyle and it worked very well. She was able to relax and let go as she felt it was anonymous. Slowly as we chatted and the other person(s) on cam ask to see her tits she relented and let me undress her for them.

Slowly as we (she) chatted with other couples having sex on cam or watching people masterbate she soon was joining in. Next thing I know she put on a mask started getting wild and the rest is history. The first time I fucked her on cam and she read all the positive comments she was hooked.

Within just a month or two she was fucking, cumming and giving me the pie on cam all the time. From there it wasn't hard to leap into someone else's bed

A quick update. A few nights ago, my wife and I were talking in bed about Christmas presents. The conversation went on for a while, then she asks me if I had an interesting dream over the weekend.

I said not that I know of (knowing full well what it was!) - but she kept pushing. I tell her I've been having dreams about her having sex with other men. She says that's not weird at all, and asks if they are ugly men, the type of skinny hipster men she fancies, or some other type. I tell her these are very muscular guys and they fuck her hard and deep.

She's not seeming turned on, but she keeps asking questions. I tell her she knows one of the men but she won't like it. I tell her and she says his muscles do get her wet but she can't control that, she's not interested in sex with him !!

Next she wants to know if we're having threesomes with each of these guys, or if it's just her and them. I tell her I just watch and she tells me how much more they satisfy her. To my shock she wasn't surprised and tells me she could see me wanting that as I like watching her play with herself.

She said this was a totally normal fantasy the only thing that would be slightly strange was if I wanted her to start having sex with other men. I couldn't help focus on 'slightly strange'.

Finally, she asks why is it she's having sex with all these men in my dreams. What's making her so horny? I explain they are muscular (even though she says that's not her type, past conversations make me think that it is) and have the stamina she told me I can't give her. She asks is that all?

So I say no, they have very big thick cocks that stretch her pussy and each one cums in her without a condom. Again, she doesn't say anything that shows she's turned on. What she did say was that she shocked me a bit.

She said that the problem with that was the kind of guy who was really big would probably not have a big enough cock. She said she couldn't tell me if she wanted a larger cock. Mine was the biggest she's seen in real life and she didn't know how it would be to try a bigger cock.

I asked if she was curious and she said she didn't know how sex with a big cock would be. It might actually be a lot more satisfying. Suddenly she went from just asking questions to actually being horny and started touching my cock saying I was harder than she'd ever seen.

Her phone rings and it's her ******. I expect her to answer and that to be the end of that. Instead, she puts the phone to one side and says "we're having sex first". I reach for a condom (which we use just because she doesn't like the mess of cum) and she tells me "no condoms".

Normally she likes me to talk dirty to her and she responds. This was actually the weirdest sex we've ever had - I talked dirty to her, but during sex, she didn't say one single word back to me. It was like she wasn't there and to be honest not the best for me.

She pounded me so hard, that I came twice. She then came, but when she got off, she began pulling my balls and stroking my cock until I got hard and came a third time.

I'm not sure if how she was during sex was a good thing or not?

I'd guess she probably wasn't with you - but in her own world with her imaginary lover - notice how she already lets him do more (cum insider her) than "normal" you...

I'm convinced that she's masturbating to a lot of porn at night - as I keep waking up and seeing the light from the screen of the cell phone and her quietly moaning.

She always denies it though...

Right now, she's gone back to not wanting to talk about things and being disgusted unfortunately. I know from past experience not to ***** the issue

ldcpgfan
It's really clear to me when she's fucking her fantasy guy in her head. The odd thing is she's told me she fancies hipsters - that's always been her type, but that she can't help getting wet when she's bodybuilder types if she thinks they are well hung.

She explained that even though they aren't her type if she thinks they are well hung she can't stop thinking about sex with the it's just a biological urge or need that she has. She explained as basically wanting to procreate or reproduce with them.

i122
I've suggested camming or chatting in the past and it's lead to some very bad arguments. The only things she went for in the past was a big dildo and she's refusing a new one in case someone finds it plus she finds them gross now (she didn't before)

I've been thinking about this for a few days, after reading everything that you're written. Here's what I think.

I think she's conflicted in her own mind about what she wants. I think she's having trouble accepting what her own fantasies are.

Why do I say that? Because of statements like this one from you:


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Good luck. I think the biggest challenge you face is in her own head. And lest you think that's just a matter of talking it through, well... it isn't.

If she can't accept what her own fantasies are, there isn't any way you're going to pick the right thing for her, or say the right words, or ask the right questions.

The best thing you can do is to try to get her to accept herself first.

xoxoxo xoxoxo

Christine