Building My On Wife's Unexpected Confession

Hey everyone I'm new here and wanted a little help on slowly moving things forward. I've never really made any progress with her going with other men. Many years ago, she would talk about other women but after a while she began denying it and pretending it didn't happen. She also used to love a large dildo in the past but went off that.

Last week, we were talking and she asked me about what fantasies I had and I told her about her being with other men. I've told her before and she's reacted badly. This time, she didn't really react to them either way beyond saying it was ok, but would never happen and she never has fantasies of other people or like that but she didn't judge me.

She then told me that she is very sexually attracted to heavily muscled men, something she's never admitted before. I didn't say much beyond 'oh' and she then followed up by saying that she gets very horny around one of her friends neighbours. To the point of telling me that she gets wet and breathless when he's not got his shirt on.

How do I build on this fantasy and not scare her off as I have in the past?

It would seem to me that she has heard you, and understands your fantasy. This neighbor guy might have just set her off on the right track to cuckolding you. Whatever you do, do not be pushy. You could wait a day or two, if she does not bring it up, go ahead and ask her if she was telling you the truth about her reactions to the muscle guy. Be very light, smile, and maybe joke a little. Make sure you tell her she is sexy, beautiful, and that it turned you on when she told you that.

Keep in mind that every wife is different. They will all react differently. Be careful, watch her reactions, and build off of those. Know when to back off as well.

Good luck, look forward to hear more.

How about buying her membership to a gym as a gift and see what happens?

We had a talk about it last night and she told me that my fantasies were just a bit too basic for her. That they were the result of too much porn.

That they needed more to them to appeal to her. I asked for an example or what she meant by that but didn't get one.

I've been here before about 5 years ago and I pushed too hard and she clammed up.

Typically in the past if I talk about any of this stuff during fucking she just won't say anything. If I continue she will just stop and push me away.

1) Be nice, curious and humorous when you talk about this next - show her it is o.k. to share and you think this is something normal, fun and interesting

2) Encourage her to join a gym, volunteer at the fire department, or in some other way hang out socially with muscly guys

3) Introduce this idea - gently and subtly at first - when you have sex

4) Let all these juices marinate...

The fact that she shared with you says volumes; now show her she was right to share.
darslangly

DarsLangly

Great answer.

She's been really off sex and I asked her if it's because I'm not muscular like Jack. She's told me that she would be turned off by big muscles on me but I do need to get a six pack for her to want sex regularly again.

She then told me my fantasies didn't shock her but they were just the result of too much porn.

I pressed her on things and she explained she only gets turned on by hot women,pretty boys or heavily muscled white men (she's African American)

I feel like we are being pushed right back to the start like years ago.

I'm not trying to piss on your cheerios but your initial post had some red flags. It seems like your wife has a hard time remembering what she told you in the past and what you've told her. This can be a sign that she tells lots of lies. Big liars tend to lose track of some of their lies. I'm definitely not saying she's lying but the possibility is there. You'll have to do some investigating on your own. Maybe she's already doing the guy and is trying to tell you.
fender

fender412002
I think you might be right.we were talking again she explained that one of her biggest fantasies is about having sex with an old friend of mine Phil as he is "so fit".

She did qualify this by saying she would never do anything in real life.

I then told her that I'd told her he wanted to fuck her two years ago. he had wanted to do her when he was still single and had the nerve to tell me.

She'd denied remembering me ever telling her and was really pleased he wanted her!

At the time when I told her she said she was disgusted and repulsed and there was noting flattering about him just wanting to fuck her.

So she lies for sure!

She explained to me that men like Phil and the neighbour dream about getting fucked by.

Me and her best friends husband aren't really in the same league and we get sex because of the emotional connection not lust

Offer her a hall pass to be used how ever where ever she wants
Win some...
Lose some...
Few are rained out

Offer her a hall pass to be used how ever where ever she wants
Win some...
Lose some...
Few are rained out

All women lie
Cmon fellas
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