What worked for us

What Changed our outlook

We struggled for years with the idea of being in the 'club' or 'lifestyle' of swinging/cuckolding it was only after chatting to a couple that had done this for years we were given the advice:

1. Accept that it's a part of you (e.g. the male likes to show-off or share his partner and equally that the woman likes other guys attention and likes having sex or knowing she was desired from other guys).

2. Accept that although may not be standard within society we live it this is perfectly natural for lots of other societies in the world past and present

3. That living the life is not about subscribing to a club or to be part of something but changing the standard set dynamics of your relationship to suit you as individuals.


Made lots more sense to us and really helped with us both being able to talk more naturally about the whole subject and not feel so badly judged or categorised .

hope this helps some of you couples.