Your definition of a Cuckold or Hotwife

I am curious as to what your definitions are for a Cuckold or Hotwife marriage. I'm not doing a study or anything, I'm just curious.

My definition is that a hotwife is a wife that fucks other guys just for the sex. A cuckold is a far more dedicated version of the same thing.

I'm not sure where we fit in. My wife has fucked a few guys but I have to think that I'm not quite to the Cuckold or even the Hotwife area, not that I won't possibly end up there. I decide when she gets to fuck someone else and who she gets to fuck. She may be tied up when her new friend comes over, or may not be. It's all 100% consentual and I usually join in for the fun, but not always. I am always there however, partially for safety and partially because... who wants to miss that show!?

So what do you think? What do you call a Hotwife or a Cuckold? Where do you feel you fit in the spectrum?

She's a Hotwife, you're definitely a voyeur, I think you're both more in the swingers category than cuckold marriage area. Enjoy it though, it all sounds pretty good to me. I like the idea of her being restrained as she's being fucked.

Like me your not a cuckold, but someone who enjoys and encourages his hotwife to have sex with others.

Cuckolds generally are dominated and subservient to their women and their sexual needs, and they and their sexual needs take a back seat, a very back seat to all other needs of the woman. They have little or no say on who she fucks, how she fucks them, and may or may not be allowed a role in the actual act of sex. They may be f orced into servitude of the woman before or after the sex act such as prepping her prior to the sex act, buying her clothes, but not choosing them, and clean up or serving both her and the bull during or after the sex act. They may well be in chastity too, or even on occasions f orced to dress in sissy clothes and lingerie.

However, you seem to be simply married to a hotwife and enjoy that fact and take part in it, without any h umiliation or d egration. Clearly you are not a cuck, be beware it can very easily morph into you being a cuck, you may even ask for it to.

Post some pics of her so we can see how hot she is and tell us the gory details of your adventures please...its what we like to see and hear on this site.

Good Luck

pops

Its kind of like asking someone "what is normal?" Everyone's definition of normal is a bit different. I think hotwife and cuckold for each person is a bit different, but we all have about the same thoughts of what each is. I think that they can be blended or that they can over lap some. For me, I don't take a hard line on either, when I can, I just enjoy my wife fucking one of our friends, very few and far between. I take what I can get.

I agree with everyone. My wife and I started out like morganae. I usually selected the guy, but she had veto rights. She was doing it for me. I was always watching or filming.

But then, as popeye1 said, it began to morph into the cuckold realm. After years of research I believe the single biggest factor distinguishing Hotwifing from Cuckold comes down to one thing: control.

Hotwifing is usually initiated by the husband, with the wife going along. The couple does everything together, and makes decisions together. As you morph toward Cuckold the wife takes more and more control, and begins to do it for her own reasons. The full blown Cuckoldress has all control over who, what, when, etc., while the cuck hubby has none.

Like Allen noted, there is no normal. You decide for yourself at what point you've crossed from Hotwife to Cuck, as that line can be different for every couple. Truth be known, most real, practicing couples probably are a blend of the two. I suspect there are actually very few marriages that practice extreme Cuckoldry to the extent portrayed on the internet.
cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker

This is where my wife and I, are. We started Swinging but contacts were few and far between because of our location and conservative community. We gradually moved onto MFM threesomes. I'd make the contact, wifey gives the go ahead or not. If it happens, we meet the guy at a hotel we select and play. I film and photograph her for awhile before I join in.

Now in my mind I'm thinking, "Your my little slut wife. I want this other guy to know how well you suck cock. And to remind you just who you and your pussy belong to, I'm going to let this guy f*ck your pussy and ass. You're going to tell him to cum inside you. Once he does and as soon as he pulls out, I'm going to dump my load in you. And I know you'll feel so proud that you got two guys to cum".

Wife keeping two cocks hard

AFF guy putting his load in my wife

A strangers load

Good point. I believe for many guys there is an element of pride. We're proud of having such sexy wives, and want to share them with others so they can have a taste. I liked knowing other guys envied me, wishing they had such a gorgeous woman, not to mention one with DD's who gave head like a pro and fucked like the Energizer Bunny. Then, when the festivities were over, I was proud that she fell right back in beside me as my sweet, loving wife.
cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker

SheDatesHeWaits,
BINGO! Envy, is basically it.

The other male (usually a married man) is fucking my wife, (who is a petite Asian) but afterwards the guy would comment, "I wish my wife would get into this".

I think being cuckolded implies that the husband is an object of scorn, laughed, at and ridiculed because his wife prefers other men sexually to him. For me, it involves at least some degree of D/s, where the wife is sexually dominant and he puts her needs before his own.

Hotwives are swingers and their husbands are voyeurs who get off on the pornographic thrill of watching their wives fuck other guys. In that scenario, they might have incredible sex later on, or he might join in while she's with another lover. A cuckold, by definition, is denied sex by the wife because another man is fully meeting her needs.

Obviously, real couples in the real world don't fall strictly into these two categories. But I think there's a distinct difference between the two.

Not necessarily. A couple can focus on the wife's desire for "more" (more lovers, more cock, bigger cocks, etc.) without demeaning the husband, and ridiculing him for not having a 10" cock for instance.

My wife has definitely entered the Cuckoldress realm, taking control, screening guys on her own and meeting them without my approval. While we definitely play up the angle of her "wanting bigger cocks", it's done from the perspective of a very loving wife who needs more. It's done with sly smiles, sweet kisses and fun banter.

There's nothing harsh about it. No scorn, laughing, ridicule or humil1ation. The focus is him "being bigger", not me "being smaller". There's definitely a difference.
cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker

Well in my experience much of what is said above is true.

It all becomes just like a lcohol or a d rug. After a while what you do just doesn't quite do it for you, so you seek a greater high. Then after a while you find your self a cuckold, dressed in lingerie and sucking on a bulls cock with your hotwife.

People in this kind of lifestyle are not your average folks, but people who seek adventure and want to explore and push the boundaries, that is what all of this is about, busting through accepted boundaries and living life right on the edge. And is GREAT! Can anyone that is fully immersed into this lifestyle not say they are totally and utterly addicted, it takes over your life and starts to define who and what you are, at least while the hormones and equipment are functioning correctly!

Even the most cucked sissy cuck will tell you they enjoy it and are addicted to it, that's their role in this lifestyle and relationship, they were made to perform this important duty, and the bulls just would not have it any other way.

Well that's a further two cents of my mind on this one.

pops

It is addictive. Once it gets under your skin it's difficult, if not impossible, to "go back". We do push boundaries, constantly exploring new avenues. My wife has expressed some valid concerns over the years. Where does it end? How much is enough? She has a point, so I try to be sensitive to that.

However, one good thing about this lifestyle is that you can always stir in new people. With new people comes new dynamics, because everyone is unique. So, for us, all we have to do is find someone new and it's like starting anew, which helps keep things fresh.
cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker

SheDatesHeWaits

Your wife is right on IMO. Where indeed does it all end? One has to live some kind of normal life, because for us all, one day, we cease to be sexual beings, when the hormones run dry or old age eventually prevents us, what then? One has to be left with the respect and support as well as love that will sustain us all through to the end. Not to be macabre or anything, just trying, as you already have, to inject a further level of reality into the discussion!

Some interesting points being raised here...

good luck

pops

My 2cents for this discussion:
A HOTWIVE, is a woman, who spreads her legs for another man or men, mainly with her husband's consent and blessing. No matter if he watchs or not. In other words she is a slut.
A CUCKOLD is the husband of a wife that fucks other man or men, either with or without his consent. As long as she has any sexual relationship with another male, she is cuckolding the guy, and this it.

Now, there are cuckolds, whose wife cheats on them and they never know that she is fucking someone else. Even some of the babies born in this world, are not ******** by the husband and some of them will never know it, and rise the ***** as their own.

Other cuckolds are in this lifestyle because their wife wants to fuck other man and somehow has the husband's agreement to look for other cocks and be discreet so that no one knows he is a cuck.

Other cuckolds are the ones that indulge the wife to look for cock, or they set them up, or look for other men, so that she has sexual pleasure while they watch like watching porn. Some of them aldo participate but the majority just wank furiously their dicks immagining that is their cock inside her...

Each case is a case and there are a lot of variations on the cuckold lifetstyle.

I was fucking a 37 years old wife, whose husband who was the same age, was impotente, due to diabetes, and he was the one who contactwd me to help with her needs. I fucked her on a regular basis for over four years until they moved away. Now she has two other fuckers where she lives.

My experience in this matter, tells me that usually the cuck it's as turned on and gets as much satisfaction as his wife, although she has a cock inside her pussy and he is just watching or waiting at home for her to come back with the details and sometimes with a creampie.

Actually, Merriam Webster has no definition for a "hotwife". Oh... and it's wittol btw, not whittol. So you can't look to the dictionary for the answer. You have to go to one of the more whimsical "Urban" dictionaries for that, and even they don't all have consistent descriptions.
cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker

Wow you're just full of positive energy and praise for those who try to address the point in question with opinion based on experience, maybe that is why you have never had an original idea that resulted in you ever initiating a post, all that positive energy getting in the way!

If you're here to judge people you know nothing about with you're "erroneous" comments, then please just move on and spend your time reading your dictionary...oh and stay away from that "edge" we wouldn't want to see you fall off that edge, now would we?