A start into the lifestyle

I agree with Christine, cuckolding cannot be viewed as a 'once only' thing otherwise you run the very real possibility of your marriage turning to sh*t. It's a bit like losing your virginity, once it's happened you can't 'undo' the fact, it's happened. Immediately after the first time a husband tries to come to terms with the fact that his wife has just willingly fucked another guy is the wrong time to start thinking about cancelling the arrangement. His mind is confused, he's not thinking straight, he's full of cuckold angst, enjoying the thrill he gets from knowing he's stood there and allowed his wife to fuck someone else, and at the same time he's highly jealous of what's happened and in some way feels it's 'wrong'. Any decision made under those circumstances would be wrong. He needs time to think about it, he needs to talk to her, openly, and oftentimes they'll both realise this was the best thing ever that's happened to them. Cuckolding works, if you keep an open mind.

Christine and Kenny are so right in what they say. If only I'd had them to advise me back in 1999 when my wife had her first extra-marital encounter. Maybe then it wouldn't have been 9 years before we both felt comfortable in trying the cuckold experience again, this time much more successfully.
Peter C

Although I agree with Kenny and Christine, I will say that you cannot really prepare yourself for exactly how it's going to hit you when it actually happens. It is good and important to prepare yourself mentally the best you can but reality is reality and it's not the same as imagining how you might feel. Definitely don't make decisions in the immediate aftermath. And if jealousy or insecurity hits you hard, try to focus on what you enjoy about it to get you through. Best of luck!

You're right geecrizz. We'd discussed Debbie cuckolding me (though I wasn't aware of the term back then) for a good 2 years before anything happened, from me first suggesting it, then encouraging her, persuading her, but also re-assuring her that I would still love her come what may and wasn't looking for an excuse to fuck other women. The build-up to her encounter with Chris, a 23 year old regular customer at the shop she worked in, was exciting and I remember taking her out for dinner on her 35th birthday and all we spoke about was the date she'd arranged for the following evening.

She met him after work for dr1nks, then went back to his place where she was soon naked in his bed and fucked eagerly 3 times. When she got home it was amazing having her tell me all about her evening and her plans to carry on seeing him for sex, a toyboy "bit on the side", a role he said he was more than willing to take on and I was equally keen for it to continue. A couple of days later though, the angst and insecurity hit me and hit me hard. We'd agreed beforehand that if either of us weren't happy with the situation, then it stopped and I asked Debbie not to see him again. Coupled to the fact that Chris hadn't contacted her since, this caused us to have a few quiet days with Debbie feeling dirty, used and that she'd been too easy a lay. I lavished love and attention on her and re-assured her that no harm had been done. I wanted her fucked by another man, she'd confessed to wanting to try a much younger guy and he'd wanted some mature, married pussy, so we were all winners at the end of the day. But, as said above, once she's been fucked by someone else, you can't ever change that.

Hindsight is a wonderful thing and in retrospect I wish I had held my nerve and let Debbie carry on seeing Chris and let things take their course. Another aspect you have to consider is the feelings and emotions of the other guy. You can talk and talk about how you expect things to work out, discuss various scenarios, but the other guy may have a different agenda. He may just want a one-night-stand and not even try to get your wife into bed again or he may be totally smitten and want her more and more.
Peter C

I agree with that.

A person looking forward to being a cuckold should promise himself not to make any decisions for a couple or three days. And particularly not while it's going on!

The other thing that guys can do is to do some serious introspection. Think about whether you're prone to reacting to things emotionally in the moment, as opposed to stepping back to get the longer term picture. Think about if you're prone to problems of anger management. Think about whether you consider yourself to be in control of your emotions.

I'm not saying a person shouldn't go ahead if they identify some of these issues in themselves. But be prepared for them, and even better, if you can have a plan for dealing with those feelings. A plan that doesn't jeopardize your longer term goals.

"Cucky angst" is a real thing. Denying its existence, or thinking that it won't affect you, is pretty unrealistic. The best you can do is to promise yourself that you won't react to it, and that you'll give things a few days to sort themselves out.

xoxoxo

Christine

Peter C
34. Your wife is so sexy! I know she taste divine that should make you proud to share her charms. Enjoy and celebrate her orgasms and the cum that will spurt from your own cock! Thanks
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bobbye

Thank you. Sadly, Debbie and I split up in 2012 but I still enjoy remembering her going with other men and telling me all about it when she got home. I miss that, hence why I still like to visit this site and share my experiences.
Peter C