Chance of a start...

Thank you guys!

Any other thoughts at all?

I appreciate what PCC and kennyboy have to say. Excellent ideas, but can you really afford it? If you can great! But please do not jepordize financial stability for this, no matter what your horney hormones say. I am not saying that you should not do it, just that you make a level headed decission on finances before you do it.

Next, what do you do to get her sexuality going? Do iniate things with her WITHOUT ANY pressure of her finding someone else. Does she like oral sex? Offer to perform it often if she does. Keep the sex life at home active. If you can do it without going to intercourse even better. Build her desire to want sex with others. She already knows that you are open to her being with others. And yes, frustrating you, cock cage or not, could be be part of it. Let her call the shots, but keep her mind on sex. Again WITHOUT ANY pressure OR SUGGESTION she find another male. Let it be her idea.

Something that just hit me. Could it be that she thinks you don't find her sexually attractive so you are pushing her to be with others? I don't know that answer, but please ask yourself that question. You can fight that by complimenting her and your desire to touch and please her. Remember that can be overdone, and phony will be seen and have the opposite effect.

I am into D/s. That is where I mentally and actively live. So yes, what I am suggesting above is you becoming sexually submissive to her. A sex toy who's only desire is provide HER sexual stimulation and to see HER enjoying sexual satisfaction. WHEN and HOW she wants. I am not talking about you becoming a sexual "energizer bunny" always pushing sex. But do not miss an opportunity to suggest or initiate some form of sex or physical (massage of back or feet) which shows you want to please her and enjoy her "body." Try to build her sex drive but emphasising her pleasure not yours.

The above is for your consideration. It already has been said, pressure from you have her be with others may bug her and turn her off to it. Her building a desire to find sexual partners would work better. Positive reinforcement, not negative pressure.

Okay, I begin to ramble so let me post this.

Thank you FM for you post, your thoughts and points are great to read and take onboard.

There are one or two deep-seated confidence issues that need to be sorted/addressed, but we've spoken about it and we are going to work at them together as a couple, and I will support her and try to help as I can.

That aside...

I spoke to her about the Personal Trainer idea, explaining my thoughts and the bigger picture. That is to speed up her weight loss and toning with a view to the work event coming soon, and that it will benefit her and us in the grander scheme of things. Not mentioning any other motives obviously.

She really liked the idea, and thanked me for offering to assist financially. She messaged him to see if he would be interested in PT'ing her, and he said he would be, but as long as things were 'professional' and nothing else.
That's fine, if that is all it is, then no problem. Obviously I'm hoping that changes, but I won't lose ***** if it doesn't.
She messaged him again last night for a while about arranging things. He suggested that the chat together on Friday night at his fitness class that she goes too. All good.
All of his messages to her last night had a kiss at the end, so she started to do the same in return. I liked that.

So. We will see how this unfolds.

I will keep updating as and when. Thank you to those who have chipped in ideas and thoughts, please keep them coming, they are a comfort and a help through all of this.

bursting It seems nobody has any expectations going into the PT thing. Without any pressure the two of them may feel more at ease, which could actually raise the odds of something happening.
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That's kind of what I am hoping for.

She has been less interested in sex this past week, but has hinted at something tonight. I'm not too bothered if we don't, as she might be a little more 'hightened' on Friday night when they chat if me and her don't fuck.

I'm hoping they sort out what sort of PT they can do, and maybe as often as once a week. Really crossing my figures they do it at our home! This will give them time alone completely when I work night shifts.

Oh that would be perfect. I can tell you that the close physical proximity of two sweaty bodies in a relaxed atmosphere can sometimes lead to a little more touching kissing and ultimately fucking. Have her offer him the use of your shower after their workout. Oh and make sure there are no towels in the bathroom so she has to retrieve one for him.

Good idea! Not too sure how sweaty he will get during a standard above board PT session, but its something to think about.

Lots of good suggestions coming in here, maybe insignificant in themselves, but put together they start to add up. Keep at it, gently, PT might yet come round to her way of thinking!

PT = Penile Therapy? Penetrative Therapy?
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No sex last night of any kind. She is a little ill and didn't feel like it at all, and I certainly didn't initiate anything.

Possibly something tonight, but if there is, it'll be her to start as I'm going to leave it. My balls are aching so much!

Hoping to have no relief myself, even if she insists on cumming before Fridays meet with her trainer. I'm not expecting anything to happen then, it just might put her in a better place mentally for all of this.

You know, it might just work in your favour if she know's you're bursting (sorry, I just had to use that!) to cum hard, but you don't allow yourself to out of your desire to let her take the lead. Her respect for you knowing you're holding back so she can choose what she wants to do might push her that little bit further in her quest for strange cock. I wish you luck, and don't be tempted to knock one out yourself, the hornier you are the better it will be for both of you when you do get to fuck her.

I agree. Again... having no expectations takes away the pressure for everyone.

I was thinking about this last night. If I was the trainer I also would have told her that things needed to remain professional (whether I meant it or not). Don't assume he's no longer interested. Remember, guys like the pursuit. It might be wise for her to play a little coy and act as if she's no longer interested. If he thinks he blew his chances forever, it could spur him into coming back strong. That may actually work better than her throwing herself at him...
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Thanks guys.

There'll be no sex tonight, time of the month started today. She doesn't like to fuck the first few days. I might be encouraged to play and cum, but if that does arise, I'm going to refrain. Tell her I'm tired and also quite enjoying having my aching balls waiting for her to allow me full sex.

With regards her Trainer. As and when the one to one sessions start, she won't be throwing herself at him, I know that. She likes him, and enjoyed what they did previously, but she feels a little embarrassed about it now and has said she won't be doing anything with him anymore anyway.
I know things can change though, and that's what I'm hoping for, that them having some time together and the exercise nature will bring them closer and break down her resistance, and his reluctance to do anything with her in our house, breaking his 'professional' rule.

Yes, things can and do sometimes change. Let them go into the PT thing with no expectations or pressure, and if it happens, it happens. If not, there's nothing lost except a few more pounds.
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Exactly,thats how im dealing with it.

If nothing, she loses a little weight, tones up and will be a little bit more confident and happier too.

Shes having a bit of an off day, feeling really low, for no real reason.

She did insist on me masturbating with my Fleshlight this morning, I said that I didn't want to cum but she was insistant that I did.

I did, and liked it, but would have been happier if I was denied.

She has just left to go to her fitness class and to chat with him about the Personal sessions.

First 'session' arranged. All professional, as stated previously.

Tomorrow night after work, he's coming here for about an hour. I've been asked to keep out of the way as he says hes not comfortable about meeting me, which I can partly understand. Mrs says I can stay upstairs out of the way, that'll be fine.

Lets see how this thing goes from here on in.

The further removed you are from the scene, the more comfortable he will probably be. The more comfortable he is, then the more likely the vibe could ease into something a bit more flirty. So, you might want to give some thought to being gone altogether for that hour. Just my two cents...
cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker

I agree, but she seems to want me just there for the time being.

I can always be gone the next time, and I certainly will be when I'm working a night shift.

Get h0rny just thinking about them together, I really want something to happen between them both here.

I agree then... go with whichever makes her more comfy. Like you said, you can disappear on future visits.
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I'm not expecting anything at all, but it would be nice, and I'm secretly hoping that there will be something in the near future. I know there will be nothing that way tomorrow night.

Even though, I will be upstairs, out of the way, trying not to touch my throbbing cock.

I think I know what you mean. "Here" (home) is something we've been talking about lately. My wife has developed this mini-fetish for fucking someone in our "marital bed". It's a hot thought for me, too.
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That's exactly it.

It's just more of a mental fuck for me to have her drilled in our house, even more so again in our bed.

Probably not with you there. Put yourself in his shoes. Even though you're out of sight he knows you're right upstairs. He'll be on his best behavior.
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Ha! This whole game is a mental fuck... and the more our wives realize it and get into it, the more intense it can become.
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I'm hoping he warms to the idea of being here himself, and feels a little less on edge as he seems to be now. Hopefully I can meet him sometime, and perhaps put his mind at ease with things a bit more.

As you walk into your bedroom and notice the bed linen is disheveled and upon closed inspection you notice the little wet spot of evidence they have left behind.

All this sounds fantastic mate. Great idea to offer for her sessions and even better that she took you up on it!

Youve been thinking about all this for a lot longer than us, and although N has started the journey we are still learning ALL the time. As the saying goes 'Softly, softly, catchy monkey!!' Take your time and follow her lead, just like it seems you are doing. Im still very new to all this so feel a bit daft giving advice when I still need so much myself!!

Be genuine with your compliments when she starts looking fitter and more toned. Women can smell bu11shit a mile off, so if you mean that she looks fantastic tell her, if you are just paying lip service then think of something else to say. Hope this makes a bit of sense?!

It does makes sense, thank you

Any advice is great, especially from anyone further down this road than myself.

He's here. Downstairs with my lady.

I'm upstairs with my erection.

If only there was more going on. Hopefully with time.....