Chance of a start...

That's real life. Everything runs in cycles. Women aren't the "24/7 horny cocksucking she-Doms" that cuck sites often portray. Parenting, work and all the other stresses of life constantly interfere. My wife will cool off for weeks at a time, wanting quality time between just us. Then she'll come back around and start talking to other guys again when she's ready.

Smart hubbies learn to go with it. When your wife cools off, we should too. Don't push. It's like surfing. Be patient. Wait for the wave to build naturally, then climb back on your board and catch another ride...
cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker

Just how I feel about it all PPC, just letting her have her time on this.

We have swapped a few texts today whilst she is at work.

She has seen her ex boss briefly. She says hard to explain via text and nothing amazing, but she'll explain tonight when she comes home. I got hard at hearing this and told her so. She said she liked that having that sort of effect on me.
I told her to go find him and to suck him off.

Her - Ohhhhh, if only it was that easy!!
Me - You'll only get out what effort you put in.
Me - Then once you've done that, do the same to (fitness instructor) tonight
Her - I knowwww! And no, I've told you how I feel about that.

This was after a chat last week where I'd said that she should take things up with her instructor again as we enjoyed it before. She didn't like my reaction at the time, as I wasn't massively comfortable with a few things, so she's decided not to bother anymore with him at all.

Me - I know, I'm sorry. Find (New guy at work) and empty his balls then
Her - I'll see what I can do
Me - If you came home and told me that you had sucked him or (ex boss) off, I'd be OK with that.

She had said last week that if she came home from the gym and said she'd done that with her instructor, that she didn't think I'd be too happy about it even though I've said she should do it.

Her - You sure?
Me - Very sure
Her - That's naughty, I love it!
Me - Good. Do it.
Her - I'll try!!

That's how things have been left. The seed is still there I can see, and might be perking up again slightly.

Fingers crossed!!!!

bursting I think you can change the name of the thread from "Chance of a start..." to "Chance it could get wild...".
cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker

I really hope so!!!

I want her to take another cock so badly now, I really do.

Great update mate, glad things are starting to move again.

Anymore gone on over the last few days??

Thanks.

Shes hit a bit of a low with her self and body confidence, shes not really feeling like any fun sadly. Although yesterday she did catch the New Guy looking at her an awful lot which she liked. It looks like he'll be leaving the business soon anyway, to work elsewhere, which she isn't too happy with. Reminded her to try and make inroads with things if that's the case or she'll miss out. She agreed, but doesn't know how.

I'm having my fun controlled slightly this week. I'm not allowed to masturbate at all which is frustrating as hell, I wank every day at least once, and I'm working nights so have time to myself which adds to the frustration.

Just out of curiosity, and if I missed it I appologise. Are you in or do you have a chastity device. When she decides you can't wank, it will make it very difficult which will help and also frustrate some more. It will keep you "honest."

I do have one, but am not in it currently. She has to be in the right mood to tolerate me using it as it's not really her thing. I have asked that if I really struggle to behave this week, that she lick me up in it, and she has agreed to do so.

I'd like to be locked and to be denied the chance to fuck her, so she then feels the need to look elsewhere.

But she won't go for this scenario sadly.

I was able to accomplish that goal with my wife by simply backing off of the intercourse. I would deliberately go weeks without screwing her. I stuck to oral sex and other non-penetrative sex, creating that "itch" to get laid. Between that and encouraging her to meet other men, it proved to be an effective motivation combo.

Like your wife, mine has no interest in the whole cock-cage/denial fetish. That doesn't fit her personality.
cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker

I'll try and implement that then. Trouble is, she keeps wanting to fuck me, a few times a week. I shouldn't complain......

If she wants to fuck you she can take it off. She calls the shots, but if it is not her thing it's use can become an irritant to her. We suggest you need to live it, so your way.

Its a fine line with the cage. When I'm in it, I try and involve her a bit, show her how submissive I can be and how she can mould me when I'm like that. It works sometimes, but not enough to have her go elsewhere as yet.

The main thing holding her back is a self confidence issue, and that's proving hard to sort.

I ran into the same thing, and came up with a number of solutions. First, I tried to avoid situations where I knew sex would come up. I tried to go to bed at separate times, so one or the other of us would fall asleep first. On a number of occasions I used the old female ploy... I was tired, not in the mood, etc. A few times I talked her into skipping sex to keep her horny for an upcoming meeting with some guy.

Last, if I just couldn't avoid it, I would give her a "less than satisfying" fuck. I know what she likes in order to climax. So I would change my pace... stop or slow down when I sensed she was getting close. I also tried to cum as quickly as possible.

Basically, I would try to leave her unsatisfied and still horny (or even MORE horny than she was to start). This usually motivated her to look elsewhere for a fuck. Devious? Yeah. Effective. Yep!
cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker

In the beginning, when I was being devious I did something similar to what SheDatesHeWaits just described but in addition I tried to put her in situations where she would be hit on by guys. I wanted to make sex outside the marriage very tempting to her. I would take her to singles bars and encourage her to dress very sexy. I then would leave her alone for enough time to get noticed and hit on by the hungry wolves. One night I noticed she had a name and phone number on a napkin. I pretended to not see it. Also because my business necessitated my being away for days at a time she was given plenty of opportunity. I also knew she worked with some very horny guys so I made sure everyone at her office knew when I would be away and for how long. I suppose I should have been ashamed of myself but as the old saying goes 'all is fair in love and war'. The combination of it all worked its magic!

Certainly things to bare in mind, thanks.

As I said, I am working nightshifts this week, so we haven't seen too much of each other.

Last night whilst I was at work, we swapped a few texts about me behaving myself. She said that if we had time this morning when I got in from work, we could have a quicky before she had to go to work herself.

I was really excited at that idea, and managed to behave all night at work (I usually manage to wank in the toilets once or twice during my shift).

Got in this morning with plenty of time for sex, but she was too tired, nothing happened sadly. I went to bed, and she said she would be up for the same tomorrow morning, providing shes not too tired again.
Before she set off, she pulled back the bed clothes and sucked my hard cock for about 10 seconds, the tease!

She has text today, and is allowing me to edge using only my Fleshlight, then I am to get cleaned up and lock myself away in my chastity cage. My suggestion, but shes going with it which pleases me. Without it, I'd wank tonight definitely.

It will be a great suffering tonight, I know that, but I like her control and obviously need it, I'm a wanker after all!

Lets see how I manage and if tomorrow morning happens.

Wel, I enjoyed edging with my Fleshlight, thinking of her being out with other men, and got too close, ended up leaking cum into my toy. Not a full orgasm, and definitely ruined. I felt ****** awful!

I text her straight away, full of Sorry's.

She told me not to worry, but to get showered and locked up straight away. So I did just that.

Sat here at work with aching balls and a trapped dick.

Wonderful, it sounds like she is getting into the spirit.

Does she like to dance. Juanito suggested situations where she would get hit on. Great idea, especially the come on clothing she would wear. A dance situation might provide some non-sexual opportunities for her to get close to someone that wanted to hit on her and a "proper" way to do it. Can I have this dance?

She's really not feeling it I'm afraid, I'm disheartened again.

Text a fair bit tonight whilst I'm here at work. Shes not really in the mood for naughty talk. Even had a perfect opportunity for extra fun next week and shes not interested.

I know I can't ***** her and I shouldn't push too much, so im backing off.

We are visiting friends next Saturday, so suggested we go on the Friday to a nearby town to them, get a hotel room and find her another guy. Something she has said she'd like to do previously. Nope, not going for it, not interested at all.

Sad times.

Hmmm... It could be just one of those normal cycles. Women heat up and cool down. If it's just that, then go with it and get in some quality couple time for now. Go on some dates and work on your bond. Sometimes that in itself will bring on the next up-cycle.

Then again, there might be something else bugging her. Work stress? Money? Young'uns... the usual stuff?

Also, how hard have you been pushing the "cuck thing" lately? If I push it with my wife constantly, 24/7 she can get perturbed and shut down on me. Maybe it's that (?). Try talking to her when the time is right. Let her know that you're concerned... and she doesn't seem herself. God knows, women love it when we want to talk about their feelings ... LOL
cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker

Maybe she will get some self desire back if she sees no pressure, and you are there for her, as a couple. Pamper her, follow her lead and show her by your actions you are a loving husband, even if it is only you two (that reads tpp too harse but I can't think of another way.)

Back off for a bit, don't push it too hard. Just as she sometimes 'edges' you why don't you try something similar? Take her to the very brink of cumming and ease off, don't let her cum, maybe after a while she'll be so frantic to achieve satisfaction she'll reconsider her actions!

She hates to be edged, gets quite angry in fact.

Got home this morning, went down on her whilst still caged. Licked her to orgasm.
She unlocked me and climbed on top. I could have cum in the first 30 seconds, but held off, and lasted about 5minutes in the end. She made me cum inside her. Which felt awesome, but we don't use protection so afterwards I worry.

Done now though.

I'm back to being free and unlocked, trying to behave.

My wife is the same. She says after getting close a few times it actually becomes much more difficult to achieve orgasm. She can get frustrated if that happens too much (and not frustrated in a good way).
cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker

OK, it was just a thought!

Mine too. One morning a few weeks ago she was riding me and was just about to cum when I pushed her off me, she almost punched me and was very fucked off! It was only the fact that I stayed calm and didnt react to her anger. I just smiled at her softly which dissipated the issue, mentioned it was called edging as she hadnt heard the term before. Then she got back on top and carried on. She came long and hard after that. She still mentions how very pissed of she was at that moment!!

Again, my wife is exactly the same as yours.

I've had an idea, and I would really like to know peoples thoughts on it.
Please, comment or message me, I really need some help on this.

My lady is going to the gym once a week, and a couple of fitness classes too, in a bid to lose a little bit of weight, tone up and feel better about herself. It's going ok, but a little slow.
She has a work event next month that she really wants to look good at, so is aiming to knuckle down and trim up before then.
This event will be an evening event with ****** and dancing. Her boss will be there (who she fancies), her ex-boss (who she wants more than any other man) and perhaps one or two others who she quite likes.
I'm happy for her to go there and have some fun, and she might do, if she feels confident enough.

One of the fitness classes she goes to currently is ran by a guy who she likes, the one that she went and met and the played a little. This is the guy who was messaging loads and she was loving it, but has decided to leave it completely now as I got a bit wobbly and even when I'd settled down, he was a bit shy in coming round to fuck her.

I know they still like each other and that she'd love his cock as she mentions it sometimes.

Now. This guy does Personal Training. She would love to use a PT but is a little short on cash to have one.

Should I offer to pay for him to PT her, so she can crack on and tone up/lose weight for this work event? If she does, and is happy with results, she may 'enjoy' the work event a bit more, and be more confident in general, possibly opening up future possibilities for fun.
Equally, it would put the two of them together alone, once a week at least, and it may just add to feelings and give chance to him feeling braver and her changing her mind, and them fucking.

What do we all think?

Should I talk to her and offer to pay for it, obviously saying its to help her aims for the work event?

Sounds like a plan a win win situation
Droopy and Miss

Absolutely! She doesn't need to know at this stage that you have 'plans' for her

Assuming you can afford it, I see no downside. Worst case, she ends up shedding a few extra pounds which will boost her confidence at the work event. Best case, the 1-on-1 time with the trainer pays off with lost weight plus some adult fun, which will also boost her confidence at the work event and perhaps even spur on something with her boss or ex-boss.

Just as important as offering to pay though, is your making it very clear to her that you're now past those hangups you had about the trainer in the beginning. She may still be hesitant, because she knows you freaked out about him before. Get her over that. Rather let her know you're over that, and it won't happen again.
cuckold - Pronunciation - kuk-uhld - noun 1) The husband of an unfaithful wife. 2) A husband whose wife has sex with others. NOTE - It does NOT say: Sexually confused, submissive, humiliated, sissified, crossdresser, cocksucker, or piss drinker