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My wife and I have been chatting about finally making our three some fantasy a reality. She's given me the go ahead to make it happen. She's incredibly hot and the thought of watching and her being fucked by anoer man is such a turn on. This fantasy also makes her very wet. However, I would like some advice. I do love her very much, and I'm afraid that the sharing her may take something away from our relationship. Anybody had similar feelings? And we're your concerns justified? Also we're unsure abut how to choose another partner. Picking someone up in a bar or using the Internet? Both I'm sure have pros and cons. I would appreciate any advice on this.
Cheers"

Yes each has pro's and con's. The third is choosing someone you or your wife knows. If you know the permister then there is the safety issue covered however it can be awkward afterward or sublime depending on how everyone feels about what happened. The anonymity of picking some stranger up from a bar is exciting and if it's in another city you probably would never see them again. The downside is you never know if they are a serial *******er or asshole or disease free. Will they try to blackmale you later or become someone that you can't get rid of. Then there is the internet. You could just place an add and all of the above may be a reality. Of course you may find the perfect third too. I would recommend that you go onto a web site like swingerslifestyle and start by chatting with another permister. Then maybe the three of you do some camming. If that goes well meet for lunch or coffee or a take and see if all get along well. You and your wife should have prearranged signals worked out in advance. Nothing tells me the wife is interested in the other gentleman more than when she excuses herself to go to the ladies room and upon her arrival back at the table she hands her panties to him.

Yeah, I can see that working as a subtle hint to him!

realnineinch: It is always exciting and at the same time stressful to know that what you have wished for is about to actually happen. My wife and I made many mistakes before settling on what has best worked for us. We picked up guys at bars, my wife got picked up at parties, we met guys on hookup web sites, etc. The best thing I can recommend is that you find someone on a site such as 'Adult Friend Finders'. You can screen the guy ahead of him meeting with your wife. I will usually meet with him at a food court in a mall and try to gauge his permisterality, pushiness, respect, etc. We will go over the details, and then if I think he may be a suitable potential bull for my wife I will arrange for the 3 of us to meet at a lounge in the evening. I can then see how things develop between the 2 of them. They can get acquainted, dance, possibly kiss, get a feel, etc. If everything looks like a 'go' we proceed from there to usually a hotel room. I prefer to not bring him home, although on some occasions we have brought the bull to the house. We try to pick a guy who is (hopefully) happily married and is not wanting to destroy his own marriage. Another thing when possible we find someone in a neighboring city say about 40-50 miles from our own. Less chance of running into him when we are with friends who don't know of our lifestyle. All in all it takes practice to get it 100% right. I will conclude by telling you that the experience has exceeded my expectations. Nothing thrills me more than to see my wife being taken, enjoying herself to the max and thanking me for making it all possible. Very erotic, and has made she and I so much closer to each other that now we truly feel we are soul mates. Hope this was helpful.