Okay, so Smudge and I have now gone over everything and have reached an agreement. Here it is, for the record.
The Journey Generally
------------------------------Goal / VisionWe are the luckiest couple in the world because we both want exactly the same thing: we want Smudge to have lots of sex with lots of BBC and other stranger cock. We want her to be used thoroughly and fucked silly. We want all of this to happen without any condoms ever, and we want Smudge’s body to become a cum receptacle in every orifice and on every surface of her beautiful skin. Further, we want Carbon to lick, suck, slady his face in, and ultimately eat every last drop of the resulting mess off of and out of Smudge’s well-used body. We want this to be a regular part of our sex life, and we fully intend to make that happen. Seriously.
Moving forward together
Although Smudge is the centerpiece of our sexual vision, Carbon is an integral part of the vision and will be included in all activities, one way or another. Such inclusion will be mutually agreed beforehand, but could range from Carbon being involved directly (e.g. a 3-some), to Carbon being present and eating out Smudge’s sticky pussy afterward, to Smudge bringing “dessert” home for Carbon, to Smudge sending pictures or videos to Carbon, to Smudge calling Carbon while being fucked and describing the scenario and letting him listen, to simply coming home and describing it in detail for Carbon to imagine. Whatever it is, Carbon’s involvement will be part of the discussion before any activities begin so that we both know what to expect.
Our relationship
Unlike some other cuckold relationships, Carbon and Smudge don’t intend to deny, humiliate, belittle, or otherwise disrespect Carbon. We fully intend for Carbon and Smudge to maintain a healthy sexual relationship between just the two of them, with Carbon regularly fucking Smudge in all those deliciously fuckable places she has. We also intend to have a dynamic of equality in our relationship, with the absence of any generalized power exchange over the long term. [We may of course play with power dynamics as part of our sexual exploration, but we don’t want to have a relationship based on power inequity.] If intentions change with any of this, we both agree in the spirit of honesty and transparency to immediately notify the other and to discuss.
Other Relationships
One of the biggest threats to our relationship will not be the size of some guy’s cock or how much Smudge loves feeling stuffed with it, it will be the development of romantic feelings or the beginnings of a relationship with another man. These things may happen, and if they do Smudge must be completely and proactively upfront and honest with Carbon about it (see the section on Honesty and Transparency). However, we can and should take some steps to avoid this. They include:
* To the extent she can, Smudge should pick men with a known relationship incompatibility. She won’t always have enough information to know this before fucking someone, but to the extent she can, she should.
* More realistically, Smudge must keep tabs on how things develop. She may meet a guy and know nothing about him before she’s on her back screaming in ecstasy, but if she continues to fuck him regularly she’ll eventually learn more about him and be able to tell if there are any kind of affectionate feelings starting. She should regular report to Carbon the status of both her feelings and her guy’s feelings. Knowing Smudge, she will likely want to avoid telling Carbon things that might hurt his feelings. SHE MUST NOT. She must tell him immediately, or she risks her relationship with Carbon entirely. Crushes are not the end of the world, but secret crushes usually are.
* Transparent communication. At no time ever should Smudge communicate with her guy without telling Carbon and giving him complete access to such communications. This means anything he says/does/writes, and anything she says/does/writes. Secrets are the death knell for any relationship.
Honesty and Transparency
Honesty means the upfront, proactive, clear, complete, and honest communication about our emotional states, our thoughts, our desires, our concerns, details of events or communications, etc. We must commit to being completely honest about everything related to this. Always. In order for this to even have a chance of working, we need to be able to trust each other 100%, and deceit or dishonesty is the best way to destroy that trust.
Agreement ***
Our agreement isn’t just a bunch of words, it isn’t arbitrary, and it isn’t unnecessary “rules.” Our agreement is critical to moving forward as a couple. If we ever want to get to the point where Smudge’s birthday present is that Carbon drives her to a truck stop for an impromptu BBC gangbang with strangers and then afterward uses his tongue to clean every crevice of hers spotless, then we are going to have to honor our agreement. As we’ve already seen, there will be a significant amount of temptation to break parts of the agreement sometimes. We’ll be turned-on and in the moment and we’ll say to each other, “screw the agreement—stick that cock in your ass now!” or something along those lines. That’s not acceptable and we need to police each other on that. Both of us have to remember that breaking the agreement risks ruining this whole thing, and neither of us wants that. If we truly love each other and we truly want this, we will honor our agreement together.
That said, one or both of us may occasional break parts of the agreement, either inadvertently or because we’re so worked-up in the moment that we’re not thinking straight. If that happens, what’s critical to remember is that honesty and transparency are the most crucial parts of our agreement. If one of us breaks part of the agreement, then in order to have any chance at all of saving this whole thing and our relationship, he or she must immediately and proactively go to the other permister and tell him or her about it. An occasional mistake isn’t a huge *** of trust; it’s a problem, for sure, but it’s not the end of the world. Not saying anything about it, IS. It’s important also to remember that even if the other permister never finds out that you broke the agreement, you’ll know, and deep down it will erode our intimacy and ultimately destroy our relationship. There’s no escaping reality, and if you’re not honest with your partner about reality, then reality will come bite you in the ass later. And it will hurt. (Not in a good way.) So let’s not freak out if there is an agreement breach, so long as we come to each other right away and talk about it honestly.
SecurityThis journey is inherently risky, and privacy and security are important to Carbon and Smudge. They agree to develop some standard practices for implementing privacy and security during engagements. These may be dependent on the specifics of the engagement, but a general plan will emerge over time as they gain more experience.
At first, Carbon and Smudge will need to develop answers to standard questions when Smudge meets someone new, such as her name, her relationship status, where she lives, where she works, etc. Over time, we’ll develop a standard that works well. It is very likely that eventually Smudge will have to say to new partners that her relationship status is that she’s fully committed to and in love with Carbon but that he likes to watch her fuck other men (and sometimes participates). This may scare some guys away, and so be it, but if we’re going to implement our vision then eventually Carbon’s going to have to be in the room. It might be that the best thing for us to do is to be honest about it upfront and find men on the Internet who are specifically interested in what we want. There are plenty of BBCs looking for a couple like us with such a smoking hot slut. We’ll figure this out as we go. Regardless, there will be security concerns to think about that will vary depending on what we’re doing. Let’s not forget to address them.
Phase 1
------------Aborting: In this phase, both Carbon and Smudge reserve the right to abort any engagement at any time. If either one requests an abort, they both immediately stop what they're doing and meet up alone at a predetermined location (probably the car). We shouldn't get upset at each other for aborting; we're learning and exploring and we're each vulnerable and trying to protect ourselves. It's bound to happen that someone aborts at some point when the other one is massively aroused at the situation. Let's go easy on each other for aborting and be understanding. Remember that this whole thing is just "icing on the cake." There's no such thing as a missed opportunity here. There will always be another opportunity.
Frequency: Carbon and Smudge will go on "engagements" together no more than once per week. This gives us some time to reflect and let the reality of things sink in. Smudge often likes to let things ruminate for a while before talking, so this gives her and us some time to take an accurate assessment of how we’re feeling between engagements.
Power dynamics: Carbon and Smudge will adopt specific power dynamics in certain situations during Phase 1. These are designed to provide a safer environment for both of them, given their individual psychologies and histories. These dynamics are:
In relation to engagements: Carbon will assume a mildly dominant role in which Smudge is “his slut” and is being directed by him to flirt with other men and to carry out other activities related to engagements.
After sex: After every time Carbon and Smudge have sex, Smudge will assume a mildly dominant role and power Carbon to eat his creampie from Smudge’s pussy or ass.
Engagements: There is only one activity we are agreeing to engage in during this phase: the "flirting" bar scenario, outlined below.
* We pick a bar/club where we think identification is less likely.
* We pick a date ahead of time so we can prepare. We also pick a length of time for the activity (e.g. 3 hours). This also allows excitement to build as we pick an outfit, etc.
* We pick a spot for the comedown and designate a minimum time that we will devote to that.
* We agree on any security precautions that must be taken.
* We agree on answers to the following standard questions: name, relationship status, contact info, employment.
* We arrive in the car together and make sure cell phones are charged; we both agree to keep our cell phones out so we can communicate effectively and quickly.
* We agree on the time at which we'll both be back in the car alone together again. We set alarms on our clocks for this time.
* Smudge goes in first and settles-in at a scouting location. Ideally her location gives her a view of the venue but is also secluded enough that she can get frisky without having to move; this will avoid having to deal with a location change later.
* Carbon enters the venue a few minutes later and finds a spot with a line of sight to Smudge. His goal will be to set himself up literally just a few feet away at the bar, acting like he doesn't know Smudge. We'll both have to be careful to avoid making too much eye contact with each other. If Carbon can't find a close and obvious place, he will text Smudge to let her know where he is and that he sees her.
* Smudge begins her hunt. If she identifies a target at a distance, she texts Carbon, and if he requests it, she gives him time to change location so he can see her do her dirty work
* Carbon texts back that he's ready, and Smudge moves in and starts flirting with her target.
* Instead of Smudge moving in on a target she spots in the distance, it is very likely that a potential target will be lured into approaching Smudge at her scouting location. In that case, there is no need for Smudge to text Carbon. She can proceed as she desires without any further communication (i.e. if she wants to flirt with this target, great; if not, she can dismiss him).
* Carbon can also suggest targets to Smudge via text.
* Carbon may veto any target at any time, and if that happens Smudge will back off and find another target. Obviously Smudge can veto a target simply by not interacting or ending the interaction.
* Smudge will abide by the agreement on what we consider "flirting" as outlined below, and she will remember to keep her phone out and visible and be responsive to it so she can be in constant communication with Carbon.
* Smudge will stay in public areas of the venue at all times. Under no circumstances will she go to private or restricted areas or leave the venue at any time. She will also stay out of the bathrooms with her target.
* Smudge will stay in line of sight of Carbon. There may be cases in which Smudge and her target want to go someplace else at the venue, either to smoke or to have a little more privacy. To accomplish this while letting Carbon maintain a line of sight, Smudge will text Carbon before changing locations so he knows where' they'll be going. Once Smudge and her target arrive at the new location, Smudge will keep an eye out for a text from Carbon saying he can see her. If a few minutes go by and Smudge hasn't received verification that Carbon can see her (either visually verified by seeing Carbon, or verified via a text from him), then Smudge should proactively text Carbon to find out what's up.
* When and if Smudge and her target decide to change locations back to the previous location or move on to another location, the same procedure will be followed.
* At some point during the evening, either time will run out (Carbon will try to give Smudge a warning that we're approaching the end of the time, but Smudge should take responsibility to keep track on her own), or one of us will want to abort. When either of these things happens, Smudge will text Carbon that she is aware of the engagement ending. Then she will start wrapping things up with her target by exchanging whatever contact information she wants to (or not). She may make implied future plans with her target, but nothing concrete. Only Smudge's Google Voice number should be given out; not her actual mobile number.
* Smudge will leave first. If her target leaves her alone and lets her go without a fuss, Carbon will follow shortly thereafter and they will meet in the car. If her target insists on following her or helping her to her car or whatever, Smudge will go to the car by herself and drive away without Carbon. If that happens, she will text Carbon once she's away and coordinate picking him up again.
* Carbon and Smudge will proceed immediately to the comedown location. If all goes well, they'll be massively turned on and will probably recount and talk about the experience and have some great sex as a result. If there are unexpected emotional issues to deal with instead, then they'll just spend the time comforting and supporting each other.
Agreement on "flirting"We don't want to make too many rules about flirting, since really this should be natural and Smudge should do whatever she feels like doing and enjoy herself. There are no things she MUST do. However, there do need to be some ground rules since this is Phase 1:
Things that are off-limits:* Skin-to-skin contact involving Smudge's breasts, pussy, or asshole.
* Skin-to-skin contact involving her target's cock or asshole.
* FYI a condom on his cock doesn't get around the "skin-to-skin" rule, even though it's technically not skin.
Things that are not off-limits, but instead are fucking hot and eagerly encouraged:* Conversational foreplay: telling your target how much you want to feel his cock deep in your stretched pussy and his pelvic bone slam into yours until you're bruised, or how much you want to feel him power your mouth all the way down his shaft, or how much you want to feel his hot cum dripping down the crack of your ass.
* Kissing: your lips on his, passionately; his tongue probing your mouth; his lips on your neck and in your ear. Make out. You're superb at it.
* Basic flirting touch: your hand on his; his hands around your waist; his hand on your back or running through your hair.
* Petting: his hand down the back of your skirt grabbing your ass; your hand on his cock through his jeans; his hands caressing your naked thighs (and if he can get away with it in public, his mouth on your legs and thighs); your hand down his jeans on his ass; his hands massaging your breasts through your clothes; grinding your ass and pussy on his hard cock through your skirt and his jeans; his hand on your pussy, but through jeans or a skirt (not directly on your panties). And an odd one, but one specific to you: massaging your hand until you cum.
* [Not allowed for Phase 1] Heavy petting: He can use his fat fingers to work your juicy pussy into ecstasy through your panties as he holds you in his embrace, his tongue exploring your wanting mouth. Just keep him on this side of your soaked panties so there's technically no skin-to-skin contact and you're good to go.
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