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My wife has gotten tired of my cuckold fantasy. She came right out ask me if I wanted her to have sex with other men in real life. I responded YES.

As someone who has cuckolded many I can say this is not unusual. Most wife's find it hard to understand the cuckold wish. Many cannot understand how their husband would not be jealous, envious, etc., and worry how it will affect their relationship / marriage. They are concerned about the husband wanting to fuck others women and falling out of love with them. You have started communicating so that is a start, but the latter point I have made needs discussion. Your wife has tested you so far and is wary, but in time and with communication she will cuckold you. Good luck

Yeah, we girls are sort of strange. We get up in fancy dress in front of our parents and all our friends, his parents and all his friends, and God, and promise to be faithful and cleave only, etc. and the moment we get back from the horneymoon, um, I mean HONEYmoon, damned if he doesn't want us to fuck other guys.

If you want a race horse, don't bring home a cow and see if you can change it into a horse. Pick someone like me. I have my mom's "slut" gene. It's not possible for me to be faithful to anyone, although I can get up there in a fancy dress and say all the right words if I have to. You won't have to ask, or fantasize about me fucking other guys, it will happen whether you want it to or not.

There are lots of girls like me out there, but guys always look for Miss Right when they really want Miss Wrong. It's true, there are Good Girls that Go Bad, but why not save a lot of time and agony and start out with a bad girl to begin with?

Love,

Jamie

Well she can write some new vows for you and lock you in chastity in a nice little ceremony.

This is not a put down to anyone, it is a real question of the OP. Do you really know why you want her to fuck other guys. I am not saying you are wrong or sick. I don't think you need to be talked out of anything or "cured." I am after honest communications. Your answer to that might be "I really don't know, but I really do want it." She may come back with I really don't want to or a hell yes, I want to.

All I am getting at is to base your communication on an honest and open basis. Don't make up things to get you something you want. Don't be afraid to work together to find answers for feelings, if you can. Sometimes feelings "just are" and you really can't identify a reamister.

Update: She wants us to go to a Marriage Counselor. Im not sure how the Counselor will advise on the cuckolding. I would think that most of them would frown upon the cuckold lifestyle.

Depends on if they are "kink" friendly. Talk to her about finding someone who will treat it as something treat it as something the two of you have to work through. Not as one of you being sick.

If your wife wants to "save the marriage" is a sign that she loves you. That's good. The problem is that, although a "Marriage Counselor" can give a professional opinion, the reality is that the issue in question (cuckolding) is a subject little studied and even less understood. If you allow me the comparimister, see a counselor to resolve an issue of cuckolding is like seeing a witch to treat a cancer. I'm not against professionals, but let's face it: they know very little about cuckolding (you can check trying to find serious writings on cuckolding, there are very few).

It's quite natural that your wife is concerned with this issue. It's something that society rejects as openly as he did years ago with other subjects, such as masturbation, premarital sex or homosexuality. Is very possible that in the future cuckolding becomes socially accepted, but today is doomed, so, certainly, the cuckold practice involves risks.

Without excluding professional help can be useful, I would recommend you study together the subject. You have done already, but you can deep (eg, it seems your wife thinks your "problem" is very rare, when cuckolding fantasies are the most common thing in the world). Is studying the matter together, and not going with a "judge" to tell you what to do, what will give you the best solution.
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My wife was the same she could not understand the idea that I just want to be there and watch as she is fucked. She was raised not to play around and that this was forbiddin.

While after 6 years of talking she finally started to open more and want to play we started chattin and then we meet a guy together. Was so hot watching the first time and since then we have been another bull. I would consider us a sub cuck couple for this guy. He is really hung and fucks wife so good. The days after he is with us we fuck no stop.

You really need to talk about it and have a open and really strong relationship to make any of this work. Also you have to find right bull. We have found one that just wants to fuck and not try to steal wife. That is my one worry but so far after a year into actual playing we are more in love than ever and our relationship is a ton better

Your welcome, luck and success in the future

The more she learns about just how common this cuckolding wish is the better...women are brought up with the wrong programming!!...at least wrong from our viewpoint...they are brought up to think they should value their virginity and only give it to the right guy either after she marries him or after she's sure he's the one she wants a long lasting relationship with. Years of this type of brainwashing by her parents cannot be erased overnight. Her initial reaction is that cuckolding her husband will cheapen her and she will be viewed with less respect, even though nothing could be further from the truth. Once I had finally got my wife used to the idea of cuckolding me and she started to finally give in, I became very involved in procuring sex partners for her. This partnership really brought us closer together than we had ever been. One of the best moments in my life was the first time I was allowed to be present on the bed with her bull and her...it was my very first time witnessing what I had fantasized about for so long...my wife fucking another man in my presence! The moment as he was entering his cock into her pussy she looked at me and blew me a kiss and whispered 'I love you'. At that moment I felt very, very close to her and she knew it! Once you can get their mind away from all the garbage they have been fed all their life, and they understand that we can love them and still desire them to have sex with other men, things can do a 360 degree turn...but it does take some patience, perseverance and work.

She also wants to make sure that acting on these fantasies won't wreck your relationship with each other.

Let us know how the therapy session goes! I'm curious to know what they say...

First congratulations on having the courage to bring this subject up, and don't be too disappointed with her response. As many others have commented that instant feeling for most, when the other half brings up cuckolding etc is what am "I" doing wrong? They feel that you have become less attracted to them some how, or that you no longer love them, which couldn't be further from the truth.

The next step is the hardest you need to be 100% sure that cuckolding is right for [u]you[/u], cuckolding brings a whole range of emotions and guilt that you need to be ready for before you continue to try and convince you wife. Fantasy and reality are not one and the same!

If you are 100% certain you need to convince your wife (and i don't mean trick or power) that cuckolding will strengthen not weaken your relationship. You need to convince her that you still find her attractive (this is VERY important) and that you will love her no matter if she decides to go along with your fantasy or not. Finally remember men and womens brains work differently (this is not meant as a sexist comment) we are more visually stimulated but women usually need a more emotional approach, this is why 50 shade of Grey and the thousands of other erotic novels sell so well to women and the Porn industry is so male focused. So top showing her your porn collection and look for erotic stories on the subject (i.e litrotica) but ensure you proof read them first!

Finally take baby steps have you two considered visiting a swingers club?

I understand this is not what you are looking for but if you go with no intention of playing and simply watching others play, it may be a more gentle introduction to thinking about sex outside "your" bedroom

Good luck

I have several comments to this...but I think the best thing you can do now, is what you are doing...


She knows about it and thinks about it all the time...trust me...

Communication is the main issue here...and of course, as said by some above...only a deadly serious relationship can survive this...plus...she must understand that you are doing tis to get closer...not vice verse...

But, I think you should show her the following cartoon...and ask her if this is how she wants to end up..?



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A cuck to my GF - A bull to all other women

Last night on the way home from dinner she told me that she was going to fuck another man. She said I'm telling you this because when it happens it wont be cheating, Right? she said. Instead of just say ok my dumb ass had to say no, I needed to who what where and when. Then she got pissed. She said if I'm cool with her fucking other men then we have no marriage. I never bring it up cuckolding she keeps bring it up
I think she keeps bring up fucking other guys to test me and see if this is what I really want. I'm really getting tired of all the fighting tho.

Wife said shes going to do it!! She said she cant fuck a stranger, she wants to fuck someone she knows.
I told her that she was calling the shots. I don't want some guy trying to steal my wife tho. I would like to meet and talk to him before they fuck. I think a stranger would be alot easier. Shes not comfortable with me watching the 1st time. I'm cool with that.

WOW! That is awesome! Let us know how it goes

Any updates?

she hasn't had sex with anyone yet, but she sure has open up sexually! We started using toys and taking pictures

A few years ago I had the same thing happen and those exact same words from my wife!At one point my wife thought I was fucking another chic,when actually I wasn't,just attracted to her!All of a sudden my wife quits wearing panties,especially to work!And that was odd because she would never think of doing that,she would say it was improper!But for several months the sex was the best it had ever been in 20 some odd years of marriage!Thing is,a lot of nights after she had gone to bed,I would check her pants,and they would be stained with what looked like cum!A few times she would rush righ into the bath,and sneak her sexy panties in the tub with her,this was on the few rare occasions when she wore them,and would wash them while bathing!Then if we were going to have sex that night,she wouldn't let me go any where near her cunt with my mouth!Now that was a big sign,cause she always wants me to go down on her before we fuck!!The few times I insisted,I would start to eat her and notice what looked like cum already running out,and it wasn't hers,a few times was even a streamer!When I said it looked like she had already been fucked,she would not say anything!But man did that wet stretched out cunt feel good!!!!sometimes her breath would smell like cock,cause I would get her to kiss me before we got home,she would do it reluctantly!Then all of a sudden,she cut me off,to once a month if I was lucky!!All the while her pants wold 8 out of 10 times be stained!So something was going on,but she would never come out and admit to anything!a few times she would bring up the past and accuse me of fucking around,and I would turn it around on her,and say "maybe your the one fucking someone else"!Her replie would be"Maybe,maybe not"!So be careful what you wish for,it might just happen ,and not the way you want it!!Good luck!

Anything new?

I also discussed with my husband these questions. I could not understand why my husband wants me to have sex with another man. But then I realized that my husband gets a lot of pleasure and satisfaction. I accepted the offer and her husband found a lover. At first we did not all turned out, I went through a few men. And finally we found what they were looking. All satisfied and happy.