Seeking Answers From Those Who Crossed From Fantasy Into Reality

I feel as if my wife and I have made a lot of progress from when we began our cuckolding games. She has really embraced being the dominant one in the bedroom, as she really enjoys spanking me with a paddle, telling me I have a little pecker and how men with big dicks made her feel in the past. Last week she even bought a thin strap-on and liked the power she felt as she fucked my ass with it. Most of our games center on her being fucked by a large cock, either by using a lifelike dildo named after her ex-boyfriend or me using The Perfect Extension(9inch). Last Friday as I was fucking her with this extension she kept calling me by her ex-boyfriend's name, telling me to fuck her harder. When she rode me she had some very intense orgasms. After that we laid in bed and I asked her if she has thought about fucking another man in front of me for real. Usually she is quick to shoot me down no matter how much fun we had right before. I do not ask this question too often as I do not want to pressure her. This time she just ignored my question and laid there quietly. I feel like she has thought about it, but I did not press it further. My question is for husbands whose wives have done it for real. What kind of games have you played and what made your wife decide to make this a reality? Please no fakes as I am a real cuckold wanna-be and would like my wife to cross from fantasy into reality.

My wife was reluctant to take the plunge because she didn't feel like the kinds of men she desired would actuAlly desire her. What turned the tide for us was when I set up an Ashley Madimister profile for her and she actually started receiving messages from attractive men (yes, 50 trolls/flakes for every real and hot guy but these are the perils of on-line sites). Not pushing one site over another but look into setting up a profile for your wife with VERY specific criteria on age/size for what your looking for. She'll get offers and can respond to those she likes. Make it as anonymous as possible. No face pics. Keep it safe. Explain that she's married and not looking for a new spouse. The rest will work out (it has for me!!).

One other thing. From your post it's pretty clear she's doing a lot for you and your fantasies in your play. But, what is in it for her and what would be in it for her if this escalates (don't just say huge cock that's usually not enough for a real woman to risk stability in her marriage). For my wife it was the chance to have men 10 years younger than her hit on her, flirt with her, make her feel attractive. Have her looks affirmed openly by someone other than her husband. What does your wife want from this?

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Thank you for the useful information all of you have posted. To answer the question as to what is in this for my wife, I will tell you about our experience last year. My wife and I were in a packed club in Las Vegas last year when a guy in his low thirties asked if the space next to us is taken. We told him no and he stood next to us. It was very loud but him and I talked a little. My wife was dressed in a beautiful red dress with her 38DD showing plenty of cleavage and he kept stealing glances at her body. My wife whispered in my ear that she finds him very attractive. When I told her to dance with him she told me no. When I would go to the bathroom, I would watch them from afar and he would whisper something in her ear and made her smile. He would also "accidentally" brush his elbow across her breasts or his hand would "accidentally" brush up against her ass. I would expect no less. He must have played this game before because as soon as I got back he became a gentleman as he figured that the path to my wife led thru me. After couple hours at the club my wife was ready to go to our room. He was very disappointed when I told him we had to leave, as clearly he was waiting for an invitation. I would have extended one but my wife was(and is not) ready for that step.
The sex that night (and for the rest of our stay in Vegas) was absolutely awesome. My wife kept telling me that she knows I wanted to see him fuck her. She told me how much he liked her big tits and how he kept brushing up against them when I made my long bathroom breaks. When I was about to cum she said she just knows he had a really big dick. With those words I shot all over her. My wife definitely got a lot out of a younger, attractive man showing interest in her, so I can only imagine how much she would get out of it if he actually fucked her that night.
If we ever cross into reality, a big dick alone is not enough for my wife. Since I have kept myself in top physical condition my whole life, the other guy would also have to be in good shape. Another factor that is important is that the guy would have to be intelligent as my wife is completely turned off by stupid guys, no matter how attractive he may be. Lastly, the guy would have to be able to fuck my wife in front of me as I watch, otherwise it would not happen.
That said, my wife says that if couples go thru with this, than the other guy should be very well endowed. I know every woman is different, but my wife has had really big dicks in her past and says there is nothing like it. When I tell he she could have that experience again with my blessing, she just answers that I am all she needs and wants, and if she wants something big, she just as me put on The Perfect Extension, and that way she gets to have sex with the man she loves and a big dick.

Even before you wrote your post, Juanito, I realized that the games we play in our bedroom are very similar to what you were doing with your wife in your bedroom before she did it for real after I read your posts. Once again, thank you to all three of you for your insightful posts.

This all sounds so familiar. When I met my wife, I told her everything I was open to sexually, and because of a previously low sex drive, I had already sexualized being/becoming a cuckold. We wound up having a great sex life together that has included a lot of dirty talk, pegging, powerd fem, and also a great deal of hot vanilla sex. After almost 3 years of playing with the idea of her seeking dick outside of our relationship, she found a partner with a dick much larger than mine to play with. She calls it "variety" to be nice, but I am understanding, and she is very appreciative of my understanding -- all adding up to a better happier relationship between us.

We use CL. We have both met once with a bi bbc, and I have seen her get rammed in front of me. I have licked his balls while she held me by my hair. I am openly bi with her, and we have gotten off many times to the idea. Now we are seeking to create positive experiences of playing out all of the fantasies we have played with over the years.

I've found the reality of all this to be nothing but hot and consensual. Our communication is wide open too. Either one of us can pull the brake cable at any time. When I have had angst, I have tried to conceal it as to not be a bother -- it is better to just communicate it when you feel it. My wife has been very emotionally accommodating when I have had any week moments, but that can only happen if I communicate clearly with her -- the same is true for you.

If you are like me, you love your wife and want her to be happy. I hope this helps.

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