looking for advice from the ladies, or guys if you have been here...

So some of you may have seen other posts we have place.

We are new to "cuckolding" so to speak. For years I have been turned on by the though of her with other men. We have explored that off and on, often times with MFM or something similar. Until recently I have never been just a spectator. It is usually a one night thing with the exception of 2 guys that have been .. for lack of a better term, repet visits. One guy is married and she has known him since before I even meet her. He is only with his wife and my wife. The other is someone in the lifestyle and we meet for maybe a year, sometimes alone sometimes together.

About a month ago I told her that I wanted to be her cuck, at least for a short term trial, that time has already been extended. She did not seem to hesitate at the idea and I have been locked in chastity since.

A few nights ago we went to meet a potential new lover for her, only to have him not show. In the time she drank a bit and had a good buzz. When we returned home she wanted some, she wanted me. She unlocked me and unfortunately due to some medications I am on, I am more or less unable to get or maintain an erection without some medical help. Only on rare occasions when I am extremely horny and have a large amount of attention focused on me do I seem to be able to maintain an erection.

My inability to perform crushed her and it turned out to be a less than steller night. She felt rejected by me and that I do not want her, I only want her to do other guys and see what I can get her to do. That is not the case at all, I do love her and care for her dearly. I also enjoy the idea, images and storie of her with others. I also find that I am very much enjoying being her cuck and doing what she asks, pleasing her and pampering her.

That evening she said that if it ever happens again and we go down this road again she is done and leaving. The next morning we talked and she said that she will continue up till next weekend when we are attending a gangbang party. Since then she has made some other profiles on adult sites, is making plans to meet new guys over the next week and asked that we RSVP for a swinger party this weekend. If I object she tells me that I have no choice in it.

I am very confused in all of this, I do not want to do anything to cause her further pain or feeling rejected. I also very much enjoy this wild side of her. I know she enjoys the added attention not only from me but other men as well and she loves a nice big cock no question. She has moral dilemmas about being with other men and many one nightstands.

So in all of that, I am wondering if there are any suggestions? Should I put my foot down and stop it now? ride it out and see where it takes us?

I haven't seen your other posts, but I'll tell you what I think.

I think that she has her own issues to deal with, and wants to solve them by blaming problems on you sometimes.

You say that she was crushed by your inability to perform on demand. You didn't create the situation, and you're not responsible for it or her poor behavior when she was takeing.

If she was serious about leaving you for such a reamister, then it's an excuse for doing something she wants to do.

The question should not be what you "should" do. Rather, it should be, "What do you _want_ to do?" What do you want from your relatiinship with her? And do you want her to sort out her issues pertaining to whether her desires are okay to pursue?

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Christine (a sissy m)

I have a similar issue that you do. I too am on medications that greatly affect my ability to perform, to the point that sex is nearly nonexistent. I purchased a strap-on dildo and I used it on her. We both enjoyed it very much and I even managed to get hard for a few minutes. When I was hard, I slipped my cock inside her and she lover it. When it went soft, I resumed the dildo. It was mind blowing!

She has had lovers in the past, but has put on a little weight and doesn't want anyone else to see her like that. So now, it is just my strap-on that get's sex. It is actually more erotic than just watching, because you are there going through the motions but still unable to touch her.

thanks for the advice

we have talked about the strap-on idea before and that may provide some options. The real issue may come from somewhere else as bpop stated.

For now I will ride the ride and see where it takes us. We meet with someone last night and it seemed to be a good time for all. I still don't really understand at all, but maybe that's just me.

Sadly, I see a number of red-flags in all this. She blames you for medicine-created erection issues? She gets angry at you because some other guy didn't show? She has a moral dilemma about the cucking you? She feels like you are using her for your kink and don't care about or ant her yourself.

It seems pretty clear to me that she is uncomfortable with the cuckolding and insecure about you devotion to her (and a bit narcissistic, frankly. I mean blame you for the medication?) This is NOT a relationship ideally suited for experimenting with such a risky and extreme fetish.

My prescription for the two of you is talk and a lot of it. You folks really need to get to know each other better in terms of what makes you tick, what you fears and turn-ons are and why. I recommend sitting down with her and telling her that yes, this all turns you on incredibly, but you don't ever want to see her hurt or suffer like that again and you think the two of you should cool it and ratchet it back to some role-play between the two of you until she feels comfortable going forward.

Yes; it is possible she will never be comfortable, but going forward like this is very, very likely to end in a crash and burn. To get a chance at a stable, deep, loving, healthy marriage and - possibly - rewarding, sustainable cuckolding relationship, I think you need to step back a notch.

Good luck to you both!
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