How do I cope with what I want?? Advice please

I spent almost two years talking my girlfriend into trying something with another guy. We are both early 30's, and she is a gorgeous indian girl with nice big nipple tits and a beautiful ass, along with a nice big dark. bush. I have pics i might post later. It was and is something I fantasise about every time we have sex, and although completely opposed to the idea at first, she got to liking the idea over time and eventually started by kissing a guy at a wedding. That was a huge turn on for me Following that incident which she enjoyed very much, some time later while we were in different countries, and I was giving her a lot of encouragement, she ended up taking home in her words the cute young brother of a cute older brother home and getting naked with him. They fooled around but didn't have sex.

After hearing about this I absolutely loved it and couldn't stop trying to picture it in my head while she described it to me. She told me how she really wanted the older brother but he had a gf. Then a few weeks later while we were still in different countries, she met the older brother, and they were hot for each other. She wanted him badly and had told me so before many times as I loved to hear about it. They ended up back home early the next morning where she finally fucked this guy, and she absolutely loved it.

I called her the next morning while she was still in bed with him although I didn't know that until later. I thought all my dreams had some true and I couldn't wait to get back to her so we could go over the whole situation together and have some good peverted sex. The problem started when I got back home, and I found that when I was faced with the situation of her still going to places where she would see this guy, I got jealous and got angry with her. To say she was upset and felt betrayed would be a huge understatement. It quickly declined to a situation where she ended up almost breaking up with me and moved out for a month. At that point I was beside myself with grief at having this great woman who gave me what I wanted, and would have given more, then I ruined it through jealousy.
The thing is, the thought of her fucking other guys is still extremely much a turn on and I still think about it all the time. But I still have times when if I am with her and she gets naughty then I have trouble handling it. We got back together and actually since then she has played with a couple of guys when she went overseas without me but didn't have sex with them. We both still enjoyed the whole thing even after all the trouble I had caused. But now I want her to find more guys and get her brains fucked out which I know she will love, and she is prepared to do it. We both still love to talk about it during sex. However, she has lost confidence in me being able to cope with it, and so is very hesitant.

I very much want to have this lifestyle with her and I know she is for it, but I feel that while I can easily cope with it happening when I am not around her, I still feel unsure of my reaction if for example I meet a guy she has fucked, or if I know the guy. There was one guy we both know she would have liked to fuck, but I told her I wasn't 100% sure of how I would react and that put her right off which I understand.

So can somebody offer some advice on what the hell I should do about my problem?!!!!

i have exactly the same problem. i got my GF to do something and reacted inexpectedly. after I cum i dont like the though of it all. its very hard to deal with. an hour later and im well up for it again

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Jackdaniels is right, as once you let the cat out of the bag is impossible to put her back in it. While my wife used to (at my insistance) go out and fuck other guys, later telling me about it and exciting me tremendously, due to safety reamisters we have opted for a little different style. We now both meet with the bull and he fucks her while I watch. This is a much safer arrangement, particularly if the Bull is not totally familiar to you and thus trustworthy to not hurt he (which I rather he not be too familiar or a mutual acquaintance). Better for respectability with other family and friends this way.
As far as treating her like a queen, by all means, do encourage her and reward her for her "nutty" behavior. After all, it is that very behavior that turns you on. And while you will experience a little jealousy now and then, you will find that the jealousy is very soon replaced by total acceptance and erotic excitement. Before marriage I dated some real loose whores who would fuck every man at the party after the other woment went home. I only wish I had married one of those kind of girls! It would certainly have been a lot easier to have a ready-made slut as opposed to having to convince your "good girl" wife that you actually want her to act like a slut and fuck other guys. Enjoy the lifestyle guys. You are in for a wild ride with your women and their Bulls.

Being a cuckold is a submissive role by way of offense and honour of the female partner and her lovers while still maintaining a secure, loving relationship with her, the Cuckoldress.

You mention jealousy. Jealousy like anger is a mixture of emotions all lumped in together. From what you describe here, you may be having a hard time dealing with the offense aspect of being cuckolded.

jackdaniels makes some good points and and I�d like to point out they are all subservient roles for you to take.

1) make her in charge in that you don�t have a say in when and who she fucks
2) tell her constantly that she is your queen and you no longer have any doubts at all and you want her to fuck hung men
3) buy her presents. if you hear she flirted with a guy, buy her a nice outfit, if you hear she fucked her a guy buy her anything you can that will make her happy (can be jewelry, or shoes or whatever, even a car, depends on her likes and your budget)

There are more I could list but it�s important to point out that to many these roles are a place of honour. To others they are offense yet still a turn on and an almost divine knowledge of how correct it feels.

The best way for her to cuck you is for you to come to terms with whatever issues she keeps bumping into. We all have our hard limits but if you can�t describe what the limit is and where it is standing then it�s like she is walking in a dark warehouse, bumping into pillars that hold up a roof of ego. It won�t take long until she is tired of that.

Just my 1.73 cents USD
Vancouver BC, Canada

i agree with 40Dom and Jack Daniels. You should think about it long and hard before getting into it. Its too late after.
kinda worked the other way with us. neil was very excited when i started enjoying others but i felt a bit guilty. But once started, doms told me not to even think about him and just enjoy myself. So I did.

I don't think it is impossible to stop. This is not a one-way street. Who wrote that rule? People change their minds every day about many things. The problem is that it may not change and that is the risk of pushing our wives into this lifestyle.

Make up your mind if you truly want this or not. Fantasy is one thing, reality, and all that goes with it, is another. ;)

You are very lucky, she cares about you, otherwise it wouldn't upset her to make you jealous. She has gone through the emotional wringer for you,she has taken all the risks. The main problem is that you aren't getting anything out of the situation. You need to be an active participant so that you ensure you both get what you want, and so you can always be there to support her both physically and emotionally. Maybe you should ask her to marry you so that you both have more emotional security.

I too spent about two years trying to get my wife to fuck other guys. Debbie had a fairly busy social life whilst I worked shifts or stayed home with the kids. I would often worry if she was seeing other men behind my back. I had always been quite possessive and insecure with my first wife, but less so with Debbie. When we met, I was 29, she was 22 and had two youngren by different mans.

I gradually realised why I so enjoyed useing vibrators and dildos on Debbie. I was imagining them to be real penises penetrating my wife's pussy and when I shared this thought with Debbie, she enjoyed the fantasy of me watching someone else fuck her.

As time went by, I realised that I wouldn't mind her being fucked by another man as long as she told me what was happening. I didn't want her to do it behind my back and have to make up lies to cover her tracks.

Debbie found this hard to believe at first, but gradually she realised that I was really up for this cuckold experience. She admitted that the prospect of turning fantasy into reality excited her and that if she did take a lover, she would rather like a younger guy, maybe 24/25 (she was now 34).

Debbie took things at her own pace. She would come home and tell me if she had been chatted up by other guys. She was always flattered if it was a young guy, even as young as 17 or 18. We had agreed that she should not relax with someone I knew or worked with, but as Debbie worked too, A likely candidate surfaced in Dave, a 27-year-old driver at the same firm. They met up a couple of times, but nothing happened apart from a quick kiss and cuddle.

One night Debbie went clubbing with some friends and came home and announced that she'd been a "naughty girl". My cock stiffened as she revealed that at a club, she had been offered a take by a nice black guy. He had steered her to a quiet corner of the bar away from her friends and within 10 minutes, they were kissing passionately and he had rubbed his hand up and down my wife's bare thigh, almost touching the front of her panties. Unfortunately,Debbie was called upon to help get one of her very pissed friends home, so had to leave her new friend high and dry. She promised to go to that club again to see him, but never did. If she hadn't beencalled away, I'm sure they would have gone somewhere to fuck, but at least it allowed Debbie to test my reaction. I think she was pleased to see how excited I was. She got me to spank her for being so naughty, before we had fantastic sex.

Then along came Chris, a 23-year-old customer where Debbie worked. His name kept coming up in conversation and Debbie said how nice he was. He always made a bee-line for her, and despite knowing her age and that she was married with kids, soon asked her to go out with him. She checked with me that it was okay and then agreed to meet him after work. On their 3rd date, Chris took Debbie to his flat and fucked her three times. After their first fuck, Debbie phoned me to say she'd "been busy" - our code for fucking. At the end of the evening, I picked her up and she looked like the cat that got the cream. As we drove home, Chris texted her to thank her for a lovely evening and told her that next time he got her alone, he was going to fuck her brains out again. As soon as we got home and into bed, Debbie phoned Chris to thank him and ask if he meant what he said. He didn't know I knew about them fucking. I then made Debbie tell me all about their love-making before fucking her myself.

Later the next day though, the insecurity kicked in. What if he's better than me? What if he has a really big cock? What if she falls in love with him or him with her? Would she leave me? Despite the night before agreeing to let her see him for regular sex and maybe stay at his place now and again, I now asked her not to see him again. Debbie was not impressed. Also, Chris went a bit cold, as if he'd had what he was after and that was it. Debbie felt dirty, used and a bit of a slut and it took some time to reassure her that no harm had been done to our marriage and that I still loved her very much. Since then Debbie has not cuckolded me, despite my promise that I'd be fine if she had sex with someone else.

If Ihadn't been so stupid, perhaps her and Chris would have carried on having sex for a few weeks or if didn't want her pussy anymore, perhaps Dave may have been second time lucky. I regret asking her to stop now.
We do fantasise in bed still about other men fucking my "naughty" wife, but I doubt if she'll ever repeat the cuckold experience, but I live in hopes.
Peter C

PeterC: Perhaps what you need to do is play Cupid for her. I have at times acted as my wife's "Agent" (Nice word for Pimp) in securing a piece of ass for her. I have advertised in a swinger's website and upon receiving many inquiries from guys wanting to fuck my wife (usually while I watch and encourage them) I meet with the most likely prospects. I then set up a date and both my wife and I go and meet the guy. At this point he already knows that I'm involved and I approve, and she already knows that I am OK with it, otherwise I would not have set up the 3-some arrangement. She usually ends up thanking me later for the erotic time, and as we re-live the experience during sex it's a super turn on for both of us. Sometimes all you need is a little ingenuity to get what you want. Good luck, and I hope your cuckold fantasies come true for you again.