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I think you make an interesting case. I think it's also true that we tend to attract more dominant permisteralities in our mates. That increases the likely hood by some degree that we will get cucked.

I think that it is important to communicate who you are and what you want both clearly and logically. By logically, I mean that you shouldn't be too abrasive explaining how you are a cuckold wannabe. It might scare off a good candidate by providing too much detail to fast.

Here's a flow of communication I used when I met my wife:

- posted an add on Craigslist explaining that I was a normal guy who was looking for an intelligent princess who is naturally a bit dominant. It mainly focused on my permisterality and requirements for a match. I tagged on the fact that I had a few kinky aspects and am naturally submissive.
-there was a clear front runner in the responses to my ad and I found myself writing emails with my now wife. I let her ask about my fantasies... Her curiosity sparked from my ad.
- She had time to prepare for my desires, so it was time to lay out my cards. I worded my desires timidly, but honest, explaining that it was mildly embarrassing that I get turned on by the things that turn me on.
- I explained that she would have total sexual freedom to do as she pleases. That's true too. I will only be offended by the betrayal of lying, etc.

We married after almost 1.5 yrs of dating and have been married 1.25 yrs since then. She has never slept with anyone else, although it seems she may soon -- guys are flaky or she already would have. I have a panty drawer and I do as she says... I'm kind of her service maid, but we also have very normal sex regularly. 2 times a month or so, she likes to peg me, and she says she wants me dolled up and will peg me immediately after she cucks me for the first time. This is a success story for sur, and I love my wife and life.

My point, flashing your locked up wee wee might work for some girls, but you could wind up frightening away a girl who would be perfect. Just follow a line logic when revealing your fantasies, and things will go much more smoothly.

If you tell a girl you're submissive and she makes a face, she knows very little about what exactly you like, so you've avoided a potentially painful experience that way.

Hope this helps, good luck!
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I think it should be clear to anyone thinking logically, and not under the influence of raging hormones, that suddenly dropping a major kink on someone is just going to scare them off. Male or female. If a woman I hardly knew suddenly said she wanted me to pee on her, I'd think she was just too weird and leave. The permister will also think you are interested in only one thing, rather than in them as a whole permister.

First, you build up trust and a relationship, just like any other. After you have bonded, both of you will want to reveal more unusual or embarrassing aspects of your permisterality, and hope for acceptance. That is what everyone wants-- acceptance for who they are. Hopefully, your woman will be open minded enough and loving enough to accept you kink. If you are really lucky, she may even like it, or learn to like it after a while. This is what happened in my case-- she started to enjoy the dominance and most of all having sex with other guys.

I think Straponfantasizer also has a good strategy-- be upfront about it early on, BUT do not just spring it on her. Instead, introduce her to it slowly. The only difference is that this happens from an earlier stage in the relationship. IN my case, ti was also a bit like this-- I started hinting at unusual kinks after a few months, seeing which ones she liked. This can also work especially if the woman also has some kinks she might be a bit ashamed of. Remember-- many men would dump a woman who admitted she wants a gang bang, yet I am convinced from permisteral experience that this fantasy is very common in women.

So that's my advice, anyway.

In my case there is no question that my sexual submissive perpetuated the lifestyle.

When we first were dating, my wife was quite vanilla. I confessed my kinky nature to her with great fear and trembling. She was surprised and intimidated, but didn't turn away. Some of what I was into was too uncomfortable for her. We latched onto cuckolding in large measure because it was the part of my fantasies that she could see some benefit for herself and that intrigued her the most. Even at that she was quite scared when we first did it of the reprecussions.

My cuckold and sissy tendencies changed that rather quickly, however. Before even we were married she had admitted to me that she could never again see me as the kind of assertive take-charge male that turned her on. Having seen me submit, abase, and emasculate myself so often she could never again manage the suspension of disbelief to fantasize that I was "taking" her. Her sexual interest in me dwindled rapidly even as our emotional commitment increased.

My supportive attitude towards her relationships, and my invariably enthusiastic response to any and every effort or risk she took ti try to satisfy my kinks reinpowerd behavior and defined the architecture of a very different relationship than the one we might have had. In time she gave-up on the idea of getting satisfaction from me and came to believe that my being as degraded, emasculated, and sexually estranged from her body as practical was simply the price paid for the good things in our relationship. It was part of the package of who I was and who, as a couple, we were that she get her most of her sexual thrill from others. I suppose you could say she was resigned to this as unavoidable reality and would now find it very hard to imagine some other manner of relationship with me.

It is true that her outside lovers were also more fit and better endowed than I was. (Not bigger, actually, but a more pleasing shape for her. She confessed that the way my cock curved - and the way I fucked - had always made me an uncomfortable and lousy lay for her. She had put up with it because she loved me and fucking isn't everything.) But I think many of my fellow cuckolds make too much of this aspect. Looks attract and good sex satisfies, but they are not, in my experience or observation, what really counts for women when they are looking for a serious partner.
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Question for Juanito. My wife and I are at the same stage as you were. We watch porn together, the same type as you described, and she uses very large dildos as we constantly pretend another man is fucking her, but she backs off when we are not in the heat of the moment. how long did it take you to get your wife to cross that line?