cuckypa123:
What do u think i should do saturdsy? Im off so ill be baby sitting our kid. Ill be sitting here just thinking about it.
Well, I don't think too much, because you want to be cool and make sure it goes as smoothly as possible to encourage her to do it again. If you must do something, this is what I suggest:
1. First and foremost, be an excellent baby-sitter. If she is to be comfortable doing this sort of thing, you need to minimize worry, stress, friction, associated with it. Showing that you've "got it covered," is the most important thing. No crisis, no drama, no pile of stuff for new her to deal with when she gets back. She needs to feel there is nothing to worry about on your end so she can focus on herself and her date.
2. Be very supportive and upbeat about the whole thing. This is especially important Friday night and Saturday before she goes (and when she returns!) Remember, she is nervous too. She needs to feel like you're on her team and behind her all the way. Helping her pick out clothes (if she's like that and welcomes the help) is sometimes a good way to be supportive. (But remember - upbeat, don't be critical.) In any event, you should tell her how good she looks before she goes. Your job is to make her feel confident, beautiful, and deserving.
3. If you have the opportunity and resources beyond that (I can't recall - if you even said -the age of your young,) do something nice for her while she is gone to add to the pleasantness. Something like cleaning the house, or getting on with items from your chore list, etc. I leave it to you to know what would be most appreciated (and that you can get done while accomplishing job 1 above.) But doing something like that will help rebuff any subconscious guilt she has over what she "ought" to have been doing this weekend and associate the positive of a thing done with her adventure. Also, it will demonstrate your care and commitment to her.
After she gets back, you need to continue to be supportive. Welcome her back like you would after she had gone on a nice spa day or a had a big "win" at work. Tell her you hope she had a good time. Tell her you love her. Don't press for details, sharing, or sexual activity - let her do that if and when she is comfortable. After the deed she'll feel a bit nervous about your reaction and a bit guilty. You need to make her feel loved and accepted and (again) like you are on her team and in her corner. And that you are happy and totally supportive.
If you do this, I think you'll find she'll share all with you and be very open to trying it again.
Good luck!
P.S. DO NOT TEXT HER while she is on the date, or going to it, or coming back from it. Wait, trust, stay out of the way, and be cool.
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