How to react?

A few days ago, during our holidaytrip, my girl informed me that last girls-night-out a week before, didnt end at her best friends as she told me first, but in bed with one of her co-workers. she was takeing and dancing with about 20ppl of her company and woke up naked in his bed with her clothes somewhere around his flat.

she is 25 and i would say smoking hot. he is about her age and in the same jobposition than she is, but works different shifts so they only see each other once or twice a month. he is in good shape, while i am 28 got kinda fat last years and work a way higher educated job with less time.

as she told me her story i got really horny but had to react somekind jealous, she should not think she isnt important to me. after one day relaxing in an hotel i gave her a list of sexual favours she has to do so i can forgive her. things like wearing only a microbikini while i drive her around in my convertible, blowjobs in public and one threesome mmf. she accepted without hesitation.

yesterday night as i slept with her she told me she wants to fuck him again. i said ok lets do our mmf. she wasnt confident with that solution but wants to fuck him alone another time and then take us both. she sais the situation at the company is diffucult and she wants him to not only play with her but really want her so she can easier handle him.

since that situation i wank every 30minutes but what should i do? let her go? insist on my threesome first? she told me she isnt into threesomes but needs more experience (only had me) and that i will benefit from her experience. i already did as she allowed me to do one nice shooting- that was impossible till yesterday, and she sucked me off a lot more often than during last weeks.

thx for reading, i excuse myself for not beeing one native englishspeaker and if i get a bit of interesting feedback i might post one or two pictures.

good beginning. Can you tell us some more ?

I'd say you need to let her control who when and where. If she wants him alone, then let her have him alone. But she has to come back and tell you all about it. It would be fun if she laid you down naked on the bed and then began to tell you about her encounter with him. She can use your dick as a gauge as to how much her tale is turning you on.

Also would love to see some pics. Thanks for sharing.
fender

Let her take control here and enjoy the ride my friend

i can tell everything what you want to know?

hm ill tell her she has my ok to go for it if she tells me everything during i fuck her. lets find one nice private situation to do this. i think during me beeing inside her wont be a good opportunity, a better one is where? a romantic evenening? dont think so, during kitchenwork? or ill get her takes and ask then....

and what should she say to him? she wants him getting emotionally involved, shall she play the cheating bitch, the shared wife....

i lurked this forum for 6 years, now it happens and i am overwhelmed; asking questions i would have laughed about if others did ask them.

I think you should enjoy being a cuckold and encourage her to go with her co-worker. Any pics of her to share?

Communication, communication, communication ... one of the hardest things couples, married or otherwise, do is honestly communicate in sensitive areas.

It sounds **to me**, like the two of you need to make a time, **not in bed!!!** to sit down and openly and honestly communicate about what you both want, then based on that together or separately, if that is what you decide, move forward while you continue to regularly communicate.

The above is based on my assumption that the two of you wanting to maintain your relationship, in whatever form it takes.

thx for replies

that talking is currently happening. we are now setting up some rules for her.
like: no hard feelings, the possibility to stop contact with lovers all time, no kissing, always wearing a kondom, no over night dates, telling me afterwards during we have sex, she should send me pictures of her in his flat,

any other suggestions?

Well, the question about rules is pretty personal. Why do you have the rules at all? Presumably it is either to protect her or you. So you need to talk about what you want to protect and why each rule protects it. (So, for instance, a rule about not being out all night without telling you where she is and/or who she is with is a rule designed to protect her from psychos and you from insomnia.)

Many couples have common sense rules designed to protect them from violence, financial reversal, or public exposure. A good example is one you have now: "Always wear a condom." Reason: Protection from disease. Others common safety rules are things like: "I have to know who you are with, where you'll be, and when you'll be coming back;" "call in to me at this or that time so I know you are OK;" "it has to be at home, with me in the house in case of emergency;" "never bring them home, I don't want them to know where we live;" "always keep your phone/GPS with you," etc.

Rules to protect your financial or social interests vary widely depending on how open the couple are willing and able to be. Common rules are things like: "No relatives;" "no one I work with;" "no friends;" "never in our hometown, only on travel or vacation;" "never in our house, the neighbors might notice/he might get too much information about us;" "always use fake names;" "he has to be a friend/relative/coworker so that we can trust that he will be discrete;" etc.

The other kind of rule is the kind designed to protect someone's feelings. Usually this means the cuckold's feelings, but it can mean the wife's or even her lovers'. Examples of this include your own rule about her telling you the details while you have sex afterwards. (Presumably not right after - give her some breathing space man!) This is usually to protect the cuckold from feelings of being left out. (Why you have it is you business - so long as you both know and agree why it is there.) Common rules of this kind include stuff like: "We will not see him socially, etc.," or "when we three are together, they're will be no teasing about my being a cuck," or "birthday, anniversaries, and holidays are family time and you will be with me," or "you will not date an ex-boyfriend or anyone you once had feelings for," or "you will not flirt with him (live, on the phone, whatever) in front of me," or "you will never bring it up when we are fighting or angry," or "you can never tell him 'I love you'," etc., etc,

Only you two, as a couple, can decide what rules you need to feel comfortable. The key is that you go through each proposed rule together, and spell out why they exist and what they are protecting or what risk they are lowering. Especially when it comes to the "protect feelings" ones, you need to be very honest with each other about why you want the rule. They need to be agreed to and explained, not just imposed because "I have my claims/rights and that is what I want." The more you share your deep fears, your turn-ons, and your doubts, the better the understanding will be between you and the stronger your relationship. (And also, the better the sex play will be!)

So for instance, here is what you have now. Can you put a reason (that she agrees to) on each of them?

-> No kissing. Reason: ? Is it because you can't handle it? You may have a good reason, but it isn't obvious and you both need to verbalize why this rule exists.

-> No overnight dates. Reason: ? Is this a matter of her safety, or your comfort or what? Spell it out.

-> She sends you a picture of her in her flat. Reason: ? Is it a safety thing? Or about getting you hot? What?

I'm not really sure what your other two mean, by the way:

-> "The possibility to stop contact with lovers all time." Of course every woman has this all the time. Do you mean that you have the right to insist even if she doesn't want to stop? Or that she has the right to stop even if you are getting off on it? I'm not clear what you are getting at.

-> "No hard feelings." By who? You mean that you can't have any, or she can't have any, or her lovers can't, or what? Either way, you can really only make rules about actions, not feelings - people are rarely in control of those. You may want instead to make rules about what you will do in the case of hard feelings. So, for instance, "if I feel upset, I will tell you so in a civil manner and we will have a discussion about it. I won't be snide or blame you," or "if I have hard feelings about one particular guy, we'll dump him," or "if I start having hard feelings, I will tell you so and we'll have a time-out for a few weeks," or something.

Good luck in any event. Given how hot it appears to make you, I advise you to explore this fetish. But just make sure the two of you talk about it - and why you like it, and why you fear it, and what you would want, and what would be awful, etc. - really a lot. That is the best way to protect your relationship.
Pantalone, Wittol, oblate, abnegator, fellator, pathic, irrumatiophile,fop, epicene, cotquean, skivvy, thrall, and pilgarlic.

hm there are a lot of good points which i (to my shame) totally forgot. tough there is not really one big security issue where i live (europe) we should overthink that.
social interests are not discussed in that rules as i tought of it as self-evident, but your right they should be too.
they are only included in the "stop contact rule", which means there must be the possibility to "erase" that guy from our life immediately if wanted.

my way of defining rules was to draft 15 things that make me hot and then deal it out... so that no kissing rule doesnt protect me or her but simply is one bargaining tool. that now sounds stupid to me.

i have to do some serious rework. thanks a lot for your imput!

My question is this...you say you have been lurking here for about 6 years so does that mean that she is and has been aware of your desire for her to fuck other guys? You've discussed this with her prior to her fucking some other guy after the club? I think it makes a difference in regard to how you approach the situation with her from now on. I mean if this has been a building thing between you and her over the past few years then I think you have been offered quite a bit of good advice from some of the posters above. Try to agree to some boundaries that are realistic.

If however she just kinda did this out of the blue, it could be difficult to hold her to any sort of rules or boundaries. She already did the dirt behind your back and initially lied to you about it. Might just have to hold on for the ride if you know what I mean. Kudos to her for telling you though...she gets a gold star in my book for that. Sounds to me like you already jumped the biggest hurdle. Good Luck.

P.S. What the fuck do i know though, I'm in the States...don't know cuckolds brownie about British girls.

You got some truly wonderful and meaningful advice there from Mrs.BlackBlowupDoll! All that is about useful rules. Of course, the rest of the rules are there to be broken.

Obviously, there is one Rule: you must at all times keep an eye on yourselves. Do you both do this out of love for each other, as much as out both the thrill?

I'd let her fuck him again a few times but the feelings part worries me. If he's smitten then he'll try to get her to leave you.

The rules sound exciting but I'm afraid that the no kissing rule will just encourage her lying to you, a slippery slope. The condom rule has a better chance of staying but wouldn't it be sexy if she confessed she got carried away and took his cum deep inside her several times that night?

Her wanting to encourage his to form deep feelings for her could be real trouble. She can play the cheating spouse (I would like the wife to do that) or the hot wife (exposing your aquiescience which could cause trouble if he gets mad and reveals it).

So, what's happened?

Hey Bravo!,

Whatever happened with this? How are things going a year on?
Pantalone, Wittol, oblate, abnegator, fellator, pathic, irrumatiophile,fop, epicene, cotquean, skivvy, thrall, and pilgarlic.

things progressed in a different way as expected but i like it that way too.
first of all no rule was worked out and defined but "found" during some talks between us.

first change was that he was promoted and is now the assistent of her boss, which made this way more difficult. (she works part-time as she still studies, and the job means much to her as it is payed well and fits to our careerplan she keeps it for yet another year) he fell in love with her which made it even more difficult for the first time but proofed himself as dumb. A nice guy (as she tells me), polite, great shape but dumb as hell.

she fucked him another 3 or 4 times but isnt really enthusiastic about his performance (exept for his muscular arms and stomache) she meets him about twice a month on company partys where i strictly do not go. he thinks they are some kind of couple but is aware she is living with me but as he isnt that smart she can twist him around her little finger. i have to add that he is doing about 50% of her work what she really likes (and me to as she is never tired after work)

what i really like is her change of mind since the last year. she acts and dresses way more slutty, does nearly everything i ask of her and got even more open about sex. she started getting guys hot wherever she can, and thats quite often. last month when i and some of my friends got takes in the sauna i betted with a guy about a blowjob from her - believing she would never do that and he would not push. after i lost she just asked: in here or shall we move in private and did it without hesitation (just that girly "no- i-cant" blabla for 1 minute in front of him...)

it seems like i am more her bull than her cuck as i can decide if she fucks "her" guy at work/party or someone else. he doesnt know she laughs about him but he does her work, he pays for her partys. on the other hand she is my girlfriend (and asked a few days ago what i think about marriage, what has to be tought of it financially) and fucks arround.

a may add another time that i am very thankful for your (all guys above + especially MrsBBD) input a year ago!

I am on a Company Trip for 2 Weeks now and she is home alone. Yesterday we wrote messages on whatsapp about another sexual Adventure i plan with her. Wo got both Really hot. Today she asked me if i fuck other Girls around here, what i declined. After asking the Same question she answered: no i dont fuck other Men, but One Guy fucked me! I Hope we can Talk today and she will tell me more Details.

iPhone+ 2 Languages sucks! - sry for capitalletters...

Interesting story Bravo. Please keep us updated!

splendid posts but I can't figure out whether you are about to loose her?

Thx 4 replys
No, i do Not loose her, our relationship is stronger than ever. I will Return today and expect One Hot sexy night with my freshly fucked Girl.

yesterday she was totally messed from the night before - just takes, no further actions. so i went to a party alone. we started chatting via whatssapp and our talk started getting dirty, finaly including some photo exchanges about her body and my reaction to it.

she sent me the pictures below and i started pushing her to send a pic to her boyfriend. first she didnt like the idea but did sende one after she got sure i didnt mind.

i have to clarify here that she told me she never sucked him but they had sex for about 8 times since last year.

he answered her with the text below what i try to translate:
"I can't stand it any longer. i am so hot for you i want to hold you tight, kiss you, being on and in you, stick my dick in your mouth and ass and fuck you real hard till i spurt in you"

i hope upload works now...

to continue:
i asked her : why did he mention fucking your ass, that seems to me like he did that before... first she disclaimed but aber a few arguments from my side she confessed:

"I am sorry, he fucked me in my ass once, as he forgt to bring condoms. we drove home from work and got so horny, whe did it right in his car."

i thought my dick will explode after this wonderful imagination (outdoor, no condom, in her ass)

startup-pic

she sent that one to him

bravo
This sounds promising for you. I especially like the idea of her sending you pic's from his place. Maybe you can convince her to let him take some pic's of her in action and send them to you while you wait at home for her to return. It is erotic just to know that your wife is with someone else at the moment but it is indescribable to hear that little ping from your cell phone and seeing them in action.

the problem is, he thinks she isnt interested in me anymore. he thinks he is her secret affair... so its quite difficult to send me pics.

Good ***** Girl of mine spread her leg's for a
friend of Mine. I was there but they started fooling
Around everytime i left the Room until i sneaked
back and saw her with his quite Big dick in her
willing Mouth.

Bravo,

Your adventure has come along nicely. Has she ever delivered a nice creampie for you to enjoy?
Cuck who loves a creampie.

Yes you should encourage her to send you some in-action pic's. Can you imagine what it would feel like to be sitting at work and get a text pic like this from her?