Jealous Thoughts .. How do I handle them?

So long story short.. My wife and I have been married for 4 years and have had a plain "vanilla" sex life up until about 2 months ago. We started trying new stuff and my wife finally started thinking more openly. I went about 3 weeks ago and got a penis piercing called a apadravya. I was told not to have sex for at least a month afterwards for healing time. Right after I had it done, I got to thinking how my wife was going to get pleasured since I could not have sex. These thoughts opened me up to wanting to see her with another guy. I explained to my wife about my fantasy and a few days later, she was open to it after giving it some serious thought. We made a post looking for a bull and got a reply from a professional gentleman with a 10" cock. My wife was crazy about getting to try him out. She has been texting / calling him for over a week now and we have a date set up for this coming Saturday to meet him for the first time.

I have grown extremely jealous of him. He said he understands we have a great marriage and doesn't want to ruin that for us, but to only add to it. I just worry after my wife has his huge cock, that I won't be able to do much for her anymore. I also worry she will grow to have feelings for him, even though she says it is just going to be sexual only and nothing more. Has anyone else gone though this and have any ideas on how I can better handle the situation? I still very much want to watch her get fucked by him, but don't want my jealousy to get in the way.

Are you going to be present? Have you discussed your discomfort with your wife?

My wife was very open to hearing everything i had to say. Her first cock wasn't much longer than me, and only slightly thicker. On the 1-10 scale he was a measly 6. She really enjoyed it, and i did as well. More recently she met a guy at the bar, let him take her back to our room while i waited in the lobby. What a different experience. Listening to her have the "best sex of her life" was amazing. She's never been fucked that well before or after.

Now when we play fantasy game she has something real to compare it to. She still loves sex with me as much as ever, i'd say even more. It's been great for our sexual and emotional relationship. You've both gotta be ready for it.

Interestingly she needs no engorgement to find large cock to try. She's been dying to get fucked by a large cock since we left that room!

I will be present during it all. It was my fantasy to watch my wife with another guy. I still love the thought, but this bull and the stuff he says bothers me sometimes. My wife says it's role play about him "owning" her, but after being married for 4 years... I don't take that so lightly really.

I have tried to discuss this with my wife, but she gets mad when I bring it up and says all of this was your idea from the start. I can't deny that.. if it wasn't for my thoughts and my fantasy, none of this would be happening anyways.

Hey brad, could you go through with the whole thing then finally?

I am in a similar situation myself. I'm 42, wife is 41, very sexy, enjoys sex thoroughly. I have been wanting my wife to have sex with other guys for a long time. At the first mention of this dream, she got wet and we had fucked hard. But she denied doing anything about it for a long time. She eventually said that she can only do it if she likes her man. So she went out with 2 of her ex-colleagues.

With the first one, she went to the club, they drank, they went to his house. But all she did was smooch, was topless and got her big breasts sucked. She then asked to be dropped back to our hotel.
The second guy is a very good friend of hers, he is also divorced and not looking for a long relationship. He had told her once on a business trip they were together on, that he would have liked to marry her if there was a choice earlier in life - he finds her very attractive. She has also been to the club 3-4 times with him, they have smooched in the car, been to his place once - the same thing - topless and tit sucking.

She has done this smooching 2-3 times with the second guy and he now obviously wants to have it with her. Twice she has said 'next time', either because she is unsure, or I become chicken and try to talk her out of the 'f*uck*ing' and ask her if she can just flirt and not go the whole way. She loves me and falls into that.
But she is now saying that the next time, she will 'have' to have it with him, else he will not like it. And that she is freaking 40+ yrs old, had she been like a teenager one would have understood the procrastination. And even she is now wanting to mate with him. She says its just once, and I should not worry about it. I am quite jealous and love the flirting she does. I get to wait for her, masturbating, watching this site and looking her position up on my phone-ok now they are in the bar, ok now they are driving, oh they have parked in that lonely stretch, etc! Its freaking amazing. But I go bonkers just thinking of them actually doing the whole thing in his house, with her coming back in the morning to me!

What do I do - just let her do it and not worry about it? How can I? I imagine their naked bodies together, intertwined, he doing all that he wants with her, she holding his manhood, probably even tasting it, he kissing her at all places he had ever wished to, both clenched together in unison, making love sounds, kissing and smooching while making love, he clasping her bosom, running his hands all over her, at all places, even her butt and hole - everything! And he doing it again in the night as she will go to bed with him! All this thought makes me really hot - my body temperature actually shoots up and my heartbeat is high.

Help everyone!

It is natural to have second thoughts and fears of bringing someone into your marriage. If you two participate in the future activity together it can be fun and a rewarding experience. One way to keep involved throughout the night is for them to sext with you. Have her send little sexy pic's of them together and lastly tell her to not clean herself after they fuck. Even if she uses a condom her pussy will smell like sex and maybe have dried pussy juice on it. What a treat for when you reclaim her pussy after she returns from her date. Enjoy

I have some experience in this. I have watched my beloved wife fucked by a whole variety of men- all with my encouragement and blessing. Having said that, each couple is DIFFERENT so only YOU can answer your question. I offer this advice with no guarantees as to the outcome in your particular situation.

1) It is rather obvious, based on your comments, that your wife is keen to experience other men. There's nothing wrong with that, IMHO. MANY women feel that way but do not have the courage to put fantasy into action. I'm a big believer in that saying that says when we are ready to leave this world we will regret the things we DIDN'T do more than the things we did. If your jealousy shuts her down now, she will yearn for it or, maybe even cheat on you later.

2) It seems to be generally true that couples whose fundamental relationship is very strong fair best in cuckold situations. In the case of my wife and me, we love each other to death do us part (seriously) so it would be very unlikely that another man could take her from me. Giving my total lack of sexual prowess and way below average cock-size, she would have left me long ago if our relationship was about SEX. So the question is, does your wife truly love you? If she does then she will enjoy this man's FUCKING without a thought to leaving you.

3) Brother, you need to stop letting insecurity haunt you. I suspect that once you see your woman getting pounded into the bed by some other guy you will be addicted to it like many of us are!

Bottom line? Let your wife spread her legs to this guy- and OTHERS. Give your wife to this man's hungry cock. Let him use her holes and enjoy himself to the MAX. Let her lose herself in the sensations of his huge pussy stuffer... sensations you can never give her. When he's finished with her and fully satisfied, she will STILL be your wife and she will still love you. If she goes for another man it won't be because of sex, IMO, it will be because your marriage was weak.

Just my 2 cents, dude. Hope all goes well for you two!
Faggot Pussy

I can only thoroughly endorse what TinyCockWimp has said, he's summed it up very well. There's a world of difference between her fucking another man, and her making love to him. The first is purely a physical thing, and it will almost undoubtedly be far higher quality sex than you could ever hope to provide, but you already realise that I think. The second is what takes place between a husband and a wife, who share a strong marriage bond, irrespective of how weak your personal sexual performance may be, or how puny the equipment you have to use might be. If you're strong as a couple then it's very unlikely she will leave you just because she's found someone who can fuck her better than you can. It's just sex, and in any case, once he's moved on there'll be others, all of them merely serving a purpose, giving her good sex, not making her love them. Enjoy the thrill of the ride, and get yourself really involved.

Thanks TinyCockWimp, Kenny,
You have put all this so well for me. I feel much lighter already. You are so right about the 'strong marriage bond'.

1. Yes, she loves experiencing other men. She already enjoys flirting with nice looking, decent men, dancing, etc. She enjoys the attention she gets. She sometimes tells me that she is lucky to have me who does not mind her in the company of other men. She says she would rather have lots of 'boy' friends than 'girl' friends. But since society and general mindset prohibits openly being seen with other men too often, she is shy to experiment 'too' much. She talks dirty about how she wants other men when we have sex too - she says that specially when she wants me to cum as its been too long fucking, and i immediately cum.
Rightly said about our bucket lists too.

2. About our relationship - yes we are very close to each other, i give her lot of space in life and so does she. Very happy marriage, 2 great beautiful kids.
However, I feel that unlike you TinyCockWimp, our relationship is strongly based on sex. We have it quite often. In fact I would not consider my manhood 'small' (I'm generally optimistic in life, so maybe you can tell me - its about 5.5 to 6 when erect) and I give her great orgasms by licking her clit, rather I give her oral almost every time we have sex. She does reciprocate, but only sometimes. That said, she sometimes feel she needs male 'friends' outside our marriage, not just a f*ather of her kids, nor just a h*usband. She says sometimes that she is 'bored' too, maybe to tease me - i don't know. And she says she can 'never' do it with strangers. Only people she knows or is comfortable with. Like a bar pickup is 'not happening' is what she says - does that go away when women get into it?
In this situation, I feel I'm slightly different than other members here - don't you think. No small cock, lots of sex?

3. Yes - I want that. I want to see my wife like that, naked and offering herself to another man. And he pounding her while kissing and licking her. She said that she does not want me to see any of it though, not now, not later. I don't know how I will be able to do this one!

One other thing I did not mention earlier - I had an affair with a woman once, about 8 years back, about which I confessed to my wife later on. She was really upset but since then, this has been a strong reason for her to do it - to give it back to me. Well, it might have started like that but has now taken another turn with her actually enjoying being with other men. At first I thought - thats great, we finally found a reason for her to stray too

She said today that she wants to see her friend in January. He is bit stressed in business and when she is with him, it relaxes him, as they both d*rink and dance and then smooch etc. This came in the midst of our discussion of how we can make our relationship stronger. So I guess she wants to be more open about her true feelings with me - thats great I think!

Thoughts?

Kennyboy has stated the case quite clearly and it is the primary reason I suspect you should not be afraid to let your wife enjoy not just this particular man, who seems to fill you with chil-dish apprehension, but ALL future men:

Your response, on the other hand, beginnercuck, gives me a reason for pause:


Ch.ild.ren are almost always a kind of "glue" that keeps families together, generally speaking, of course. The fact that you and your lady have sex a lot does NOT mean your relationship is "based" on sex. Do you love her? Does she love you? THOSE are the critical questions, IMHO.

Can I be blunt here? I think your wife is something of a slut (NEVER a negative word in my book.) She enjoys sex and she enjoys variety- something NO ONE MAN can provide in a long-term relationship. Variety must be had at the hands of many men, not just 2 or 3 but MANY. Your wife wants and may even NEED variety. It most definitely does NOT mean she doesn't love you or that she will fall in love with other men and leave you. She needs sex- awesome, blinding, an.imal, monkey sex with MANY different men - to feel physically satisfied. What's wrong with that?

It's like I told my wife on several occasions; "I'm not jealous of your body, I'm jealous of your LOVE." As long as my wife loves me HALF as much as I love her, all is well and good!
Faggot Pussy

A couple of things to say here......I agree totally about the usage of the term 'slut'. It doesn't automatically denote some cheap and nasty woman, in a perverse way I feel it's almost like a badge of honour, something for many wives that are prepared to 'let go' and follow their innermost desires, to attain to. I believe that a 'slut' is a valuable commodity. The same goes for a wife that NEEDS sex outside her marriage, she craves and needs the variety. That doesn't in itself mean that she's looking to break the marriage up, she just needs more physically than a single man is able to supply her with. She's a Hotwife, she likes sex and all that goes with it. I'm currently enjoying a very fulfilling relationship with a married woman (her husband is well aware of what we're doing) and we fuck all the time. She's rediscovered sex this last year or so and can't get enough, so I don't have a problem in telling her to fuck who she wants, as long as she tells me beforehand what she plans to do. My only restriction has been to tell her to deny her husband penetrative sex, which she's doing. He gets blown, and she allows him to cum on her skin, on the proviso that he licks it all up afterwards. It works for us, and there's no jealousy on either her or my part. She know's she's not the only wife I'm fucking, she knew that at the beginning and has no intention of trying to stop me. It's all to do with trust I think.

Trust? ....

How about honest and open communication.

If there are potential problems they should be out in the open between parties before they become real problems.

I always enjoy your input kennyboy82