advice please

My girlfriend is super hot and we are both in early thirties. We have been together for a year now and have good sex but definitely not adventurous. She surprised me on our last vacation by taking me to a sex shop and saying she would want to try a strapon. she joked about this once before. I have a long time fantasy of this and she would be perfect, but I didnt want her to think this at the time and dismissed it. thing is she is the hottest girlfriend i ever had and dont want to risk our relationship by getting into a submissive position and finding that I love it, which ultimately is not want girls want from their guy.

So, any advice how I can softly reintroduce the idea of the strapon, or any play where she is more dominant in bed (she loves going on top) ?

many thanks in advance

Subconscious suggestion stimulating new thoughts in her mind
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thanks hephaestus, but I am pretty sure relax learning has been disproven as a science:

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Any other suggestions ?

Maybe try some porn dvd's where strap ons are used by girls on guys.Saying would you try that maybe it will be fun etc.But keep your sub side in the bedroom or just when you play.

I agree with gchornycouple. Try a porn video with a strap-on in it and while watching, and when you are both turned on, mention the sex shop where she said she would like to try it. "Remember when you said you'd like to try it...maybe we could give it a try..."

Make a bet with her, and lose. But I'd second gchorny - keep your submissive side to the bedroom, or you will weird her out.

Thanks very much all, some great advice. Ill give this a shot, and appreciate the comment to keep it to the bedroom, as i dont want to ruin the balance we have now. thanks and Ill post any success.

Oh dear Alan truly misses the point that this is not learning in the context of hard facts as suggested by relax 'learning' this connecting and evoking sexual thoughts and feelings in our ladies.
If you say you are looking for a method that will convince your wife isn't it worth giving loving whispers a go?
What would you have to lose if you do it quietly consistently. As Fender and JB have both suggested this is best done when the brain in going through cycles of dream state.
The method draws on the same principle of someone bringing in external sounds and sensations and working in to a dream.... Or would some people deny this too as a fact.

If you decide it doesn't work based on a wiki entry or research into 'relax learning' then you have not only missed the point completely but are attempting whether purposely or otherwise to undermine others giving it a go. The best thing I have that tells me Loving Whispers works in the context of this sexual nudging is I've seen it with my own eyes just as many many people who have used this idea to create change in their own wives and girlfriends.

Once again this is not a whole series of learning tapes played or talked to the relaxing subject on language learning or physics or anything else requiring fully conscious grasping of reality but is simple repetitive words and evoking sex stories into the mind of our dear lady folk.

Your 'just saying' nothing in relation to Loving Whispers and everything in relation to Sleep Learning.
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Something like this maybe?

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Dude. She's already brought it up, and from the sound of things, she's probably already the dominant one... you're probably already in the submissive position posing as otherwise. A LOT of women are naturally dominant and fine with having submissive significants. The idea that ALL women ONLY want mr masculinity is a misnomer that I can dispel for you immediately.

I remember when I was in my early 20's, my fiance brought up the idea of using a strap-on and I shrugged it off even though it turned me on. She wasn't the 'right' one for me, so it wouldn't have worked out anyway, but I regret that I wasn't able to be open and honest with her about my true feelings. My wife fucks me at least once a month. I enjoy it very much and am working towards being able to cum hands free. The harness I bought us has inserts for to enjoy the feeling, plus she gets a psychological thrill from fucking me. I think she likes the power-play and role reversal, but I know she also loves doing things that make me happy. So, I enjoy her fucking me because she enjoys fucking me because I enjoy her fucking me... it's a bit of the chicken or the egg scenario, but the point I'm trying to make is we have a VERY healthy relationship even though I take the submissive role -- especially in bed.

Healthy communication is the foundation of all good relationships, so simply have a conversation. Maybe you should both have a couple of takes before you bring it up (not suggesting you go get hammered and then try talking this one out either). If I were you, I'd start by prefacing what you're about to say with the fact that you feel nervous and a little insecure about what you're about to say (so she can be sure to respond appropriately). Then, remind her of 'that time' in the sex toy shop when she... you get the point.

You might be nervous to talk about this side of your sex life, but you shouldn't be. If you're in the relationship you're meant to be in, you should DEFINITELY be able to bring this up. I think if it were possible to have the actual stats on relationships where the man is in the submissive role, you'd be shocked.
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i have only had two serious relationships in my life, and when both failed I blamed myself for not being masculine / dominant enough. what you say really strikes a chord because the truth is more likely that those relationships failed due to poor communication. Youve certainly given me something to think about. I definitely will bring this up with her.


Definitely! She ventured there without my guidance before, but didnt stay too long.Ill try and encourage her fingers more.

ill let you know how things progress!