I have an issue...need good advice

Okay, so I need some good advice, set your cuckold fantasies aside please.

Ive been on here before with an ex-gf. Her and I were swingers and you dabred with the cuckold fantasy. The teasing part of it.

Well, here is my issue. I have been dating this new woman for about 3 months. We have an awesome connection on every level except sex. We dont get to do have sex often cause she does have 3 kids. The sex is good but she has a hard time getting off. She says it isnt me. I've gotten her off completely only once and mostly partial orgasms. I got her a dildo and she got off in like 5 minutes. She says she isnt a size queen but I think she is. I'm not small, I'm average. Ive had no problem getting off previous gf's.

She tells me she is sooo in love with me and see's herself marrying me. Like I said, we have a great connection but the sex is hit or miss and it makes me nervous. She knows of my swinging days but she does not know of my cuckold fantasy. She is intrigued by the idea of fucking other men and always wanted to and likes that I'm not jealous or insecure. She has teased me a few times (not knowing I like it) and told me that my penis is the smallest she has seen soft and my balls too. But she said she likes small balls on a guy.

So I am crazy about her as she is about me but the sex is not there.

So what do I do? Do I get more dildo's and satisfy her that way? Do I go ahead and bring up the idea of swinging?

I feel for swinging its too soon but like most of you, you get turned on thinking about it. haha

We have talked about why she has a hard time getting off, I know if I was a bit bigger she'd have no problem. I know she feels bad. I dont want to ruin a great relationship and connection because the lack of sex quality.

So what should I do? Never been put into a situation where I love someone so much and we cant stand to be away from each other but yet the sex is so off.

Any advice would be good. Please, only good advice.

Marry the girl, but understand it will take real men to make her pussy happy. Just plan on being a cuckold, be honest with her, tell her what you really are.

Well glad to see the honest advice is flowing today. :P

My advice is to talk to her. Factually. She seems open to the idea by things you've said, SO tell her about your fantasies of having her be with other men, and remind her that you are not jealous and will love her anyways, perhaps even more.

Let her know it's not a requirement (unless for you it will be), but that you'd love to help explore that path with her.

Judging from that conversation, you can figure out where to go next or to drop it entirely.

Give her time!

I'd say focus on what worked the one time you DID manage to make her achieve an orgasm. If it takes a dildo, so be it. My advice would be to make her happy first with the dildo, then get off yourself. Afterward, try licking her clean. I know it is a turn on until you cum and aftarwards not so much, but if you can manage to do it, and more importantly, like it, she will be satisfied with you.

Perhaps you should get a strap-on dildo for men, yes they DO make them. Purchase a very realistic cock that she likes, in a size that makes her happy and try using it on her. Make sure she has her orgasm BEFORE you even enter her with your real cock. This will enhance the fantasy for you, while keeping her happy. You will get the pleasure of sex and the excitement of sex after 'someone else' as well as the 'loose pussy' feeling the rest of us cucks enjoy (or endure, depending on the permister)

Well I am kind of in the same boat as you. I cannot get my wife to achieve orgasm with my own cock. However a dildo does work. We started off with a 7 inch jelly dildo. Next was a 9 inch realistic cyber-skin.

More recently we went large with a 11 inch cyber-skin vibrating dildo. That one took some work but when she does get worked up she is able to take a lot of it.

Speaking of strap-ons I recently purchased the Mr Marcus strap-on and she exploded when I used it on her. I love the feeling it gives her on her face. I love providing that for her.

Now let's see where it leads. Good luck to you too.

After having kids women need bigger dicks to be sexually satisfied!

I gotta say, some of your responses *******ed me. haha

BattleFate and Piratesinthemountain had the best responses. Thank you.

I have talked it over with her. She said again its not my size, she's been real stressed lately and plus the kids have been around here and there. Apparently, I'm not the first she has had trouble getting off. There have been a couple others who were also bigger than me that she struggled with. She has to have a connection with someone, meaning she has to have feelings for the permister in order to get off. She says she loves me no matter what and we have the rest of our lives to work on it. She said I'm perfect for her and is fine with the help of toys but wouldnt mind playing with others down the road.

So I'm pretty content with that response. haha. I just ordered some nice 8" dildos.

She did notice that I got turned on when she would tease me about how small my balls were or penis was when it was soft. She asked if I liked it and I said ya a lil and she said she'd be happy to tease me. She said she'd enjoy it. haha See what the future brings.

Thanks guys!