Need advice/help please!

A few years ago my girlfriend did a nude photo shoot with a former colleague of her, it turned out that he was in love with her, but apparently was not mutual.
Recently he contacted her again, and they would would like to do a new shoot! My stomach turned a bit when she was talking about it out of jealousy that another man might see her naked and her "orders" would give .. but I found it quite a horny idea ..
A considerable time nothing was said about it, until a few days ago;

She told me: "It would be the last weekend of May, that I go to him and spend a weekend with him, and they will be brainstorming about their" project. "My first reaction was:" You ask me for a weekend to spend with a guy who has seen you naked already, and on top of that had feelings for you ... no I don't think so. "
She seemed a little upset about my response, but I said a little later her I have nothing against the idea and that I trust her ...

Now I started thinking about it more and more and I started thinking that maybe this could be a first step ... from fantasy, to reality ...?

I do not know whether I am ready to .. fuck I really do not know ..
I have totally nothing against her posing naked for him agian, because I am an artist and since I was 15 I drew and photographed nude models ... I look with an artistic eye to such things ...

Hence this post: I need advice and help on how I would approach this in a good way and not screw this up for me and that she would be angry with me ...
Would I let her go, Would I let her pose nude, its a whole weekend to stay with him, ..? How do I tell her that I think that I think it's a horny tought, without her thinking I'm a dirty and perverted guy ...?

Any advice is welcome, but seriously of course!

Cheers

Kenedus

If, after you cum to the thought of her being with another guy- you are jealous-
this is normal.
If, when you are hard again, it is because of thoughts of her with another man-
then it is likely that you should allow this.
The nervousness is usual- I felt it myself- the first time I sent out my ex wife.
I know I will feel it again when my Girlfriend goes out (eventually).
Will this change my feelings?
NO- I will still be excited when she is with another man- that never changes in me.
How should you approach this?
If you are constantly excited by the thought of your woman pleased by another, then you should agree to
"weekend shoot"!
Tell her you look forward to the pictures that will come from the weekend, as well as anything else that comes from the weekend.
Tell her the pics will excite you (you are a man- this is not abnormal!!)
Tell her that she should be free to try "new things" so that the pictures aren't boring..........
this might make the pics a bit more exciting...............
(you will have to say that you are cool with "more than pictures" happening during the weekend, of course!)

My permisteral thoughts would be to say to her that she can go because you trust her, but promise me if anything should happen you will tell me, i wont be mad as long as i know the truth and it's just a one off. just my thoughts on handling it, if she confesses, see how you feel, dont get mad at her, just see how you feel and then you can decide if you are happy for her to do it again....hope that makes sense.

best regards

Starflyer

...starflyer gives excellent advice...
...submission has nothing to do with cock size...

I think it's great that you will get to sort of 'test the waters' and thus your final reaction to potentially becoming a cuckold. If you find excitement at the thought of your woman being satisfied by antoher man, but jealousy creeps in after the heat of the moment has passed, you are in LOTS of great company, as any good cuckold will tell you. The fact that you can rise above the jealousy and let the erotic feelings guide your actions is what separates a true cuckold from the 'run of the mill' jealous husband or boyfriend.
The weekend thing I think will be great for both of you. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Hopefully you can find yourself and get in touch with your true, honest feelings. You will be so much happier for it! If nothing else your reactions will guide your future actions on the matter. Yeah or nay, you will finally get to know your true self. You will be either a happy cuckold who has finally embraced the lifestyle or a frustrated typical jealous mate. Either way you will finally know. I guess you could almost compare this to a gay permister who has hid his feelings all his life finally accepting his role and coming out of the closet. You will be relieved and do away with the frustrating feelings of not knowing for sure.

You could get her to lock you up in chastity for the weekend, this would add to your excitement. Your g/f would probably like the idea too.

Thnx Starflyer, great advice!

I am probably going with the fact of: you can go and I trust you...


You are right Juanito, I just have to do it I guess... Tnx a lot, your advice is really great, true words of wisdom!


I am totally not in to chastity, sorry, but no fucking way.. I guess

Great advice johnny108,

I will say this to her! Had something like this in mind

The thing is, for now, I don't know exacly what they will do that weekend,
1/ will they plan a shoot ...?
or
2/ Will they allready make a new shoot..?

I know they have been talking trough sms but I don't know all the details...
But I think I want the second option!

Thanks for all the great advice, keep it coming 'cause I still feel very nervous of talking about the topic to her...

Cheers

Kenedus

Small update: she came home from work 2 days ago, and she was telling me about her plans for the rest of the month, and she still said very strong-minded that she will go and see him that weekend, ..

I got a bit nervous, and laugh it off, so... :s

FUUUUUCK, don't know what I will do, what to say, what to feel, ... don't wanna lose her,...

The thing is, that she doesn't know about my fantasy... I think so, ... 'cause in the past, she found some porn on my computer, about interracial and lots of Intergenerational porn...
She acted pretty weird about it, she said "I know guys watch porn, ... but I guess I tought you are different... guess I was wrong..." She was pretty disappointed in me for a few days...

Cheers,

Kenedus

Explain to her that if you had more pictures of HER- you would need less other porn!
She has an attitude that most women have- they get so upset by their man's porn collection:
"I thought you were different!"
the only answer to that is
"Why did you think I was abnormal?"

This is simple. If she wants to go you let her go. But, before she leaves, you have an honest talk about what is o.k. and not o.k.. What if they have sex? If she tells and and comes back to you is it o.k.? What if he still has feelings for her? You need to have an open discussion about this, where the premise is she can do what she wants, but there are consequences for your relationship.

I would let her go and encourage her to have a sexual experience with him but return to me.
darslangly

Any updates?
Did you let her go?

No updates yet, still have to talk to her about the weekend,
She going the last weekend of may, so...

Will keep you guys posted!

Tnx for all the great advice!
They are really helpfull, for calming me down ;)

Cheers

Kenedus

Kenedus: I know all too well what you are going through...I had so many doubts to overcome!...I'm glad I finally did and in retrospect when I looked back at the many years I had been consumed by my 'cucky feelings' my uncertainties were nothing but wasted precious time. As it turned out once I was finally able to "let go" of my insecurities it all came together for me (and my wife). The change in both of us was amazing. She had been afraid that I would react with jealousy and not be able to forgive her for having sex outside the marriage...she had even suspected that the only reamister I wanted her to have sex with a guy was so I could do it with a woman without feeling guilty...it seems like the insecure feelings in both of us disappeared once she finally did the deed and I reacted (instead of with jealousy) by treating her like my beloved Queen...she had so pleased me, and I made sure that I showered her with affection and signs of my gratitude for having fulfilled my fantasy. I couldn't do enough for her...I waited on her constantly and took her out to celebrate...I really made her feel special and she loved the results. From that point she became my willing cuckoldress and has since that time fulfilled all my fantasies...I am more inlove with her than ever before. I tell you this because I hope it goes as well for you or maybe even better!!

Nothing happend, she did not went on weekend to him, because she felt sick!



She is going to remake the "date" but don't know when yet...

Quite relieved she didn't go and also a bit dissapointed... mixed feelings...

Will keep you updated...

And I will try to check her cell messages for more info...

Cheers

Kenedus