what to do help please

A little background. I have been tryin to get the wife to be with another guy for 3 to 4 years. No luck. She was always willing to help me with the famtasy aspect of this but about a year ago we had a blowout over it and she was upset because I kept pushing it. She says its my fantasy not hers. I understan this and she said maybe I should get help to deal with this. So I stopped fa the role play in bed for a while and now its back full power. We got takes last night and I started talking about her fucking another guy and she said if u really want it then she would do it. She said I'm takes and I would fuck another guy right now as long as he has a big cock. Then in my takesen state I told her I was going to find a guy in our apartment comples to fuck her and for her to wait in bed as I will return. She asked if it could be someone not picked out that randomly. I agreed and continued to fuck her. I don't have anyone on speed dial to just call up at 2am so I was assed out. After I finished she mentioned I am going to far again and I need to deal with it as its becoming a major problem and I need a shrink. I am so confused. If I had a guy there would she fuck him or is she just humorong me. No cuckolds brownie I was about to leave my apartment mid thrust. Inches away from going to get her some dick. Need help from u guys please thanks
robo

She might just not be into it.
If you keep trying like this- she will get more angry, and you will get NOWHERE.
hmmmm-
instead of trying to "push" her, you need to make her "need" this.
Don't suggest the idea any more. do what you can to make HER suggest it......

Since she already knows of your fantasy, and you know it makes her mad when you talk about it...stop bringing it up to her. As hard as that can be...(I know, early on my wife would get mad at me for bringing it up to much)...keep it mostly to yourself. Leave it for her to bring up, and even when she does (if she does)...keep it light.

You are over persueing this, and if you have any chance of her doing it...you need to back off her. Use this forum to get off and keep your fantasy for you.

Good luck

I agree, if you had have found someone there and then, it sounds like she might've regretted it SERIOUSLY and then that could've really messed things up.... if/when she every agrees, make sure she means it and it's not just the heat of the moment.

I agree that I can go overboard and I've been trying to not mention it for a few months. Just had two weeks in a row where we went out takeing. We have a 2 year old and often don't have time to enjoy any adult time alone. These past two weekends alowed us to be adventurous. We just moved into a new apartment in a new city where nobody knows who we are. We used to live in a small town with friends and family around every corner. I guess I've been acting a bit wild and I haven't pushed this hard in over a year. Last time we were in vegas and she agreed to fuck with our door open and have someone watch from the hall. Same scenario. Ishe told me then if there was a big cock for her to play with that she would do it. Then someone started to watch us fuck from the hall. She got a little shy and had me close the door after a few minutes of fucking. Vegas was very fun. I've been trying for over 4 years now and its one step forward two steps back. I guess ill find out in 10 years when she hits her horney 40,s
robo

Avoid nagging.

You should get her a realistic Black dildo and ensure that her best sex involves realistic Black dildos and your mouth sucking her pussy.

That should be contrasted with your usual coming before she does and leaving her unsatisfied during regular sex.

She needs to experience the contrast to make the right choice.


She should also try dominating you. Some women really bloom sexually once they get to express their disappointment with their husband physically. Girls dream of growing up and marrying a prince. Chances are you are not a prince and she should punish you because of it and then she will feel more free to get sexual attention from better men.

You might want to go through this in "stages"- I just had "the talk" with my woman, and she seems pretty open on the idea of oral-only swinging........(wish me luck!).
Maybe your woman needs to go through this slowly, like mines seems to need...

When I first started to suggest it to my wife I went through the same yo-yo roller coaster ride as you! She would get high or tipsy and it would be 'yes, I'll do it', but then when she cooled off it was 'no go'. That went on for a long time and I had settled for pretending by using a life-like dildo. I nicknamed it by her ex-boyfriend's name...a guy whom she admitted had satisfied her thoroughly and was well hung like the dildo. I thought it would never really actually happen and then one day she came home telling me about a guy at work that had been coming on to her. I got her to admit she was attracted to the guy. I reminded her that the offer was still open and I had no problem letting her go out with the guy. She never said she would or not, either way, but then one night I got a phone call telling me she would be late coming home...she said she would give me all the details at a later time...asked if I was ok with it. I asked if it had to do with what we had talked about and she said yes, but she didn't want to go into it too much on the phone. My mind was racing 800 miles an hour!!
I had finally hit a home run!! She went out to dinner with the guy, and the rest is history.
The best tools in your quest are PATIENCE and PERSEVERANCE. Push her slightly, but not too much...back off when you have to, and keep reminding her that the offer is ALWAYS open, and you would love her all the more if she ever decided to go through with it. She may eventually take that leap of faith as mine finally did. She later confessed to me that she had feared I only wanted it so I could have an excuse to be with other women myself...once she became sure that it wasn't the case, then it became easier for her to accept the lifestyle. Now she (and I) both love it, and she's free to fuck whoever she wants...just so long as I know about it and I either get the details from her, or a ringside seat to the event. Good luck...hope it works out for you as well.

I agree, don't push her, and try a dildo....