Broaching the subject of hotwife/cuckolding

Hi there...I'm pretty new to this site however not new to the thought of a hotwife or cuckoling relationship. After divorce some years ago I was involved in the "swinging" lifestyle for a few years on and off as a single male. In the dating world I was involved in a 1 1/2 yr relationship that gf and I experimented with allowing her to relax with a few men over a period of time and 1 woman. It was fun to say the least, however....I had no interest in relaxing with other women and have NO bi tendencies. That relationship ended badly....

I am now dating a wonderful woman who I love adore and 10 years my senior (I'm 40)....she is very attractive, smart, outgoing, with a genuine shyness around new people and situations. She was married a number of years and recently divorced after a year or so separation. We have been dating a year now (while she was separated) and have fallen into love which I have never felt before. We are both very open and share our thoughts and feelings just about everything. We are just starting to be as open sexually.

Her husband cheated on her several times over their marriage and was contolling and a bit of a sex addict. he encouraged her to flirt with other men and relax with them and share the experience after the evening's tryst. Now we are dating and in a sincere commited relationship and she is learning as am I that I have hotwife/cuckold desires. We have opened the door of her showing herself, flirting, and having sex while other men watch while in the throws of passion through "dirty talk" in the bedroom. It is a big turn on for the both of us as she appears to climax harder and deeper through our "mfm" dirty talk exchange. She will make flirty comments outside of the bedroom such as "bigger is better", "he is a hottie", "stare up and down and hollister poster while licking her lips" etc....it turns me on and I think her to some degree also.

My questions or concerns is that she has also said she does not want to be shared or understand why I would want to share her. I believe at times she Thinks it's a way of me trying to swing and relax with other women (which I have no interest, I love this woman dearly). She has spoke of fantasys of having sex on the hood of the car while other men watch....and we have ellaborated and expanded upon while having sex. But then I sense confusion or doubt in my sincerity or intentions. Recently she mentioned about going to a single's mingle event separately and me watching other men hitting on her and me trying to pick her up....then the next day appears to get cold feet or almost trying to make me feel quilty for wanting her to follow through with the idea. So I am growing confused....and for the record not pushing the topic. Found that we were using the mfm fantasy a little too often while having sex instead of just enjoying one another and the desire and passion and love we share for one another....so I backed off a little. But we always end up there.....and not always iniated by me. Not sure of she brings up the scenario cuz it gets me hot which excites her or the thought get her more aroused than I imagined but she does not want to share how much so.

So I am getting mixed feelings and signals and looking for advice as how to broach the subject of the seriousness of the fantasy becoming a reality or a woman's perspective as bring up the topic without being intimadated. This is a woman i love dearly and do not want to jeopardize our relationship purely for a sexual desire. But the desire is at times strong and at times feels shared. Any advice???

I understand. I get tons of mixed signals myself. If I knew how to overcome the objections and move the fantasies into reality I'd be more than happy to share...

do you ever spend time apart?
If you do- you can bring up the subject of her being with another under the guise of meeting a need for her body, when you are not available.
"I love you, babe, and I my jealousy isn't stronger than your bodies' need...." "but, I need to be involved to keep it from being "cheating"- so bring the camera...."
get the idea?
I am just now introducing my woman to the lifestyle this way. My was married for 10 years- 5 as a swinger. Ended a few years ago- but not because of the swinging.
gotta start ALL over again with another Catholic Girl- this takes forever! But it's worth it!!

Since her previous husband cheated on her, she should keep you in chastity and keep the key with her at all times.

When you first bring up the subject of being cuckolded in an otherwise normal relationship, the wife, if not familiar with the lifestyle goes through the 'suspicious' phase. Many women who do not understand the concept may feel that the husband is really trying to get the couple into a 'swingers' type of lifestyle so he too can get laid. Most times, and with a true cuckold husband nothing could be farther from the truth. Until she fully understands that you have no desire to be with another woman she would not ever consider it.

As to the mixed feelings, we all went through it at first. I used to be a very jealous type before discovering that in reality, if I gave into my deepest desires I wanted nothing more than to see my wife being satisfied by other men. Imagine how I struggled with the thoughts, as I tried to talk myself out of wanting to be a cuckold. In the end, my urges won and I made a leap of faith and urged her to go out on dates. Nothing could have prepared me for the absolute sexual thrill that I felt when my desires were finally a reality as she would come home and tell me all the dirty and sexy little details and I would eat her thoroughly. I've never been sorry, and to this day, my most pleasurable moment EVER, was the first time I was witness to my wife being thoroughly well fucked by a younger stud as I laid next to her whispering in her ear my love for her. Absolutely mind blowing!!