The situation...

I've been dating my girlfriend for about three months. I really like her a lot, and things are getting serious. We plan to move into a place together soon.

During the last month and a half or so, we have not been able to have sex due to living arrangements, and this has been very frustrating. When we did have sex it was great, but it's been difficult going without. We are still very close and affectionate, though, and see each other several times a week.

About a month ago, she admitted to me that she cheated on me with her ex-boyfriend. Initially I was really upset. She told me she hadn't planned on telling me at all, but I could tell something was wrong when I saw her the next day after it happened. She initiated it completely. She did seem very regretful, though. I told her if she was serious about seeing me, I could forgive her, but she couldn't do it again, because I don't deserve to be treated like that.

She explained that, while not a justification, she partially did it because she has trust issues, and it was an act of preemptive self-defense. It was also because at that point we hadn't had sex in two weeks, and she's a very sexual permister.

During the last two months, thoughts about her fucking her ex-boyfriend have been driving me crazy. It's an unfamiliar mix of anger and horniness. Here's the thing - he is one of her best friends. They still see each other on occasion - though whenever she tells me about it, it's always in a setting where there are other people around. I told her I can trust her, but honestly the idea makes me uncomfortable, although it also makes me excited. I think about her fucking him whenever she tells me she's going to be hanging out with him. She's also let it slip in a totally unrelated conversation that he is extremely well-hung (I am not).

Given the context of everything, do you think she's fucking him still? I get the feeling that if she is, she wouldn't tell me, because I told her it'd be a deal-breaker, and we have already made plans to move in together.

What do you think?

Yes she is fucking him, and No this is not cuckolding. The is cheating. Dump the skank.

I asked her just a little while ago if she ever did it again, aside from that one time. She said no, without wavering or a hint of reproach. I don't think she's lying - when she did it the first time, it seemed very obvious, like she was felt guilty about something. I don't think she'd be so capable of easily hiding it if she had. She certainly wasn't the first time - she practically blurted it out when I asked her what was wrong. The thought of me being wrong gets me hot, though.

Also, is it not cuckolding just because I am not goading her into relaxing with other men? The fact of it is that she did fuck someone else. Even if she had cheated on me, I don't think I'd break up with her. Honestly, I think it would ruin it for me if she asked me first if it was okay.

Sorry afwmimister...that s BS. and you know

As for phreddyphox: Since you are bringing this up here on this site (just the very fact that you are opening such sites) makes it obvious for me that this is an idea that makes you turn on. And you sort of confirm it too in your words

Your relation is new. And a good cuckold relation is based on a couple of thiings:

1) a solid relation where trust is No 1.
2) openess about it all.
3) long conversations where expectations and rules are lined up, and not at least, where you both understand eachother and about eachothers feeleings with regards to this issue. You will get imensly jealous from time to time, and that is how it should be. The mixture of all feelings related to this is often referred to as 'cucky angst'. Its sometimes hard, but sometimes soooo good

So my advise: talk about it. tell her your feeleings about her affair. about your hornyness too. Tell her that you woulnd't mind in the future. But that she must be very open about it all....than, maybe one day you both will be happy in such relation

A slutty gf is the best kind of gf a man can get
A cuck to my GF - A bull to all other women

I agree with norwegian.

With what he suggests above, I would add...Do not move in with her without her signing an agreement to pay her half the rent! She should be on the lease, that way if she did leave...you wouldn't be stuck with paying it all yourself. That is unless you can afford it on your own.

Have fun with this, you have an opportunity here that most people here dream of. Don't waste a chance to start a journey of your own.

This doesn't sound good to me. There's definitely a trust issue and I'm guessing her ex wouldn't be into having you involved in their sex life. Good luck! Let us know how it goes.