she fucked a guy now i need advice from experienced hotwives and bulls

heres my story of where i am at.. me 45 wife 43.. married 12 yrs 2 small kids.. we got married more as friends not passionate love..while dating she was what i considered sexually playfull especially while takeing which she still likes to do.. she is conservatively raised, smart 2 degrees but blonde and actually is a stereotypical blonde . her gfs have described her as smartest dumb girl they know.. she laughs about it.. Sexually she has alwasy been willing to try things mostly.. we did anal she liked but not the inital penetration.. outdoor sex..watch some porn. .made a sex tape..she has kissed a girl and she had fucked another guy... this is where i need help.. she is reluctant to talk about her fucking him.. for awhile i wasnt clear to her how i felt.. was trying to have it both ways because i wasnt really sure myself.. now i decided i like it and i want her to do it and do much more.. still she is somewaht reluctant to talk about it.. last night i finally tried to clear the air.. i toll her cleary that i want her to fuck him and keep on fucking him if she enjoys it.. she said she thinks it weird that i would want her too but she said she will ..she is a working womant and i told her something like 50 percent of working women have affairs and for us its not cheating if i m ok with it.. that seemed to make sense to her..so she told me she will schedules something with her lover in late sept or early oct.. she travels to a work site and will be with him for at least 3-5 days.. she says she will fuck him as the guy is alwasy hunting her down now when he can.. we dont live in same state.. my question is what do i do now.. how do i move this forward past this guy.. it seems like after this next meeting i will have more of an opportunity to make this happen reguraly and locally if things go well.. she says she need s to like a guy if shes going to fuck him..i need her to be more comfortable with this and not think its weird for me to like.. i know i cant push or rush because that backfires but if you can help with things i might try to do i would appreciatle..

You have a very sexy wife. It sounds like you are doing everything right. Assure your wife that it's okay if she fucks other guys and at the same time assure her that you love her and don't want other women. Make it a game between her and you and point out good looking guys when you are out. Take her shopping for sexy clothes, lingerie and shoes all the while telling her how hot she looks. Dont' pressure her, but let her know that you're okay with her doing whatever she wants.

i managed to encoruage my ex wife while married. I am working on geting my current gf into it all.

It takes time. And I agree with the advices already given herein. However, there is one thing that always are an obstacle: the women are sure you ask them to do this in order for you to have an excuse to fuck other girls. If you can convince her that this is not the case, you have reached far

Secondly: show her how much you like this. If you ever have the possibility to see her in some kind of close relation to a man (dancing at a party, a hug of a friend, a good and close conversation with a man.....) then tell her how much that turns you on. Repeat this next time in bed. Tell her you are dreaming of him fucking her....show her how much this turns you on....while fucking her
A cuck to my GF - A bull to all other women

I totally agree with lips6698, you don't need to push at all, just learn to be patient. You've got what you want, and just have to wait for it to happen, then you can think about the next stage. To push more now would carry a bigger risk than apportunity. She's not going to get into anything heavy, not with 2 young youngren so the statement "she says she needs to like someone before she fucks them" should be a given for someone in your situation. Don't try to push her out of that. You're very lucky, I hope it goes well for you.