How do you guys do it?

My wife and I have moved our relationship to a new level. Monday my wife met a guy at a river while I was at work and they talked for an hour or more. She was so turned on by him that when she got home she told me she REALLY REALLY wanted to have sex with him. I of course told her sure and she text him and had him come over that night. As I watched they had some of the most awsome sex that I have seen, and I have seen her have sex with many guys.

Then last night she was still extremely turned on and she wants this guy again, and they are meeting today to go swimming and make out, but no sex so she says. (I kind of believe the sex because she will have a friend with her) She has never wanted the same guy so soon ever. Normally she has awsome sex then goes a few weeks or even a month or two and then wants it again. We also had a long talk last night and she told me she now likes the idea of having true control over me, all the way to telling me to get a cock cage.

Odviously I love it, but I'm battling the jealousy like crazy. She assures me every day that she will NEVER LEAVE ME and she will always love me and I won't ever lose her, but it still difficult not being there. Not knowing if they are actually telling each other they have more feelings, her actually becoming friends with they guy.

How do you guys do it that have wives that have TRUE lovers? I'm sure it will get easier, just like it did after the first time watching her have sex, but right now, its difficult. I almost want to not go to work and ask her not to go, but I just can't, I also love it..... Man this is a stange life...

We're never quite sure, are we? That's what makes it so exciting.

My wife finally took the plunge on monday after about 6 months of being chased. She's the sort of girl who could never have sex with anyone, if there were not a strong affection for the other man. She told me last week, during one of our many conversations over the build up to her being bedded, that she is very,very fond of her now lover. What she actually means by that is she has the extreme hots for him. I know she would never tell me the absolute truth as she thinks it would hurt me too much but surely, that's what this lifestyle is all about.
To my mind, it's not a case of dipping your toe in the water to see if it's to cold and then backing off. It has to be a full on commitment, with your wifes feelings first, especially if you are the one who has initially talked her into doing anything.
I've been at my wife, on and off, for years to take a lover and now she finally has, I feel that despite any feelings of dread that she may become to involved with him or anybody else, I have to let her get on with it in any way she sees fit because she is the one who was finally persuaded. I also feel that because I'm the one who talked her into trying, that it would do more harm than good to turn around now and ask her to stop. Considering that she's having the best time she's had in years over this situation, I don't think it would go down very well.
I think your best option is to fully support her over this difference in her feelings and let her know that you are always there.
Got to say though, I agree totally with cumhubby, it's that uncertainty which gives the whole thing such a massive kick.

Well its a part of the way things happen,
Keeping everything together between you and your spouse Is the tricky part
I look at it as a new car smell you get it and you want to play with it all the time, and you are the clunker that is used to go to work everyday
as long as you and your spouse have made your rules and everything is in the open you should be okay. just make sure it stays that way if you start to not trust her than you will push her away or she will stop and you wont ever get it again. Keep the comuication trust and rules in check

and remember this is what you asked for so try to enjoy it as much as she is

hope this helps
Chattanooga

Man, that really sums it up I think. I had the same feeling - Telling my wife I wanted her to relax with someone else, and then when she did, having huge feelings of anxiety and jealousy. It definitely gets better mred4682, and as others have said, you have to remember it's not just about you getting a kick out of it, it's about your wife experiencing pleasure as well.
I often think that if you tried to analyse why we want our wives to cuckold us, and the angst, anxiety, and jealousy that we experience when they do, you would go crazy pretty quickly.
As long as you and your wife are totally honest and open with each other and keep communicating, then you will be fine.

of course you are all correct..... Thank you!!

wow what a day yesterday though, today may be even more fun/difficult/......

As I've said before, she has been having sex with other guys for over two years. It wasn't hard at all getting my wife into it. Of course considering i'm quite a a bit older, she is quite a bit better looking and I absolutely suck in bed, it makes sense. But this is a new faze in all of that.

Yesterday, she met the guy at the river and spent the entire day trying to avoid people so they could make out. Then after the sun went down they made out and played with each other until 10. I couldn't handle the jealousy, so I went golfing and then to a bar with a friend. She says he was all over her wanting to even have sex in the car. She loved it, but she loved even more, making me jealous and having to sneak around to make out with him. She DEFINATELY now like being free to enjoy guys on her own and she let me know she wants this to continue. She will probably meet him again today, then tonight he is set to come over to our place and fuck the cuckolds brownie out of her again.

I am SO DAMN excited all the time, but also so jealous. I'm scared, but could never ever stop her. She is SO happy. She now even wants to press some of our other limits. She wants me to wait tonight after he gets her, and let them get started before I come up to the room. I'm losing more and more control....lol.... I know I wasn't suppose to have any control in the first place, but..... its scarry putting all the trust in our relationship on her.

I guess the first part is not to go out and get takes when she goes out. I guess I should wait at home for her and be all over her when she walks through the door. Man.... its hard at times.

But at least I still get to watch their actual sex...

Ultimately though, andwhen all is said and done, the cuck must make way for the superior male. We all know that and there's no escaping it. The bull lover must become the main sex partner.
B.Kellard

Sounds like the two of you are really enjoying the life style. Keep it fun and honest..... you'll both enjoy the ride!

Do you enjoy sloppy seconds??


ps.... would love to see a photo or two of your sexy wife.
Cuck who loves a creampie.

mred4682 - You are a very luck guy. I have never been able to watch my wife with her boyfriends. My wife also could care less about having any control over me, she just doesn't care. I WISH my wife would take a lover as your wife has.

Best of luck and keep us posted.

mred, these guys are right, you just have to trust her and the situation. Face it, she loves the ability to play the field while enjoying the security of a stable home. Who else would let her have her cake and eat it too? (pun intended)

My wife just had her lover over yesterday for the first time in two months; she's been seeing him during the week at his apartment. The sex between them is so electric; I've never been able to get her off like he does (he's hung with a thick 9" which helps a bit, I think), and it's a pleasure to get to watch every now and then (every time would be great). To see the progression from their first encounters to now, knowing each others' likes and dislikes, knowing each other's bodies, it's a heady experience to watch my wife and her lover have such incredible sex. She assures me she loves me and will never leave, but she will always have a boyfriend. I'm OK with that.

She keeps me locked up 24/7, and I haven't been allowed to cum in months, but getting to watch her be completely overwhelmed sexually is worth the small sacrifice of my orgasms. Agree?!