Thanks for the positive responses
To be honest I wasn't that happy with the way that was going...the jealousy thing I guess.
I'm much more interested in the strangers as there is no ongoing "relationship" for me, them or her to get hung up on.
The problem is she is very fussy/tentative and feels she needs to know the permister to be comfortable enough to do it - which then moves it more to where I am less comfortable.
I'll get back and update things a little more shortly but it has been pretty busy for us.