No flame is intended 'guest' but I was confused over what in your post applied to us. She makes the choice, I said nothing about fluff/cleanup or bi play, nothing about cross dressing. So aside from your mention of spanking being a component for some, I didn't see the reamister to mention much of the rest.
Guess we'll have to agree to disagree about the "what cuckolding is about" in that to us - and many we have met - whether or not the wife has sex with her cuck is not the defining point of the relationship. Certainly its a core for some, but not a blanket thing for all I don't think.
Like I said - not meant as a flame at you or anything. Just don't agree.
Quoting: guest
have been reading on this forum for some time, and I think that there is some confusion over cuckolding. The basic is that the wife is having sex with others and the husband knows about it, but has no control of the situation. If a guy is "talking" his wife into it, then she is doing it to please him, and thus he is actually in control... but I digress, as long as she is making the choice, no matter who brought up the subject, I guess it technically is cuckolding, although it may be closer to "swinging" or an "open" marriage.
Beyond that there seem to be guys who are (forgive me) bi and who want to "fluff" or "clean up." Please no flames (I am not judging individuals).
There are guys who are "cross dressers" or who have some type of panty fetish and want to dress up in "sissy" clothes, this too NOT needed for cuckolding.
There are guys who like to be spanked, and this can blend into the relationship, but not needed.
There are guys who like to be humiliated, and want to be embarrassed in front of others, but this is not needed for cuckolding.
There are any number of kinks, but cuckolding is about a woman fucking other guys and not her husband for whatever reamister she may have.
My opinion, not disrespect intended, please no flames.