Wondering...

I have tried to discuss the whole cuckolding experience with my wife, but she is not interested. She has told me that she loves me too much, I satisfy her, etc. She will not even play around talking about it in bed. She is still very good friends with her ex-boyfriend, and I have heard from other people how huge his cock is. He is very respectful of our relationship, and is with someone himself.

He has come over a few times, and I have even said it was ok if he dropped in when I was at work. Not because I want something to happen, but because he seems to be a genuine friend to both of us.

He came over today while I was a t work, and left at 12:00 PM. My wife called me at 3:30, and when I picked up the phone, she was talking to someone. I asked her who she was talking to, and she said herself (she often does this.) I did not think anything about it.

I came home at 7:00, and she had gone to visit her mom. When I walked into the bedroom, I noticed 2 slightly damp spots on the bed. I smelled them, and they definitely smelled like her pussy smells.

I am ok with possibly having a cuckold event happen, but completely not ok with her relaxing with someone and not telling me about it. I am very upset right now. Does anyone think that she slept with her friend, or am I just being overly paranoid and freaked out for no reamister?

I think that if you had no interest in cuckolding you would actually be less suspicious than you are now.

I would say it's akin to watching Law and Order, then hearing strange noises outside your window.

well, she could have been masturbating.

Then again, if you aren't careful with what you are pushing on her, she could rebound in a way you don't want. If you think this to be true, you certainly need to lay off the cuckold talk for awhile, and take her into consideration (and possibly observation).
Remember, we love this, but it's a long and weary road convincing spouses, and we have to keep them in mind every step.

Both good responses. I appreciate it from both of you. Thank you!

I was also thinking masturbation. I think if she were to cuckold you, she may be in the same camp as my wife. While I know my wife is relaxing with her bf, she does not want me to watch. She tells me that she is not comfortable with that...yet, and will someday maybe let me watch.

Ultimately, I do want to, but I need to be content right now, and take what I can get. So, take your time. Don't be upset with your wife. If she did cuckold or maybe cheat on you...you asked for it. And yes she should tell you, but she may also be worried about telling you...maybe scared. Be very reassuring tward her, loving and supporting...and every once in a while bring up cuckold/hotwife-ing. Maybe even introduce some porn (mmf) into the night time bedroom activities

Good luck, and please keep us updated

A cuckold is not a man who coerces or persuades his wife to engage in extra marital sex; so may I guggest if this is your disposition that you don't try to claim it is cuckoldry. A cuckold is a man who's wife has little regard for him and chooses to have sex with other men by her own volition. Sorry guys, but part of your issue is you are trying to attach yourself to stuff you are not qualified for.

It wouldn't even have to be masturbation. My wife sometimes complains about just being "too juicy" some days. I agree with your POV though, my wife can do whatever she wants as long as she doesn't hide it. I don't even demand details, she just has to say that "Oh, a few days ago I had a quickie at the bar." No more. The first time she ever did things with people other than me, she was afraid what I would think, so she hid them from me for a long time. I was far more upset at the hiding of it than the actuality of the screwing.
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"...she is not interested."

As long as you do not pressure her, and provide a "comfort zone" on that topic, that could change. My wife at first said "I don't want to think about it." Later that became "I wouldn't actually DO it..." Bottom line is that over a few years' time, she did change her mind. And when she decided, she was so sure about it that she actually woke me up to tell me all about it, her face aglow as she talked about a guy she'd just met.

My wife was the most considerate, honest, and respectful permister possible. Yet even she lied about her first sexual experience with another man. Not because she meant harm, or even deception- it was just easier for her to say "he was cute but I didn't kiss him though I wished I could" than to try to sort out her complicated emotions and newfound passion. She had made out with him for literally hours. French kissing, sucking of earlobes, hickeys on neck, the whole bit. But she chickened out about telling me. The only reamister she didn't fuck him is that HE didn't close the deal, so to speak. He knew she was married and just could not cross that line without knowing the other party permisterally. Notable ethics, I should add...

When she finally fessed up, it was so intense... everything changed that night. She never meant to deceive, she just didn't know how to explain. We talked it through, and it was a breakthrough of closeness that very few couples ever reach in a lifetime. Totally on the same plane. Magic.

I hope this makes sense... but with women, the way their passion and girly-crushes can be... you can never rule out anything! And that's a good thing if you accept it properly...
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Breakingglass, I got the same from my wife, though she wobred back and forth over time. At first is was "Not really interested" to "The idea is nice" to "Would you mind if I took a lover?" to "Not interested" to "I'm REALLY going to take a lover" back to "Not interested." It changes regularly. Has this ever happened to anyone else?
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Well, she was at first completely *** to even think about it. Then, 2 or 3 times we talked about it while making love, and she played along in a "maybe" sort of way. It has been 2 years since it even came up, so I have just dropped it because she obviously does not even enjoy talking about it, and I don't want to make her uncomfortable. There are other things we can do, I am completely satisfied, and it will be up the her to bring it up in the future.

On another note, i really appreciate the advise, guys. Thank you!

Respecting wishes is always the best way to go. Every time I try to power an issue, it ends badly. These days, she brings things up on her own from time to time.
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Whatever you end up discovering, if you really want it to happen, don't get upset about anything you find. I was in a relationship that could have ended up with me being a cuckold but I freaked out and broke it off when she was fucking someone behind my back. It wasn't right of her to do, but given that I had encouraged her to fuck this guy that was a pretty harsh reaction on my part. I definitely regret that and have learned from my mistake. Don't get angry.