Cuckold beginning! What do I do?

My wife and I got involved in the swinging lifestyle 5 years ago. We started light and finally proceeded to full swapping. After a few years we slowed down. I really lost interest in the other women and was really more interested watching her. Only she didnt know it. So after about a year break I started hinting about how she would like just a 3some with another guy. She couldnt understand how I could want that. With the way she attacked it I would only approach it from a joking standpoint like something she "probably" fantasized about. She went from being pretty belligerant to actually asking once after sex if I really wanted that. I responded that I thought about it sometimes. She blew it off as maybe I didnt care about her anymore. I argued that was not the case. So that brings us to the present.

I am not small but also not large. I have about a 6 inch cock medium girth. But when we go out to a nude beach I catch her looking at bigger cocks. We became friends with an older couple that actually lives a few blocks from us. We partied a little together off and on but never anything sexual. They were older and she wasnt attracted to him. At least that is what she said. he wasnt a great looking guy but had about 8 inches and was very thick. They wanted to swing with us but they were not our type physically but were a very nice couple.

So one day I noticed that she would go off to the grocery store more than once in a day. It seemed strange. So I followed her the next Saturday that she did it. I couldnt believe what I saw. In the grocery store parking lot she got out and got in his car. They appeared to be just talking. But then I saw her move close to him and her hand went down to his lap. Then I saw a jerking motion as she was obviously jerking him off. This continued for about 5 minutes. His head went back and you could tell he just blew his load. They never kissed or anything. It was so casual. She then got out of the car and was wiping her hands off with a paper towel and walked to a trash can in front of the store and threw it away. She came home and I beat her by a few minutes. I never confronted her about it.

This was happening every Saturday at least. Never saw any oral sex just her jacking him off. I have not mentioned this to her. We are very much in love and committed. We have never had jealousy problems when we were swinging.

So any advice as to my next step? Do I confront her? Why is she doing this? Is it because of the size of his cock? Him and his wife are swingers and his wife lets him do whoever he wants as long as she knows. Do you think she knows? This is heading to something I fantasized about but now dont know what to do. It is certainly not a physical attraction as far as looks. Could it just be the size of his cock? I wonder if she is doing others. Hopefully someone can give advice and hopefully I can get to where I can get her to agree to do this in front of me and go further.

I couldnt relax last night thinking about my situation. Woke up early this morning and caught my wife masturbating. She doesnt know I was awake. I have seen her masterbate for me many times in past years but not on her own like this. Maybe I am paranoid as I am sure that is normal. I may confront her. Just not sure what to do and what will happen.

Well came home from work tonight and still not able to confront my wife. I am going to bring up other men again before going to bed. She will get sassy with me and blow and tell me she would never do it. But me knowing she is already beginning and maybe gone further than I think will probably just take it. Any advice? I cant believe this is happening. i am not sure how I feel now that it is.

Get a camera and film her. Then show her the evidence.

Do you think she wants to do it and prohibit you? That might be one reamister she's doing it secretively. If it's out in the open, she may feel obligated to let you do the other wife.

Also, was she the mostly the one who was not in favor of swinging with the other couple? Just wondering, it might be relevant.

Ask yourself what you really want from the situation. Right now, I think you're just reacting to the betrayal aspect of it.

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Actually the sex has been as good or better than ever. Rented a XXX last night to watch with her. It had some scenes where the wife snuck off during a weekend camping trip and got fucked by one of the other guys. Had her lying early on to her husband until finally caught and joined. I mad some comments saying that if she ever wanted to do that she could let me know. She said it was kind of a wierd comment but she started asking if I still wanted a threesome. I reminded her of our previous conversations. She said she is just not sure she felt comfortable with someone else in front of me. I reminded her of the early swinging days. She said it isnt the same because both of us were getting pleased.

So then she asked how I would feel if she were just to have sex with others without me around. I said I didnt really think about that. Then she asked how I would feel about her having sex in the guest room of our house while I was in the other room. She said I could listen.

I ended the conversation saying I had to think about it. I kind of chickened out. But the previous activities of her jerking our friend off never came up. So now I need to figure the next step. It is Saturday night tonight and we were together all day. She just went out to the grocery store to get something for dinner. I am not following her. I want to see how long it takes.

Anyway I will keep everyone up to date. Next few weeks should be interesting. I need to decide how I want to proceed.

What do you want? Do you just want a threesome or do you want that to lead to her cucking you? Do you want to watch everytime? Or would you be ok with watching sometimes? If she wanted to fuck other men without you watching her (as it sounds to me), would you be ok with that? I would think that if you want this kind of lifestyle then you must be able to compromise with what she wants too.

Here is what I would do. I would talk to her ASAP. Tell her that there is something you want to talk to her about. Take her back to the questions that she was asking you and tell her what you want. The more honest you can be about what you want, the better she will be able to respond. I would tell her that you would love to see her have sex with another man but if she wanted to fuck him alone in the spare bedroom, that would be ok. After she has done this a few times and she becomes more comfortable with it, you can ask her about lettting you watch. My own opinion is that listening to them would just as hot as watching them.

I can think of all sorts of things you can do after that. You can ask them to start using the master bedroom while you stay in the spare bedroom. You can install some kind of audio recording device close to the bed and listen to their small talk afterwards.

I also believe in that whatever you do, you do it together. Thats why I think you should be as honest as possible. She should not be jacking this guy without your knowledge. Dont cause an argument. Just say that you are aware and that you approve as long as she is open about it. She shouldnt be lying to you about "going to the store" when she just wants to jack him off. Tell her that you would be comfotable with telling you that she is going to go meet him and she'll be back in 15 minutes. Tell her you love it when she does it! Encourage her! Kiss her passioately when she gets back. Make her comfortable.

Again, let me know what you are wanting from her and I can comment more.

The thing about you being in the next room while she's having sex with another guy sounds to me like she's trying to set up the situation for you. You should tell her that you thought about it and you think you would enjoy such a scene. It has to start somewhere! At one time I was only allowed to actually peek into the room my wife was in with another guy. Eventually I graduated into a MFM 3-some. If I had not gone along with the being in the next room deal I may have never achieved the 3-some which is what I wanted all along. You got to crawl before you can walk, and walk before you run. I think your wife is giving you an invitation...you should accept it (if it's what you want).