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Thanks for the suggestion Allen. But here's my problem. If I oreder or rent an adult dvd that is specifically about housewives fucking people who arent their husbands, my wife is going to say "whats up with this?" and get pissed or hurt. What I am looking for is a more general dvd which has a hot hotwife scene in it that gives us a chance to bring it up and talk about it in a non threatening way. I dont know, maybe this isnt the right way to do it. Im now thinking that the whole chastity thing may just open her mind and the discussion of other kinks may just happen on its own.

Last night we talked about the chastity device and the reading that she did. She was turned off on the more extreme elements but she is still willing to do some of the more fun things. I asked her when she wanted to do this and she said "how about new years day?" I said "that far away?" and she said "we can do it sooner if you want". I told her that I would need relief first because I am constatly in a state of semi-arousal thinking about it. She said "ok, we will have to do something about that." So maybe today or tomorrow I'll be locked up for the first time! I dont know why but I cant wait.

By the way, I recieved one of those butterfly kiss vibrators. She will find it in her stocking on Christmas day!

Quick update:
We have to be at a family Christmas function in an hour or so and I mentioned that I have been wanting to get some time alone with her. Without looking up from whatever she was doing on her iphone she said "I think we should have sex and then lock you up until Christmas". I smiled and told her that I just got a woody when she said that. She giggled and said "well, I dont want to lock you up too long the first time". We joked a little about working up to 6 months (she wont do that) but the point is she is starting to get into it. I am being careful to make sure I give her positive feedback whenever she says somthing like that. I want her to know I am enjoying it and I want to see how far she will take it.

I can understand where you are coming from here...maybe a gangbang video? Honestly...I thing that the way you are doing things is the best way to go about it. You obviously know your wife better than anyone here...and know the best way to go about it. I think you are doing a great job and she is responding nicely.

Its great to see her playing along and giving this "kink" a chance. I was listening to playboy radio...and they had a mistress on...she said if more women acted like a mistress for thier husbands...you would see fewer problems with marriages. I agree...enjoy your Mistress...for Christmas!

At 5:30 pm on December 23, 2009 my wife clicked the lock on my CB-6000.

It wasnt as easy as I thought. We had to make love twice so that I wouldnt get hard while trying to put it on. To tell you the truth I felt sort of ridiculous putting this contraption but my wife was good sport about it. She was very concerned that it was hurting me because it looks like it should. It is actually very comfortable. I am a little surprised that it doesnt really feel like I have it on. I can feel a weight and when I reach down and touch it, it seems huge and bulky. I am sure nobody can tell I have it on.

We agreed it would stay on until Christmas morning. She asked if she could tease me and I said of course. We went out to dinner and at one point she asked me if I wanted a "piece" of bread. I said "what?" and she said "do you want a piece?" I could tell if she was messing with me and I couldnt ask because my mister was with us. Later I asked her if she was teasing me and she got a big grin. She said she would give me a "piece" if I really wanted it. Then she got another big grin and said "oh wait, no you cant" and then walked away laughing. My wife is awesome.

Good Morning

First sounds like a good positive step for your bride and you!

Next thanks for sharing and your help!

Merry Christmas to you and your wife. I bet she cannot wait nor can you to open you Christmas morning!

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Ugh, Im not sure I like this. I slept OK last night but woke up a lot due to the uncomfortableness. Morning wood is very painful. My penis fills the cage and flesh sticks out of all the slots. As it tries to grow, it pulls the device up against the back of my balls. Ouch. The worst part is that morning wood isnt caused by something that your thinking about. So I cant just think "baseball" and have it go soft. It just stays swollen and painful. My wife has offered to unlock me but I am trying to stick it out.

iwmwtcm- congratulations! I am also locked up, now 24/7 by my beautiful bride, and we are having a great time with it all. BTW, get some good epoxy, the CB will crack down the middle and can make a really nasty pinch (I broke 3 before figuring this out). Just epoxy it back together and it (at least mine have) will last indefinitely.

You and your wife are progressing right down the same path my wife and I have. She got so used to the power of controlling my orgasms and erections, she has taken a bf to keep her satisfied in the mean time. I just get to clean up. Life is great! Keep us posted, and have a Merry Christmas!

Wow! Right now I cant even imagine being locked 24/7.

How did you make the transition from locking you in chastity to her taking a boyfriend? What exactly were the events which made her realize she enjoyed controlling your orgasms? My wife has made it clear that she doesnt like the extreme aspects of chastity and that this is only for fun.

I am REALLY interested in the conversations that you had where you gave her your permission to get her sexual satisfaction from other men. Did she agree right away or was she initially appalled and then came around after thinking about it?

We actually started off with her getting interested in some light domination thru tease and denial. It was fun for both of us and the power trip was intoxicating for her. The more she got of t&d, the more she enjoyed it. Also had me doing chores around the house while locked up- she really liked that! She (much to my joy) decided she had more fun with me while locked up than not, and she started wanting to go to swing clubs with me locked up, I guess to see how I would react to watching her with another man while I was locked up. She actually found her first bf on Craig's list, then joined SDC and found a couple more.

Frankly, as much as I love her, I would rather be locked up and watch her take a big thick cock than have her to myself. She doesn't want to sneak around or date without me there; she actually likes me to be there (at least for now) to pick up the tab for her and her bf...

Just wanted to say how much I've enjoyed reading all of this, and to encourage you to continue.

Have a great holiday!

Regarding your questions, I was thinking again last night about how we started/made the switch to a bf. Brought back some good memories.

About the time she got me the CB6K, she stated that the T&D was for me, not for her, and we went out and bought her a couple dildos. One was about my size (6 x 4.5- yes 4.5" around!), and the other was larger, about 7x6". After a couple days of me being "cooped up" she declared that she was horny and it was time for me to strap on the dildo that was about my size. Results were ok, but not earth shattering and we both drifted off to relax afterward (took a little longer for me to get to relax) ;) The next time, she wanted to try the bigger dildo. Well, she has never had the smaller one since! After getting herself stretched to comfortably take the bigger rod (probably five or six times), she declared that she was tired of the "cold plastic" feel of the dildos and wanted to feel the real thing again. I thought it was going to be release time for me, but she told me about a coworker that she had a "flirtationship" (her word, but I like it) with, and they had decided to consummate their relationship that weekend. I was committed to be out of town that weekend, but she was kind enough to keep me updated "blow by blow" via texts. How nice, huh? It really was HOT to get the periodic texts as she made her quest of her first lover outside our marriage in nearly 20 years. That was two years ago next month, and it just keeps getting better!

She is now looking for a long-term bf, and I am enthusiastically supporting her effort. I would like to find someone that could travel with us on a vacation, and I could serve them both. Who knows, she might not even take the key along!...

Have a Merry Christmas and a rockin' new Year! Please keep us informed on your latest!

Thanks for everyones comments and encouragement.

After 39 hours of chastity, my wife gave me the keys and I unlocked my cock. My wife laughed as I uttered those famous words from Martin Luther King Jr. "Free at last, free at last, thank God Almighty, I'm free at last!"

We talked about what we liked and disliked about the experience. I told her I liked giving her control of my cock, and she agreed that she enjoyed that too. I didnt like the uncomfortableness of the device and I didnt like not being able to relax on my stomach. I think I will use the biggest ring and the longest spacer next time. The vent holes didnt really vent because my cock was swollen the entire time. I have 3 oval marks on each side of my cock where the skin protruded out of those holes. I think it was because the ring and spacer were too small.

We have some family stuff today but I think we will be able to make lover later. I am hoping that we can talk more about where we want to go from here. I want to try some of the dice games where the roll of the dice determines how long the cage stays on. I also want to try giving her total control, i.e. it will be her decision when/if it comes off, not just a predetermined day. I also want to giver her oral sex and maybe use a vibrator on her when Im locked up (she gets sex and I dont).

Eventually, I would like to ask her to role play with me that she has a pretend boyfriend that takes care of all her needs while I am locked. After a while of that I think she will be as close as she will ever be to considering taking a real lover.

Congrats. Take your time and enjoy the journey. In my case it seems to progress more rapidly when I just enjoy the ride and let her imagination take over. Push it and she'll push back, slowing everything down. Hopefully she will come to enjoy control over your cock to the point that she expects it. then, just hold on!

I haven't checked in little bit...but what a progression you and your wife have made. I think its great she is having so much fun with it...and you to, but to hear that she loves playing with it...just plain awesome!!! Merry Christmas to you!!!

Like I said before...you are doing everyting right here...keep up the great work, and things will fall into place for you...and for her. Merry Christmas to you and your wife. Oh hell, this is great!

P.S. I hope she liked the butterfly kiss.

Did you guys have a good Christmas and New Years?

We did have a good Christmas and New Years. Not too much to write about though. There was one down point when the wife and I had a small spat but everythings good now. Did not get back into the CB6000 yet - been too busy with a small house remodelling project.

Oh, and we tried the butterfly kiss the other day. In her own words "Its my new favorite toy"! Thanks Allen!

We did have a short chat about fantasies last night. For some reamister she has always siad she doesnt have fantasies. I think that she doesnt allow her mind to let a fantasy play out. I mentioned how turned on she got when we discussed her using a strapon on me. I asked her why it turned her on? She guesses its the whole control aspect. And the taboo nature of it. So then I suggested hancuffing me to the bedboard, locking me in chastity, and then fucking me with the strapon! She just rolled her eyes and said "you want me to do that?" It got a big laugh.

Anyway, I told her to try to let her fantasies play out. I told her to not worry about about taboos and go with her fantasies. It probably wont go anywhere. I'll have to keep talking to her about them.

Thanks for everyones support and encouragement.

You have no idea how you and your wife are paralleling my wife and I. My wife told me the exact same thing about not really having any fantasies. Then slowly but surely, she broke out of her shell. Toys, porn, and talking things out have brought out the natural in her.

The strapon thing...well that is where we have an opposite. I would love for her to do that to me...but she does not want to. Keep it going just as you are...and I think you will find what you are looking for.

Thats very encouraging Allen. I'll have to go back and read the earlier parts of your thread. Tell me again how you brought up the idea of her having sex with another man?

Update: this morning we skipped church and had sex! I gave her an orgasm orally and then while I manually stimulated her she had another simultaneously with mine. That has only happened a handful of times. A few days ago I gave her an orgasm orally and then another one immediately following with the butterfly kiss. For the record my wife almost never has more than one orgasm. So, twice in a row she has had two. I think maybe all this talk of fantasies and chastity is helping.

I am noticing something else happening as well. Im not really sure what to think of it. For some reamister she is not making any effort to give me oral sex. In fact, she didnt even touch me until after her first orgasm. Then she gave me a two handed handjob before guiding it into her. Its never been her favorite thing to do because it hurts her jaws but I am wondering if something else is going on. Maybe she is losing the desire to give pleasure to me orally.

Maybe she needs a new sexual relationship to get that desire to please her lover back.

I started talking to her about it before we were officially dating. We were "friends with benefits". She chased me for a few years before we officially became bf/gf. If I remember correctly, it was when we were watching a gangbang porn video. It was a mix of white and black guys. This one black guy, when it was his turn, slowly slid his cock into the girl...and she kinds gasped, and wiggled a little bit. She became instantly wet. She later admitted to me that she did in fact fantasize about black men ,but would never act on it. After I realized that she had this fantasy, I began to do "research" on interracial porn, bought more videos, and we watched and played the fantasy for some time. Over time she seemed to lose the interest though.

Through the process of looking at lots of interracial porn I eventually came across cuckolding. I then began to show it to her, and talk to her about it. She didn't really take to it, but did for the sake of pleasing me...indulge me for some time. It got to the point where I pressured her to much and she began to resent it. And then, what caused her to change her mind...I played on her curiousity about the neighbor. I had a dream/fantasy that she fucked our neighbor. I told her about it and then also mentioned another one of my fantasies...she said "you have a better chance of me relaxing with the neighbor, than you do of me doing...." And the rest is history.


Oral sex? Well my wife tells me that she will only do that for him now. She was never really into sucking dick, but would for me sometimes. She sucks his dick almost everytime when she goes over by him. She "loves" sucking him and not me. She says that she loves that it drives me crazy and how naughty it makes her feel. Keep making this about her pleasure and not yours...and hopefully...soon you will be a cuckold.

Like I mentioned before...keep things going at this slow pace. You are doing a great job with this.

We just had a small earthquake in Nor Cal. I checked the USGS realtime earthquake website and texted my wife to tell her it was a 3.7. We texted back and forth for a few minutes and then I checked the USGS website to find that it was upgraded to a 3.8. So I texted my wife and joked that I thought it felt more like a 3.8 than a 3.7. She said "lol, yes that 0.1 makes all the difference". I texted back "thats what she said...Size makes all the difference!" She textex back "Yes it does!"

She is getting more comfortable talking about size. In the past she would never say anything that might sound like I wasnt big enough for her. A few days ago she was kidding around and teasing. I forget the details but she implied she needed 8 inches! A tall order for a 6-incher like myself! I really need to order one of those cyberskin dildos. I really want to start fucking her with an 8-inch dildo while simultaneously licking her clit while I'm locked up in my CB-6000.

Had an intersting session with my wife yesterday morning. She has been avoiding my all week and she finally made some time after noticing I was getting irritable. We spent 2 1/2 hours having sex and talking! I came twice inside of her before going down on her to give her an orgasm (she doesnt orgasm through penetetration alone). Afterwards I told her she tasted better than normal. She said "really"? and I said "I keep telling you my cum is as sweet as honey". Over the years we have kidded around about her swallowing my cum but it always disgusted her so she has never done it. This time, howere, she said that she will do it one of these days and that is on her "bucket list" and knows its on my "bucket list" as well. I wanted so badly to tell her that her swallowing another mans cum before she swallows mine (or instead of swallowing mine) was my actual "bucket list" desire.

We also talked about some other non-sexual bucket list items and I told her that it was my goal to make sure she has every opportunity to acheive those things in our life together. I told her that no matter what her desire was, I was committed to making she she experienced it. She was appreciating what I was saying so I took it to the next level and told her that even if she wanted to have group sex in public, I would find a way to make it happen. She was definitely surprised when I said that but she understood what I was saying. Unfortunately she told me that sex was something she wanted to keep between the two of us, but that she appreciated my commitment to her happiness.

So, once again, the seed has been sown. I just have to keep watering that seed and hopefully it will grow!

Oh, two other things. First, she gave me an awesom BJ! Not something she usually does. In fact, if she hadnt done it, I was going to ask her why she doesnt like to do that to me anymore. But she did and it was awesome. She has really improved over the last year or two, even though she doesnt do it very often. She really has the whole mouth/hand action thing down. I hope that someday another man gets to experience it as well.

Second, during our lovemaking, we once again ended up with her on top of me with my legs around her and she was sry humping my ass. I said "wow, we really need to order you that strap-on"! Guess what she said? She said "how fast can it get here"?! We have some time without the kids around next Saturday and she wants to fuck me with it then! I've been wanting to sit down at the computer with her and pick one out together, but it has been hard with the kids and all. I guess I'll just order one tonight and hope it gets here. I have some codes that gets me 50% off any item, 3 dvd's, a mystery gift, and free shipping from AdamandEve.com. I'll post them in another thread in case anyone else wants to take advantage of the offer.

Oh, one other thing. My wife told me that she was naming her strap-on "Hank"! WTF???

Its a joke based on this HUGE dildo named Hank thatv we saw in a sex shop in San Francisco (Good Vibrations).

But still, I dont think I like the idea of giving something that she plans on sticking up my ass a male name. She gets a kick out of it so I wont complain. It gives me a reamister to name the dildo I am going to buy for her. Hopefully, I can get her to call out "His" name when I use it on her!

I think those seeds may have sprouted ever so little. Your farming techniques seem to be working well.

Its great to hear what is going on with you and your wife. The best advice for you...don't change a thing! You are sexually charging her and yourself. I am sure she is liking this as well.



Beggars can't be choosers...right? When you order your dildo...keep in mind not all of them come with harness. Back when my wife and I were just fuck buddies, then bf/gf...she would sometimes fuck me with a dildo. But she has not done it in some time. She says she really doesn't get anything out of it. So a couple weeks ago I bought a harness with a bullet in it. Maybe now I can get her to try it...

I love this update...I am so very happy that things are progressing for you. I am willing to be that your wife will enjoy taking these baby steps with you. Maybe building to that moment all here want to experience.

Good luck, keep it up

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Thanks again for your support Allen. I will have to check out the vibrating harness. I hadnt thought about that.

I cant believe this but I forgot to mention two other things that came up yesterday. I guess this is what happens when you dont post right away.

First, when we were talking about how good she tasted after I had cum in her, I told her my fantasy where I am on my back and my hands are strapped to the headboard. She does me cowgirl until I cum and then she scoots up and makes me eat her. She didnt even act suprised and said "I'll have to remember that"! I cant wait for that!

Second, she was asking about going to the next city over from ours (much larger) because there are a couple stores that we've been wanting to go to and because I have "birthday money" to spend. I said "yeah, I want to go to West Marine, Harbor Freight, and you wanted to go to that big porn store". she had mentioned seeing a large porn store while Christmas shopping with her mom. She said "sure, ok, which one do you want to go to first"? I said "the porn store". She laughed and said I wont have any money left over!

Hopefully her teasing you continues this weekend. And maybe she will take your ass as well.

I am hoping for a fun weekend as well. But she wont be taking my ass because we were never able to come together and order the strap-on. But she might use the "rude boy" on my ass. We'll see.
I think she has something planned, though. Yesterday moning she woke me up again for sex (two days in a row). I cant explain enough how unusual this is. I would guess we have had sex before getting up maybe a dozen times in 18 years of marriage! And most of those times were in the early years.

Anyway, the kids will be gone until tomorrow, so I am hoping for some fun. I will keep everyone posted.

Well, the weekend turned to be a bust. I forgot we had a dinner fundraiser to go to which lasted way too long. Between that and getting my kids off, there wasnt much time to do much. We did have sex when we got back home from the dinner but it was more of a traditional lovemaking session. Nothing too unusual. My wife knows I was hoping for more time together and so we made plans to go to the porn store next Saturday.

The speed bumps along the way...what a pain in the ass. But the results are almost always worth the wait.

Your wife seems to be "waking up"...She seems to be opening the door to more adventure and fun. I can't beleive how my wife went from opening that door slightly...to all of a sudden blowing it off its hinges. Watch out...hopefully your wife does the same! I hope your wifes butterfly is doing well. I came home yesterday to find my wifes out on the dresser...right next to the water proof bullet I bought her.

Great stuff...can't wait to read more!