I don't want to become a Cuck, please help

First of all let me say I know I am not a cuckold, in fact I had never even heard the word before until one of my friends told me to look it up on the internet. I had always thought my relationship with my wife was just how we were together. She has found me inadequate on so many levels I have just come to accept that she is always unhappy with me. I know I have never given her an orgasm, and we seldom have sex because she prefers to masturbate alone. On those rare occasions when she lets me have sex afterwards she will insist on being left alone while I hear her masturbating loudly in the bedroom. Also I’m lousy at fixing her car or doing home repairs so she always finds a friend or someone to do these things for a favor, which I have never asked and didn’t want to know. Since I have a low paying job we have constant money issues, and even though we can’t pay our bills she will still go shopping and blow the rent money, which isn’t my fault. Sometimes almost as if by magic she will come up with several hundred dollars out of the blue and get the bills paid, or least the important ones. I don’t ask about this either.

Recently we went to a company picnic for the business I work for, and although my wife didn’t want to go because she felt embarrassed that my job at the company was so menial, but she went anyway and seemed to loosen up and have a good time. I noticed several times she was engaged in conversation with the owner of the business, who quite frankly is a real ass hole and I was surprised he even talked to her. I am amred over to join in on one of their conversations and was completely surprised to hear them talking like old friends. After the party we left to get in her car and my wife insisted I give her the keys so she could drive. I asked her if she knew Dave my boss, and she nonchalantly replied she had seen him around. Then she dropped me off about half a block around the corner from our apartment complex and took off without a word to me. She came back several hours later with some new clothes, telling me she had a job interview and wanted to look her best. She asked if I wanted to see her model the clothes and help her pick out the right outfit. I said sure, because generally she tells me to leave her alone we are home.

She came out looking smoking hot in a tight black mini dress, black stockings and pumps. I was aghast, and asked her what kind of job she was interviewing for. She just smiled and strutted around, asking me if I liked her outfit and would I hire her if I were giving the interview? She wanted me to ask her some practice interview questions but I couldn’t think of any to ask, which seemed to piss her off. Then she tried on a new outfit, and it was just as hot, a gray business top with a short short skirt and heels. I could see the garter straps running to her stockings her skirt was so short. I could feel myself getting excited but I asked her again what job was she trying to get dressed like that and she abruptly put an end to the modeling show, telling me since I made lousy money and we had a lousy life in a lousy apartment the very least I could do was support her in trying to help out financially.

Well the next day I went to work as usual. We only have her car and she said she didn’t have time to drive me to work so I took the bus and was late. Later that morning word got out amongst the guys about the new hot secretary my boss had hired, and I got a sinking feeling in my gut. When I took lunch I casually walked up into the front office and sure enough, there was my wife! She was bending over the copier doing something and holding a conversation with another guy in the office, Steve. She was dressed in the same sexy gray business suit and short skirt and I could see the tops of her stockings and garter straps clearly from where I stood. Steve looked me in the eye and smirked, turn back to my wife and said something to make her turn around and see me. She looked at me and went right back to what she was doing, ignoring me completely as if I wasn’t even there. I stood there in the middle of the office in shock, not believing any of this when Dave came out of his private office and called Sharon in to help him. He noticed me and started to turn away, and then he turned back and asked me if I had been late for work again? I gulped and said yes, and then he motioned for me to go and wait in a cubicle. Minutes later Sharon came into the cubicle with a written warning for being late, her heels clicking and scuffing as she sat the paper down in front of me. She told me this was my second warning and next time the company would have to take “action” against me. She made me sign it told me to get back to work and left the cubicle, her heels clicking and her ass swaying all the way back to Dave’s office. My ears were burning red, my breath was short and my stomach felt like it was on fire. As I left the front I could hear the office males snickering. Everywhere I went for the rest of the work day I could feel the scorn and ridicule of my co workers, who by now all knew my wife was Dave’s new hot secretary.

After work I went out to the parking lot to catch my wife and get a ride home, thinking it was silly for me to take the bus when she was there with her car. I waited by her car for an hour at least, waiting for her to come out but she never did. I went back to the building to go inside and looked around for her but all the staff was gone. There were only a couple cars left in the lot, and then I could she Sharon getting into her car. I called to her and she looked up at me, and even though I was running toward her she started up the engine and drove away, giving me a little wave as she sped off. When I got home about and hour or so later she wasn’t there. I didn’t know if she ever came home or not. Later that evening I was about to go to bed when I heard her come in with one of her girlfriends Stacie. Sharon was wearing her business top and skirt but had changed her nylons to even sexier fishnets and her top was unbuttoned to show off her cleavage and a black bra, so she must have come home or bought new stockings. They came into the apartment and didn’t even greet me and went back to the bedroom for girl talk. I just sighed and decided to sack out on the couch. They started playing some music so I couldn’t hear any of their conversation. I don’t know how long her friend Stacie stayed but I never heard her leave. The next morning when I got up I waited for Sharon to wake up so I could ask her why she never told me she was coming to work for Dave. I waited but it was getting close to time to catch the bus or be late again so I had to scramble out. When I finally got a chance to ask her she just snarled at me it wasn’t any of my business and to never discuss our permisteral lives while we were at work together.


Well to make this long story short it has been almost three full weeks and my life at work is now sheer agony. Everyday Sharon makes me take the bus to and from work. I’ve been late twice more and she grumred to me she had to really beg Dave to keep him from firing me. She told me I had better get my cuckolds brownie together fast. She said she couldn’t give me rides home because she was staying late to work on a special project with Dave, although once she did give one of the office guys a ride home while I took the bus. My co-workers have started calling Sharon “Jim” for some strange reamister and they all laugh and joke around together. Sharon makes at least one appearance everyday in the warehouse to say hello to the guys, but she generally ignores me. She always looks hot as hell, and she incorporates a lot of her sexy club clothes into her work outfits. The guys can all hear her coming a mile away from the sound of her high heels and they put out the alert to each other. They all make comments about doing her right in front of me and flirt openly with her and I am sorry to say she flirts back.

I don’t know if I can take this much longer. It is one thing to suffer offense privately with my wife but now she is flaunting my offense not only in public but at work. This is unbelievable. What can I do to regain my wife’s respect? I really have no desire to be a cuckold, and need some advice. How can I stop this? I don’t think she is cheating on me yet so I want to nip this in the bud fast. Nothing permisteral but I don’t want to encourage this like some of you seem to want to do. Can someone please help me out with some advice?

If this is a true story, it sounds like you are a long way past "nipping it in the bud". I may be a cuckold, but there is no need for a wife to treat you that way, enless your majorly into being demeaned, which I guess some are.

Only suggestion that I can say is stand up for yourself, sit down as a couple and talk it out. If she won't do that, get a divorce, move out and find a new job.

Sorry.

If your story is true??? It's one thing to get your rocks-off occasionally watching the wife do something nasty with some other guy or chick, but, what you are saying here is "Kiss my ass - see ya later" material. Stick a postage stamp on her forehead and drop her off at your local Post Office. Let her be the pain in somebody else's ass for awhile.

Presuming your story is all true, I've got news for you: You were a cuckold long before your wife met your boss at the company picnic. She has been using you all along. Grow some balls, and dump her. Then learn how to treat women so that they dote on you. Google nice guy and Don Juan for a start. It's never too late to become a man that is desirable by women. In fact, it might even be possible to turn her around, but it's likely she is not worth the effort at this point.

This story is a bit hard to swallow at first blush. On the other hand, there is nothing more gullible than a loving husband. Ask me how I know. On yet another hand, I successfully turned a lemon of a marriage into lemonade. It was gut-retchingly painful for me and worse for her, like breaking in a spirited horse. It took six months to begin to see results, but I did it myself, eschewing any and all professional help. (Three earlier attempts to reconcile using "professionals" utterly failed.) Anyway, if I can do it, anyone can.

She has cuckolded you! Find some quite time and talk with her. If she wont stop you have two choices: enjoy being a humilated cuckold or leave her!

i agree with other authors here......this is not cuckolding....cuckolding is consensual by both party and it is no different than any other sexual act....well maybe a little extreme to some...but all in good sport and cuckolding is supposed to be sexually stimulating, kinky,maybe a little rough. but some people crosses the line between the excitement in forbidden love and out-of-control situations. i agree with valentine....leave the whore.....and i am using the word "whore" for what it truly stands for with all the contempt
use at you wife's risk

Well, thanks for the advice, but I can't just up and leave her. She is a hot looking lady and I am lucky that I marrried her, for better or worse. I don't deserve to call a woman as hot Sharon my wife so I feel like I won the wife lotto. Every where we go guys are checking her out and I catch them looking at her. Sometimes I stare right back at them just to see if they will stop. She always dresses up hot and I love looking at her when she is walking around in her heels and club wear. Watching her dance at a club with her friends or even another guy is a huge turn on. No way would I leave and never get to see that body again. Sometimes when I am at work and feeling horny all I have to do is start thinking about how she looked just that morning when she was walking around wet from the shower, or when she has her heels and stockings on and takes her time getting dressed I can get rock hard without touching myself. Sometimes she gets mad and throws her clothes around because she can't find the right panties or bra. She is gorgeous, and I must confess she is one of those women who looks even hotter when she is pissed. Even when I hear her heels clicking into the warehouse to say hello to the guys I feel that pulse of excitement because she is so hot even though I feel jealous about her flirting with them. But if I sit down and say something to her she might take it even farther just to get at me. I keep wanting to ask her why they call her "Jim" but I am afraid to. Maybe I should ask one of the guys instead and try to find out what is going on.

Dude, that's not cuckoldry, that's use. Your wife is a***ing you. Your lack of self-respect which prevents you from leaving her as also what causes her to want to use you. You need to learn how to be a man and then maybe your wife won't treat you like cuckolds brownie. You need to drop the "I'm not worthy" attitude, find some self-worth, and be willing to leave if you want to turn things around. She doesn't respect you because you don't respect yourself, and it's up to YOU to change it.

Permisterally, I think this smells of bullcuckolds brownie (as these things go, saying that you don't want to be a cuckold actually is a refreshing change, however), but what the hell - for the odd chance it's not:

What's the better life - living with a hot woman who treats you like crap, or living with a not quite as hot woman who actually treats you decent.

Seeing as you so far has chosen alternative 1, you have achieved:

a) Self esteem being constantly trashed

b) Money trouble

c) Infrequent sex with a hot woman, which by the sound of it goes to reinpower a)

d) Getting a lot of disrespect from all and sundry

e) Jealousy issues

f) Possible work issue


Of these, only c) could be marginally positive, and even that sounds to be a net negative. Ditch her and find someone who can appreciate you for who you are.

This is advise from a guy who likes to hear about losers being used and used by beautiful women, mind you.

Like the others have said, if your not able to stand up for yourself, then nothing will change, and you will not only be a cuckold, but much more.

This is comming from a man who has a drop dead knock out georgeous wife that controls me and has sex with whomever she wants, however I always get something out of it too and when that stops happening my wife and I will have a talk and try something new. There needs to be respect.

You deserve to be happy too.

Well, I must admit I am really confused by all of your responses because I thought you would tell me to learn to accept being a cuck but instead you all say to leave her and that I am not a cuck. This doesn’t make any sense from what I have read that you guys are posting here. Some of your wives are far worse than mine. Sure it is true that Sharon verbally uses me in front of our friends and especially her girlfriends and she likes to flirt with guys in front of me but that isn’t nearly as bad as the stuff I am reading here. What about the guy who’s wife feeds him Viagra then goes off on a date and ties him to a chair first, then brings home bunch of guys and fucks them in front of him then makes him suck them off and clean them? Now to me that is use. I can’t hardly believe how you guys like to suck off your wife’s boy friends and even clean them up. I would never suck another dude off even if Sharon begged me to and promised to suck me off which she never has done before. I can’t believe how you guys like to put on women’s underwear and your wifes let their friends see you. Sometimes when Sharon isn’t home I’ll dress up in her panties and stockings but I only do it because her stuff is so hot and it feels good knowing she was wearing them earlier and I feel close to her pussy. But I would never let Sharon see me in her underwear and in fact this would piss her off. I would never parade around like that in front of her girlfriends or some dude.
Anyway maybe I posted in the wrong section so I apologize to you guys. I have been reading some stuff in the Bitch Wifes section so maybe I will post there instead about Sharon. Actually I am feeling better about Sharon already because she told me my boss Dave invited her to his house this weekend for a party and he said she could bring me. Sharon said Dave has a really nice place with a pool and she went out to buy a new bikini for the party and told me she would model it later for me. So just thinking about her out shopping for a new bikini has me excited and I might even ask her for sex tonight. She has been nicer to me these last two days and she even spoke to Dave about our financial situation and she said Dave is going to let me work some overtime hours at night and on weekends to help out. My boss Dave has never even noticed me before so maybe Sharon coming to work there has been a good thing not bad. She has already been told to tone down her outfits because the other hot young chicks and even a couple of hot not so young chicks were starting to get competitive about their sexy outfits at work and it wasn’t business like. Funny because now the rule is no skirts above 8 inches from the knee and Sharon and the other girls keep breaking the rules. Now all the guys are pissed at me and I don’t know why because I love it as much as they do when Sharon and the hot chicks in the office come around to show off and flirt in their outfits. Actually it makes me proud when Sharon comes in looking hot and the guys notice her more than the other girls and talk about her outfits. Every guy there has his favorite Sharon outfit and they all ask me what is she wearing as soon as I come in. I’ve even had Dave ask me!!! I asked one of them why they keep calling her Jim and he just laughed and said don’t worry it is only a nick name.
So if you want me to post in Bitch wives or another category maybe I should because I am surprised by your response to me. Sorry I was expecting different advice. I can’t leave her like you say to because I will never have another hot chick like Sharon so I need to keep her no matter what. I feel really proud to have such a hot wife like her. Maybe the guys in bitch wife section would have different advice for me. My goal is to get Sharon to respect me instead of cucking me. I didn’t mean to offend you guys because you want to be cucks. Really I am sorry.

"I can’t leave her like you say to because I will never have another hot chick like Sharon so I need to keep her no matter what."

That's the attitude that keeps her from respecting you. So long as you believe that at your core, your woman will never respect you.

What you read here is 99% fantasy. Most of it is Femdom mixed with cuckolding.

My wife does do other guys, but not like you see listed here. Due to red pressure meds my little soldier isn't ready for battle most times so we are no longer swingers, but she still wants a hard one every once in a while. That's where one of our friends fills in. I'd bet that's close to the same story for most of the couples here.

So get the whole Cuck thing out of your head.

In other words, you got the dick and balls and testosterone so act like it!

BTW this "she is too hot to leave" crap is bullcuckolds brownie! There's an old saying, "No matter how hot any woman is some guy somewhere is sick of putting up with her cuckolds brownie"

Well, I must admit I am really confused by all of your responses because I thought you would tell me to learn to accept being a cuck but instead you all say to leave her and that I am not a cuck.


Oh, please!

You venture out in your first post that you really don't want to be a cuck and want to regain her respect.

You come off as a liar, probably because you can't face your own desires to be a cuckold, and/or hope that by requesting advice you'll at least get some jerkoff material without coming clean.

Yes, asking on cuckoldplace for advice...not to become a cuckold, to turn the wife to cuckoldry or any of the perfectly natural things to come to this place for advice (organized any AA meetings in a bar of late?).

And if you actually expected to be told to accept becoming a cuckold (these are your words, not mine), then why did you ask for advice here in the first place?


I don't mind fantasy and fraud, but Jebus Christ, put some fucking effort in it!

Like I said in my orriginal post: "sit down as a couple and talk it out." If you like the way things are that is PERFECTLY FINE!! But you need to agree as a couple that is the way your relationship will be. You both need to respect one another. You started out by indicating that was not possible and once you stop talking as a couple there is nothing else. If she cant respect you at some level, even if its agreeing that she is always in charge, then it is time to leave.

So yes I think you should accept being a cuck whose wife is in charge and let your wife know she is doing exactly what you like and she should continue and you cant wait until she does your boss and you get to lick her clean.

You seem like a very angry permister bootsie. I don't have a takeing problem so I know nothing about AA meetings, and the rest of your post is just a spew. Again I can't believe a bunch of cucks are telling me to leave my beautiful wife when they get on their knees and suck cum from their wives pussies after their wives have fucked other men. Who is Jebus? Is he one of the black studs you spend most of your time looking at on this site?

Thank you mred4682, I'm not sure yet if I like what my wife is doing. I admit it does turn me on to watch her flirt with guys but really how far should I let that go? When we go to clubs and she asks other guys to dance or even another couple I get jeaolous and excited at the same time. It seems to me she is in charge but she isn't letting me get involved. If I tell her is is okay to cheat on me then she might laugh and tell me she will do what she wants anyway, then I have no participation. I was going to talk to her tonight when she got home from her shopping but she was with Stacie and it wasn't good timing. I guess I won't see the new bikini until tomorrow.

Well, you need to decide what you like, what you don't and what you can put up with. From the way you describe it, your wife currently has little respect for you. In my opinion that should change if you want a lasting marriage, but who am I to say. The reamister so many people told you to leave her was because the threat of that may be the only leaverage you have to get back in touch with her and get some respect.

If she doesn't think you are serious nothing will change and you better get use to the way things are. Once you realize you could live with out her then you can approach her with confidence and talk about what you like and don't like, but you better know what that is.

Oh and just because my wife has sex with other guys, she doesn't "cheat" on me and never would. Cheating indicates doing it behind someones back without them finding out, which I don't think very many cucks enjoy. I took the picture below from someone elses post because it explains cheating better than I ever could.

My wife has my permission and in our case I am always there and a part of everything. That's the only way I can handle the jealousy you are talking about. We do EVERYTHING sexual together. Even if that means I'm just there watching.

Again you need to figure out what will work for you guys. There are NO two cuckold relationships that are the same.

This story is bullcuckolds brownie and you're an idiot

For a detailed report on your idiocy either I or Bootyz can be contacted for exactly why you're lame

but it has to be true its on the internet..... LOL Please tell me that makes everything I read true.

It's interesting when people do post 100% truth people don't comment, they want it to be more extreme, so I like to assume everyone is telling the truth, makes things more fun.

riprog[b]
normaly i would in this instance agree with all these H8r comments......
but fuck it.... [b]go with it..... its Gobs will and not your fault!!!!

and btw dont trash on jebus... thats all i had to say
cheers

mred4682


don't give up the faith bro mred

seems to me he is a cuck, literally. Since when did the definition change?

yup. being a cuck does not mean consensual, maybe we need a new term. a better one. we just like consensual here, i guess (good!).

you're either fake (i hope) or pathetic. change that. for your own sake figure out what you want and see if you can get a real relationship. when i read 'nip it in the butt' i was thinking "idiot! idiot!"....s'ok we all gotta learn but denial and lack of dealing with real issues is as stupid does.

hope things work out...oh boy

shut the f'k up and suck it up! You know you like it!!!

so did you find out why they call her JIm?

what you need to do is call a lawyer and file for divorce.
document what she is doing and sue her for what ever you can get.
you are the victim and get compensation for it.

Than you can find a wife you like and be happy.