need advice

My wife and I have been using a dildo that she has liked for a long time. Recently, she wanted a larger one. I am a fair size however this one is larger than me. We also have been pretending she has a boyfriend and that i have sex with her after she comes back from a date. I am the one who started this kind of fantasy however she seems like she likes it. ANyways, the other day she was home alone and I was at work. we were IMing eachother and i told her to take it out and use it. We started talking about how it was her boyfriend and she was telling me how he was doing her so good. it got pretty intense. We seem to be doing this fantasy a lot more lately. She knows that im turned on at the idea of her with another man however she always tells me that she doesnt believe in cheating or she would never do that.

I just wanted to get some of your thought about this. Is she warming up to the idea? I know its hard to tell when you dont know the permister however, are these signs of her thinking about it?

I also have been seeing that she has been watching porn. 3somes, gay, lesbian stuff. she never used to watch this kind of stuff but im seeing more of it. I just dont know what to think of it all.

Thanks in advance!

talk to her.we are very open about things.just because mine is having sex with another guy we don't consider it cheating i know all about it and particapate it is alot of fun.no cuck stuff just lots of sex dress up for her.we have never been closer than this before.we know what we both are fine and not fine with.she's thinking about it but is prob scared mine would have NEVER DONE IT without me breaking the ice about it.we both fullfill each others secrete fantasy.she loves the excitement new stuff sneaking around stuff.i LOVE to watch her getting dicked and used hard dressing her up and sending her out for fun.then theres the other stuff no strangers only people we can trust we have kids you also never know what you can catch also there is a jelousy factor .we started out with dildos also as another lover.your close just be ready.just remeber shes the women you fell in love with and will always will.for now were married and always will be we just have a few good friends with benafits hope this helps

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imasub2000,

It sounds to me like what is happening is that two people in a solid, loving marriage trust each other enough to experiment with their sexual fantasies. As Martha would say, "it's a good thing."

If your wife is watching more porn and getting more openly adventurous with you it could be a sign that she has become so comfortable with you that she feels safe letting you in on things she feels but has never been able to tell you, or it could be that she feels safe enough to let herself think and imagine things she never allowed herself to before. It could even be that she is newly interested in things that she never was before as she grows, evolves and changes - as all people do. Either way, it is a sign of a very healthy underlying relationship.

The question is, how do you feel about it? Since you are posting here, I assume you are OK with it, but I think it is worth you asking yourself. Do you want or can you handle:
- your marriage to go into a deeper level of intimacy and trust?
- to share with her, and hear from her, deeper and darker secrets?
- to support and nurture her as she grows and changes?
- being challenged by her changes and growing a bit yourself?

I agree with JBrown above that what is needed here (and in marriage all the time) is lots of honest, loving, supportive, conversation. Do not fear to share your own feelings and ask for hers. DO NOT PUSH, but rather lead by you example. And make it clear you are there and it is safe for her whenever she is ready to share and you can wait, because she can count on you forever.

Good luck my friend!
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Be honest w/ her about your desires. She likely is perceptive knows about them.

thanks guys, i really appreciate all the help and any help you can provide in the future. I will keep you all up to dat of things as they happen.

Thanks!!

Yes honest and open communication is best, but sometimes you also need to gently lead her to go down the path you want.

SalP,

Maybe she will, but be careful. This could blow-up in your face and then you may never get her to be open to cuckolding. Make sure your friend Keith knows what the ploy is and won't come on so strong that he offends or scares her.

Good luck!
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MrsBlackBlowupDoll,
Good advice. I definitely don't want my wife pressured into doing anything. Most guys would probably come on too strong. Keith is the only guy I know who I would trust for this scenerio. I've known him for years, and he is always the perfect gentleman with woman. The only way anything would happen would be if she came on to him.

well last night she wanted both me and her 'bf' inside her. We were pretending that we both cumming inside her. She really seemed turned on.

You remind me a lot of myself and my wife when we started our fantasies...she was actually the one who bought the dildo at an "all girls" party where they showed and sold "sexy" things. She said she bought it as a "joke" but I suspected differently...we started much the same as you (using her "boyfriend" and watching mfm 3-some porno) and eventually it lead to her accepting to go on a "date" with one of her admirers at work...she ended up fucking the stud and later telling me about it. I was delighted!! It was the start of something wonderful! I believe you're on the right track....and when she finally makes you a cuck, if you're like me, you will feel like you've died and gone to heaven. Good luck...you will love it!...the reality is even better than the fantasy!

she still is reluctant to take it beyond the bedroom but i hope your right! Shes in the process of losing more weight. she told me that id be surprised at what she would do once she feels better about herself. Not sure what that means though....

it means she getting her self confifence up.so feels atractive enough to shop around

hmm, you may be right. It was kind of funny because last night she had swingtown on the tv