What to tell the kids ???

Maybe for a couple of years you might be OK. I think after that you will be SOL, kids ask a lot of questions and they can add 2+2 and it ain't 4.

This is definitely a real issue to address and one often overlooked here in fantasyland. I am in a similar situation (7,5,2) although my wife is not planning on cucking me anytime soon, but I have often thought about what to do if she does. And if your kids are anything like mine, it seems that one of them ends up in our room in the middle of the night every other night, which would be very confusing to them if its not me in bed with mommy. I also travel quite a bit for work.

Option 1: Stay Away. Simply limit all activity to outside the home. You may have to explain why mommy is gone so much, but you can use things like a part time job or a hobby for a cover, I think easier than explaining another man's presence.

Option 2: The Houseguest. Tell the kids that you will be housing a man for a little while...months, a year, whatever. You can get creative with the scenario....he could be from work, an old friend, a wayward traveler. Then wife has access to him when the coast is clear. Wifey still needs to be discreet with encounters and use those locks because the last thing you want is to explain things after being caught.

Option 3: Tell the Truth. It is an alternate lifestyle, but one that is real. So you can just tell them the truth of what is going on. I don't like this option because I think it has moral consequences that can't be undone, but for some it may be a viable option.

Good luck
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timidcuck_ut I like your post. When would you use option 3? At what age would to try to explain to kids what's going on? Do you think the kids might take up where the parents left off when they get older?

Your kids must be pretty young if you can bullcuckolds brownie them with "mommy has a need" It won't take them long to figure out that mommy is fucking other men.

Do NOT expose your kids to your lifestyle. It would be tantamount to use. Although I believe cuckolding is a natural lifestyle for a lot of people, it is not something youngren she be exposed to in any way. Your youngren should be the most important thing, period. Their lives should be stable growing up and into young adulthood -- and their parents' sex life, cuckolding or otherwise, should never be exposed to youngren of any age. It causes serious harm. Get a babysitter and go to a hotel, figure out some other means, or just put it on hold if the situation can't be kept from the kids. I'm sure there are methods you can figure out, but keep in mind that youngren pick up on even the slightest thing, so don't assume "they just won't know" or that they can't figure things out.

It's not dishonest to keep your youngren from harm. Some things are simply between you and your husband, and not meant for kids. It's obvious you mean well by bringing up this question, so do the right thing for your youngren.

Here is my idea.

Put a door to your bedroom from the outside so that when its bed time and everyone goes to relax the wifes lovers can come in from the back door. Also sound proof the room so that no mommy noises escape. I think it is fine for mom to have lovers but the kids should not know about it. Let them be kids as long as they can. When they are adults they can make up their own mind what lifestyle (if any) they want to live. Have fun.

Keep it out of the house and away from kids. The psychological harm would be devastating.

bottomsupinpa
right on.

This is not for kids to understand, see or experience...period. It takes one sick fuck to include youngren. Think jail.

Kids are off limits. No ifs and buts.

lonestarlove


That's just wierd.

Orexie,

Let me state up front that I have no youngren of my own, so I am not talking from experience. But since you asked for advice, here are my thoughts:

As a general rule, your wife should not have the lovers over while the kids are in the house. Get a sitter and go out, or drop them with a sympathetic friend. The problem with some of the proposed solutions offered here is that they are simply impractical in real life.

There is simply no way to talk frankly to prepubescent youngren about this situation without talking about sex. I am not a young psychologist, but as a matter of social and cultural convention adults simply do not discuss such matters with youngren as young as yours if it can be at all avoided.
Some folks may feel heretical or rebellious towards this attitude, feeling “sex is natural,” etc. But whatever merits their arguments may have, stepping outside the societal rules on this point is very risky. In the US, for instance, the level of casual frankness regarding vanilla sex that is commonly exercised in front of youngren in some parts of Europe isn’t even acceptable here in NYC. Imagine the consequences should some unenlightened, overly zealous school or public official (no hard to find) heard anything about this? Do you really want to find yourself powerd to justify your lifestyle and parental fitness to civil servants who may find it shocking, bizarre, or repulsive? Think about the negative impact that could have on the kids. Unless you have some sort of ideological commitment to fighting this fight because you think it is in the best interests of the kids, why risk it?

No doubt I am old fashioned, but just I think your sex life (or just romantic life, or even social life) is not a topic for discussion with the kids, I’m not big on the idea of parents answering to their youngren generally. As a result, I don’t think you ever need to explain to them if there are other adults around who they are or why they are there. All they need to know is to treat their parent’s friends with respect. Also, age is obviously a factor. A 2 year old and an ***** is clearly a different matter from a 6 year old who is more likely to intuit things and remember them. Having said that, it is hard for me to believe that a lot of guys are going to be turned on by your wife breaking off in the middle because the baby woke up and is crying in the next room. So while the “houseguest” is more viable than the “truth” option, it is still impractical on an on-going basis.

So, again, my advice is to play it safe and keep the kids and the lovers under separate roofs. But she should definitely find a way. (If you have no relatives or friends who will help – and wouldn’t it be humiliating to ask – maybe she can find a lover who does.)

Good luck!
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Well, your youngren have no business being anywhere near the cuckold lifestyle... take "vacations," have the wife "go out with her girlfriends," have the kids go spend the night at their grandparents or a friend's house, but there is no excuse for running that risk of your youngren walking in on you in the act... they don't deserve to have to deal with that going through life-- life's tough enough as it is, and it doesn't need a rotten cherry on top.

I don't chime in often, but I feel strongly about this one.
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