Wife spends night with another then tells all. 100% true

Guys, It may be way too late for this suggestion, but what I don't understand is why you don't just play around with your wife. Be there and part of everything, from them making contact to going and seeing the other guy to them having sex. Turn the other guys into just sex toys and use them for your wives pleasures, and if the other guys want more out of it, find a different guy who knows its just about sex. Stand up for your self and insist that you be a part of it. You will regain respect from your wife because she will know although you cant please her sexually the way the other guys can, you still want to have a say in her life and be a part of all of it.

My wife and I have only been doing this for a couple years, but it has worked great for us. The only time we had trouble was when she went on her own. She got confussed and I couldn't handle my jealousy.

It just sounds like your problems aren't because of your wife having sex with someone else, but more her having a connection with someone else. Remove the connection and turn the other guys into the dildos, you play with. I'm sure you know there are plenty of guys willing.

If I've over stepped my bounds in making my suggestion, than I'm sorry. I feel really bad for both of you and I hope you can work it out. Its sad when something that we do because we love our wives turns our lives inside out in a direction we never intended. Keep talking and good luck.

Thanks for the comment. You haven't overstepped your bounds and your suggestions make absolute sense, but the problem in my case is that my wife meets her men in the "real world" when I am not there. We are not using any kind of contact service, and my wife refuses to do so as she is nervous about the kind of guys who use them (her opinion and not mine). So the guys are normally unaware of my involvement in the whole thing until after they have already seen her several times. I suppose that I could at least insist that she is upfront with them and explain that I am involved. Thanks again. I will discuss this with her.
Incidentally, she is out right now and told me that I would not see her until tomorrow. It is supposed to be a girl's night out but I think it is likely to turn into some guy's night in (side her). I will let you know.

I understand her concern about the type of guys she might meet, but honestly you can tell her from a couple that meets almost all the guys that way that we have found some really nice guys on line. In fact most of them have been great. Not all exactly what we were looking for, but no real losers.

Just do your best to stay close as a couple or as i'm sure you know this will tear you apart.

Wow, what started out as a hot thread has taken a rather bad turn. 3454 I'm really sorry with what has happened and I truly wish you the best. I think the best thing would be to try and ignore these cuckold fantasies for a while, and dedicate yourself to winning back your wife and starting a new phase in your life together. I admire your bravery for posting, and wish you both luck.
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Well. My fears (and hopes) were realised. She came home at 10 in the morning and told me she spent the night with a guy she met in a club and has seen previously. She hasn't let me fuck her since - said it would spoil the memory of a great night - but let me eat her out straight after she told me the guy had been fucking her half an hour previously. He used a condom, but came on her belly so I let my tongue wander up there. There is nothing so hot as tasting another guy's come on your wife - especially when she is telling you how much bigger and better he is!
We are both at the point where we just think what the hell. We both love the ups if not the downs, so we will go with the flow and just try to deal with it as we go along.

ok time for an update I guess....over past few months things haven't been working out for us. She's mainly been living in the rented place with the exception of a few nights over at mine.

She told me she wasn't seeing him anymore & we were making good progress- I started aking flowers round & dropping in to see her, telling her how much she meant to me. She was hugging kissing me & saying same stuff back.

Then one day a friend of mine who lives near her place told me he'd been round that night. I confronted her, she fessed up, told me she'd do anything to save our relationship so I told her to come home where I could know what she was up to or forget about us completely. She came home.

Over next few days loads of tension between us - she resented being 'powerd' into coming home & we argued a lot because of it. She moved out again & soon after started seeing him.

I started to rebuild my life but there was always the thought that she'd come back when she got bored. She was round one time & I saw his address on her phone - I asked her why she had it & she told me he'd asked her to spend weekend with her. I told her if she went they'd def be no going back for us.

We tried again to work stuff out bu the tension of the affair & the feeling that I had that she wanted to be with him was too much & we argued again. This time it was really explosive. We both said we were done for good & once again I tried o pick up the pieces.

One weekend recently she told me she was going away with friends - I asked her where & she just said with friends. I thought she might be going to him but what could I do - if she did she knew we were over for good.

All over that weekend she sent me texts, a few of them were quite loving - on telling me that she loved me in a proper way, as a wife should love her husband. I fugured from this she couldn't be with him.

When she got back she came round to see the kids & started to say ' how would you feel if I said I wanted tto try again?' I stopped her & said you've gone away with him - you know it's over now. Really I didn't hink she had & I was just trying to push her into saying she'd been with her friends so I'd know. She surprised me when she said 'I'm not gonna lie to you. I've been with him' I was angry & gutted. We argued. we were done

Shortly after I stared to spend some time with another girls & one night my wife turned up on the door to talk about us. She went mad at this other woman in the marital home, I asked this girl to leave & my wife & I spoke calmly for once. She told me she was devastated & still didn' know what she wanted. I told her I wasn't prepared to put my life on hold any longer - it had been 8 mnths.

She continued seeing this other guy and a week later she came to mine with the kids. I was playing with them & she went into the other room. When I went in to see what she was up to she was looking through my phone. I tried to take it back & she woudln't ley me have it. This was all very playful & in the middle of it all her phone dropped out of her pocket. I couldn't get mine back so I picked hers up & ran upstairs locking myself in a room. Straight away she started to back pedal & said ' ok here's your phone...' trying to swap back. I knew she had some stuff on there she didn' want me to see so that made me more curious. When I looked at her photos there was a pic of his bare cock pushing into her pussy. This pissed me off & I held the phone tight but showed it to her saying that's redy nice ain't it...thanks.

She just smiled & said 'have you played it then?' I didn't realise what she mean at firsyt & said 'no its a pic'. 'Oh, ok' she said. I went back into the other room to carry on looking & then it dawned on me she had film on there!

Looking through her media files I found three, 2-3 min videos of them fucking. You could clearly see her unprotected pussy getting fucked by him & You could hear her moans of pleasure. I'm sure at one point the fucking slowed while he came inside her. he started to pick up he pace after & said 'is that a first as well?'...she just moaned back 'oh yes..'. When I showed her what I found she just smiled sexily & said ' so you found my home made porn then?'...

Fucking devastating but at the same time I can't deny it still turns me on. I've lost the woman I love, the lady of my kids cos of an amazing sexual rush. My entire life's been turned upsidedown all for a thrill.

Be careful what you wish for peeps.

I'm so so so sorry for what you have been through. You are exactly right, unless people keep this lifestyle under control it can and does destroy lives.

That's why I continue to suggest to people to do everything together as a couple. The other guy can NEVER be anything more than a sex toy or you risk what happen in this case.

Once again. I am very sorry for you. I know she is the lady of your youngren, but please don't ever let her hurt you again. Move forward and be done with her!!!

In your situation I would be her happy cuckold again.
This is what you want. What we cuckolds want. Accept your place and try again.
She realized that she wanted you. It means that she doesn't want to move again but still fucks her lover. For me it is the ideal situation and that is what you originally want. You have not realized yet what a lucky guy you are.
If somebody tasted the cuckold fetish that is not able to give that up forever. Accept it and be happy!

I didn't understand clearly. Your friend fucks her nowadays or her ex lover?

but it's not just down to me victoria - if it was I'd take her back &. as long as he didn't push her to leave me she could still see him.

Reality is he completely jumped right over the mark & now refuses to get back in his box. He wants her to himself & probably because of what he's saying to her & the fact that she's getting all the good stuff with him (great sex, no hassle of daily life - he lives away so he's not under her feet all the time) means that she feels she doesn't want me...on top of that she still probably knows she's still got me under her spell to some extent.

& no...it's always been the other guy fucking her. My friend has never fucked her. he just told me hat the other guy had been round.

Hell if it was just her fucking random guys then I'd have no problem - the problem is the relationship.

That is not important what he want. The important part is what your wife want.
When my wife had a lover - unfortunately she doesn't have since springer - we made a deal. She did not leave me and our kids but he can fuck her whenever they want. And I had sex once a week with her. ( Often only handjob - but it wasn't problem for me because I'm a true cuckold)
I didn't experienced problems because of she felt love with him. I have to mention he didn't want my wife to leave us.
So I just say if your wife wants to live with you but get fucked by him reguralry where is the problem? Actually she is not decided but it seems she loves you either. So help her to decide. Or maybe you can tolk to him to make a deal.

I want this so much with my wife but I fear she would leave me for him.