Shrinking Violet
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I have a question for the the ladies out there...
I now have two lovers and a husband who is happy for me to have several lovers. My lovers know about my husband, but don't know about each other and one of them is asking questions if I have any other lovers, and starting to act like a jealous boyfriend...
How do I answer?, Do I drop him as a lover? (which could cause problems) or what The Goddess rules the Horned God
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Rodger
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Violet,
(And this is an answer from a male, sorry.)
Let me guess, it is a younger lover that is causing you problems? He is almost being possessive and is unable to sit back and take "stock" of how lucky he is?
I think you have two choices. If you want to stay with him as a lover, just remain "mysterious". Answer his questions with statements like "Wouldn't you like to know" and "That is not a question a gentleman asks of a lady". I am sure a woman as articulate as you can think of a host more. The second choice is to dump him.
And only you can balance the advantages and disadvatages of either choice.
(Tell me, do the lovers know that your husband knows about them? It may be easier to deal with the troublesome bf if that remains a secret.)
Rodger
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afwmisom
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drop him like he's hot.
baggage.
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lacuck
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Drop him and find another.
Your husband and relationship come first and your 'lovers' are just walking dildos. Remember that.
If he's asking questions like that, he's off the game. Get rid of him.
Besides, it might be more fun finding a replacement.
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essentiauk
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Drop him........
Lovers need to understand they are additional...nothing more first inclination they are believing themselves to be more they're gone
Just my opinion
Mel x
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Shrinking Violet
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#6 · Edited by: Shrinking Violet
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He did something REALLY stupid today... he tried to tell someone who knows what I'm up to, what I'm up to... Namely my husband, Johnny... Johnny's response was to laugh at him... and to tell him he had royally f*&ked up, and that I would if he was luck I would merely dump him... And I've informed him that he's on my shot list as of now... I no longer am his lover and if he tries to cause something I'll have his balls in a jar on my study table!!! and I was holding scissors at the time as well...
So the hunt is on for lover number three... and as to his age, the gentleman in question is in his mid thirties or so, same as me
Where do people think I should start looking? The Goddess rules the Horned God
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Brutus2
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Well done, anyway, Violet ! A woman can have sex with whoever she wants ! Where should you look ? Maybe in a bar or disco where there are many blacks ? Worth trying, at least... Fanatique de l'infidelite feminine
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Shrinking Violet
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I don't give a damn what colour they are... it's about as important to me as what hair colour they have...
I'm after a good size in the man, but I don't want someone who has equipment that bangs against his knees... I want a package that COMFORTABLY fills me, not one that causes me pain...
'Pain BAD, Pleasure.... mmmmm... more please' is the motto I'm following.
The man that caused me trouble was of darker hue and solid build. The one thats not causing me any trouble is someone who is of lighter skin and while (near enough) the same size but not a muscular, is treating me as a woman who is seeking her own pleasure with her husbands support... and I'm meeting this gentleman later
I want to be treat as a lady as well as a woman... if a man treats me incorrectly, his legs had better be well insured as I'll chop him off at the knees (metaphorically) The Goddess rules the Horned God
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Shrinking Violet
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I'm going to a friends place where we will be talking about what happened, why it might have happened and what I can do to stop it happening next time... there will be a few of us there as well
I taking a bottle of bourbon and some bottles of coke, then we will be going out to a club. the girls dressed as maids, I will be dressed as the Head Mistress. I am yet to see the 'uniform that has been arranged for me...
Let you all know what happened next week The Goddess rules the Horned God
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JUANITO
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The moment the lover of a married woman becomes possesive or jealous of others it is time to dump him right then and there! Young guys are great, but through experience we (wife and I) have learned that their emotional inmaturity shines through as they have a tendencly to easily fall inlove with my wife as soon as she's done getting laid by them. Not AT ALL what we are looking for!!! If only we could fit the jack-rabbit stamina and endurance of a young stud into the experience of a 50 year old lover we could bottle it and have a BEST SELLER!!
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violets johnny
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#11 · Edited by: violets johnny
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i thought i would throw my opinion in to this as well...
i got a call about week ago from a man telling me that my wife was cheating on me. i pretended to be horrified for a bit to get more info from him then i laughed a bit after he gave me details, and told him that i knew that my wife was allowing other men to fuck her silly, that he should be honoured that Vi choose him and he had just *******ed his chances of banging her on the desk again, and she was going to have his guts for garters and his balls for a change purse, then she would get nasty! then i hung up and rang vi and told her who had called, what it was about and left it with her, besides how can a woman cheat on her husband if he's given her permission to explore her sexuality like i gave to her...
i'll just say this its been a trying time doing this, rewarding in it own way. I will give this warning to those that are considering taking this path, its rocky and difficult, with more than a few pitfalls, dangers and problems. if you don't know your partner and trust them emotionally then it will end in divorce, pain, offense and use for both partners, so talk a lot about it before starting
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wifedateshubwaits
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Situations like this are one of the main reamisters I encourage my wife to have multiple lovers (not that she needs the encouragement!). If one guy tries to get too close, she dumps them immediately and usually has a replacement lined up pretty quick. Over the years, , my wife has found that 3 or 4 lovers is best with a couple of guys (replacements) that she teases and flirts with on a regular basis.
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