Told wife for first time

yeah so i sent my wife an email explaining my fantasy about wanting to see her in action. so yeah... i have really bad nervous butterflies, did that happen to alot of you guys when you came out with it. and my other question is how many had positive feedback from you wife after telling her or how many just thought you were plain nuts and were disgusted by thought? but hey i figured if i dont ever put it out on the table there is no chance of it ever happening!

I feel the same way,, I have not told my wife yet, just hinting about how good dhe would look "in action" during our sex.
so far she acts uninterested, but sometimes I think it might turn her on, because she fucks me harder.
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So what was your wife's reaction?

My wife cucked me back in 1971 shortly before we were married. Unfortunately I reacted badly and treated her badly but she some how stuck with me. Years later I discovered that it really turned me on but the damage was done. So now when I mention it she gets discusted. I am still trying to get her to do it again but so far no luck. We bought a new apartment complex and she has been staying there trying to get it in shape. Tonight is the city night out and she called and said she is all dressed up and going to see what's going on downtown. I'm sure she will be hit upon and I can only hope she will respond.
miles

I told my wife over 5 years ago...at first she said your nuts!! And sick..but I showed her all the studies on the subject of why some of us men want this to happen...she said she could see the reamisters why this turns me on but she said this wasn't for her..but slowly ever so slowly I started trying to prove I really want this to happen..at first I used a dildo much bigger then my cock..I got her to the point where she really enjoys it now..she will sometimes say to me you'd like to watch another man with a big cock fuck me..then she'll say get the toy out and pretend in your mind its another man fucking me..I told her about how I'd love to eat another mans cum out of her...many times now she will make me eat my own out of her..while saying such things as you'd like to eat another mans cum out of me..she does flirt with other men when we go out..so in these five years she went from me being nuts to her playing along with the idea...she still says that it will never happen for real..then she'll say but knowing I can have another man and still have you is very tempting!!So to sum it up...from saying I was nuts and sick to her role playing it does help satisfy my desire for it to really happen.

Yes my all means tell her..she just might do it

Well i didn't get the bad reponse i thought i would. She was pretty understanding. but said it was something she would not be comfortable doing right now. So who knows, but she offered to make a better porn of us with better angles of us so i could see what she looks like. And then after that she said then maybe your fantasy will reside. I remeber thinking yeah right, not until it happens! Cuckymu i used to use a big dildo on my wife cause i want to see a big cock fuck her. but she didn't like it and thought it hurt and was uncomfortable, and threw it away!. How long did it take for your wife to start to like the dildo? Cause i'm thinking about buying another one.

My wife laughed it off...Though she knows I'm quite serious. And, in reality, she loves masturbating to other cock on video.

The first time my wife had a large cock we knew it was big after chatting to him on the net. The first time he fucked her with it she was on the phone to me and I heard all of her moans, cries of pain etc as he got it into her. Then I heard her moaning and panting as he fucked her with it. She came home well stetched

The wife and I use to swing in our mid-40's. We're now 50 and menopause has started with her. She has really tapered off in the sex department the past year.
I told her I needed sex 4 times a week and that I enjoyed it when we use to do MFM 3somes. I tried talking her into her taking a gang bang or at least go back to MFM with our good friend. She just doesn't seem interested.

I find this odd because she use to do DP with 2 men, now sex doesn't seem to interest her.
I tell her, well then I have to "go out and find" pussy. She don't want me doing that either. Yet she wants to stay married.
This is a no win situation for me. (sigh)

One more thing. I had also e-mailed my wife my desires in great detail and with pictures of what I wanted for our marriage. She never responded to the e-mail and it took her 3 weeks to talk about the e-mail and only after I had asked her she had gotten e-mail from me.

She totally avoids the subject, even after I tell her how important it is that we discuss this.
I'm denied the fantasy
I'm denied the amount of sex I want with her, because she's not in the mood.
I'm denied getting sex outside the marriage.

HAWAII50: I don't know if this is just a stage they go through but I am having somewhat of a difficult time just like you. Mi wife has hit 45 and her sex drive seems to have diminished considerably. This is perplexing, specially since we have enjoyed many 3-somes and even she has had two men at the same time while I watched. Now when I try to set things up as I did in the past and she was always ready she just tells me I need to hold up because she is not really in the mood to swing. I don't know if she will come around again or if this is the reamister why so many long time marriages end up in divorce. I still need sex at least 3 or 4 times a week...she seems to only want it every two or three months. Someone should have warned us about this change of life business. I hope it's over soon, or at least before the marriage is over. Can anyone enlighten us? Is there a light at the end of the tunnel or is sex over for good with the ex-sexy woman who has been with us for a long time?

I'm trying to figure out what's with that? My wife used to want to fuck any good looking stranger as soon as she met him! Many times we would go to bars & lounges and she would start flirting with a guy she liked, then they would have a couple of dances, where she would be rubbing her hand over his cock....and then we'd end up taking him to a hotel room where she would absolutely fuck his brains out! As hot wives go she was SUPER! Kept me so dam horny all the time!
Now from a time on it's like she has lost her sexual desire. What gives? Wish I could figure it out. I sent her some pix of a great looking bull who was wanting to meet us, with about a 9" dick, about 30 years old, athletic and super handsome. She just said she wasn't interested right now and asked me not to make any more contacts with other men. Any other time in the past she would have been sliding up and down on that long pole as soon as she could have got him in private. I'm at a total loss. ????

Married Dom: Thank you for the information. I don't believe #1 applies as she still looks very desirable and men do come on to her...it's just that any more she's not acting interested.

#2 is quite possibly the reamister. I will have to investigate further on the Androgel you mention. I am ready to try anything that promises hope. She's gone from a super-hot wife to one that just doesn't seem to be at all interested in sex.

Thanks again.

fanatasized about it before we were married..I dropped hints for months first afterwards...planting seeds. when she admitted guys hitting on her, and I encouraged her to flirt back..then I admitted it. It took her time to understand it wasn't just gaming her, or chasing squarsh for myself. that It was all about her...and her pleasure. then she began to warm up to the idea.