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I am a 33 y/o from Oklahoma, my Fiance' is a 23 we have been together for 5 years. I am only the second guy she has ever been with. This seemed to be a cause for concern for her in the first year of our relationship as I had been with over 80 girls and her being with only two guys (not to mention her first was a 3 month relationship if you can call it that) she has always been concerned that she was missing out on dating other guys and of course sex with other guys. I have to admit in my last marriage I toyed with the idea of wanting to see my wife have sex with another man , it was a big turn on for me , but to her it was a whole other idea she refused ...flatly. To make a long story short my current fiancee has crushes on guys all the time so I began to exploit this by indulging her to talk about it, this helped our relationship both in openess and honesty. as she grew more comfotable with being able to talk with me about that I began to add spice to it by having her fantasize about sex with them, then I slowly explored the idea of her messing around with another guy as time went on we laid some ground rules. and I told her to start looking for someone. Well in all that whole process took about 2 years and she went on vacation to a popular island spot and there met a guy, and with that she called me and told me whe wanted to go ahead and perform oral sex on him. I gave her the go ahead (pun intended) and that night she tried it though not with total success but with some so I told her to give it anothershot and man did she. the next night she sucked him off 2 times and swallowed every drop. This turned me on more than I could say I only wish I had been there to see it (though I'm she doesn't feal comfortable with me wanting to watch. At any rate when she came home we relived what she had done and it was great sex. I have to say that it changed our relationship alot for the better she knows she can trust me with anything and I will not judge her she can be as open with me as she wants. And I know I don't have to worry about her cheating on me because she knows she can get my permition, this also enable me to control how everything goes down, and if needed spin things to keep it from happening, and still come out ahead. I want it to happen again but she doesn't realy want to do it again. she wants to be with just me. and to further this I am strictly forbidden to be with anyone else, though to be honest I have no desire myself. She absolutely will not have sex with another guy I tried to get her to with the first one, but she has no problem making out or giving head. Anyone else have a similar expieriance ? or are at about the same point as me?
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Well if she's sucking cock at least you are part way there. My wife won't even do that yet, so I'm no expert. But make sure she knows that you have absolutely NO interest in other women, but only want to watch her with other guys. She may be afraid that if she fucks other guys then will will expect to fuck other women. And be patient, and provide the opportunity for her meet possible candidates, such as taking her to sports bars or inviting your guy friends over for dinner, etc. Even if she won't fuck, maybe she'll agree to at least having her pussy licked.